yes Posted June 12, 2003 Share Posted June 12, 2003 I went out with this guy once (i had known him for several years). We had a discussion about who pays, - i told him that in my country men always pay, and that i fight with local men & pay for myself because i dont want them to get the wrong idea. This was started off by him saying that the drinks are on him. So at the end, I paid for my drink, and all was cool. But, he returned my money later - by leaving it among my stuff. I said - err, next time's on me, and he said - OK! So what's up with this paying issue? What's his problem? I know he's not interested in me b/c he's just had several dates with a girl and planning for another one (i didn't know, but it came out when we were with some friends, before he took me out). If you ask me what I want - if he went after me, i'd give him a chance, but i'm just as happy dating others right now. just a bit confused about his behavior - the paying issue, and the taking me out despite that chick he's after issue.......... tips? I already said next time's on me, so i guess i'll be going out with him again sometime soon... thanks, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted June 12, 2003 Share Posted June 12, 2003 maybe he felt like he was doing the gentlemanly thing by not accepting your money, but also being fair by agreeing to let you pay for the next round the next time you're out together. as for taking you out, either he's decided to pursue you and the other girl at the same time and wants to see which relationship comes to fruition first, or he really enjoys you as a buddy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted June 12, 2003 Author Share Posted June 12, 2003 true, quakanne... it's really as a simple as that. I'll just stick to the buddy side, and enjoy it. thanks for your reply. -yes Link to post Share on other sites
Bill Posted June 13, 2003 Share Posted June 13, 2003 When I take a friend out that is a girl, I usually pay. It's tradition. Link to post Share on other sites
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