heartshattered Posted December 29, 2007 Share Posted December 29, 2007 Hi everyone, I have been with my partner 4 18 mths now we married 4 mths ago but recently i have confirmed my worst fear that he cheated on me 1 week before he moved in with me just over a yr ago! we have had several arguements about this cause i have had a gut feeling since it happened , he has always denied anything happened til now! He says he doesnt know why he didnt stop it [as she was meant to have came onto him] but everything he has told me doesnt sound like him it is the complete opposite of how he is with me! He says he has told me everything but i still feel he is holding something back1 Im not sure what to do or feel what makes it worse is im pregnant with his twin boys! So walking away is even harder, will he cheat on me again? He says he wont But he already done it once and lied to me about it 4 a year til now , he says he couldnt tell me cause he was scared he would lose me Link to post Share on other sites
child_of_isis Posted December 29, 2007 Share Posted December 29, 2007 This is crap. The fear of losing you wasn't enough to stop him from cheating. he says he couldnt tell me cause he was scared he would lose me Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted December 29, 2007 Share Posted December 29, 2007 Why did he decide to tell you now? What excuses has he made as to why he got himself in such a stupid situation to begin with? If my math is correct, he cheated on you after 8 months of being in a relationship with you. He can't very well claim it was before he knew the two of you were invested; you were moving in in a week. That just makes it sound like he wanted a selfish moment before it was too late. Did you get married because you found out you were pregnant? Link to post Share on other sites
bish Posted December 29, 2007 Share Posted December 29, 2007 Hi everyone, I have been with my partner 4 18 mths now we married 4 mths ago but recently i have confirmed my worst fear that he cheated on me 1 week before he moved in with me just over a yr ago! we have had several arguements about this cause i have had a gut feeling since it happened , he has always denied anything happened til now! He says he doesnt know why he didnt stop it [as she was meant to have came onto him] but everything he has told me doesnt sound like him it is the complete opposite of how he is with me! He says he has told me everything but i still feel he is holding something back1 Im not sure what to do or feel what makes it worse is im pregnant with his twin boys! So walking away is even harder, will he cheat on me again? He says he wont But he already done it once and lied to me about it 4 a year til now , he says he couldnt tell me cause he was scared he would lose me Your question was "cheated on what do I do now?"....easy....get your marriage anulled. If he cheated on you this quick in the marriage...what do you think he is going to do when he realizes he is bored with the same person after a few years? Damn right he should be scared that he would lose you...he should lose you, and I think you should divorce. Or you WILL regret it later. Link to post Share on other sites
Tripper Posted December 29, 2007 Share Posted December 29, 2007 He says he has told me everything but i still feel he is holding something back1 Im not sure what to do or feel what makes it worse is im pregnant with his twin boys! So walking away is even harder, will he cheat on me again? He says he wont But he already done it once and lied to me about it 4 a year til now , he says he couldnt tell me cause he was scared he would lose me HS, sorry that you are in this mess. If you weren't pregnant you could simply walk away. If you read enough of the threads posted here on affairs and cheating one thing comes through.. Cheaters lie and deny when the affair is uncovered and generally if they cheat once, they'll cheat again. He probably 'fessed up after a year because the guilt was really bothering him and also he felt you are now in a position where you can't toss his @ss out the door. But the real issue is that he has broken your trust. Only you can decide if you want to learn to trust him and continue the relationship. My question to you is what do you want to do?? What does your heart tell you?? If you weren't pregnant, what would you do?? Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly Bean Posted December 29, 2007 Share Posted December 29, 2007 Whatta dick! For the life of me, I will never understand why people bother to cheat. Is it really worth ruining lives over? No. Will he cheat again? Most assuredly. I know you are feeling so vulnerable and confused being pregnant, but this is not a man you need to raise your kids around. As hard as it is, you do need to leave him, and leave him now. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted December 29, 2007 Share Posted December 29, 2007 Hi, Just hope for the best, cross your fingers, what else can you do? And believe him too. Tell him you believe him. Otherwise, watch Dr. Zhivago and pay attention to the wife's character for inspiration. Congrats on the twins, they'll be a bundle of joy Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
marie89 Posted December 29, 2007 Share Posted December 29, 2007 let me just say I HATE CHEATERS! It might be hard to leave him now especially as you are pregnant, but think about what life with someone you cant completely trust will be like. YOu said you always had a feeling that he cheated and he just confirmed it. Im sure that during the time that you were suspicious you felt uncomfortable. do you really want to spend the rest of your life feeling insecure. AND think of the kids as well, they will grow up feeling the tension that will be in the house. If he cheated once he will most probably cheat again. the best bet is to just get out now while you can. Link to post Share on other sites
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