Girlfriend went snowboarding with a group of ten and didn't ask me to go

[amerikajin]

Yes, her email was, i don't even know the words. I just got back from spending a week with her Korean mother and step father. I like everyone. That is the stupiest thing I have ever heard. I grow up in Los Angeles, I don't have a friend that is not a foreigner. So that is a idiotic excuse if i have ever heard one. I could have made my own decision if i was given all the facts.

 

I know they have phone in yosemite for ****s sake. Pick up a roll of quarters and f-ing let me know you are okay.

 

Her email is just f-ing irrogant and controlling. Basically I don't want to hear a word about this and if you can't do that I don't want to see you.

 

We don't really have different core values. She wants me to be a certain way, the same way i want her to be. The only difference is i actually deliever. I don't ask for things that I am not willing to give in return. Nor to i take from others what I can't give back. Respect, Honesty, Loyalty, consideration, etc...................

 

 

I was looking for this

 

"I'm sorry for not inviting you and realize I upset you. I didn't realize this would disappoint you so greatly. While I don't think it is that big of a deal, I can see where you would be hurt. Let's talk about it when I get back, ok? I miss you lots and hope you are well."

well that is not what i got is it.

 

Yeah, I'm beginning to get a clearer picture of where you're coming from here. I think TBF touched on something -- your girlfriend may see herself as having the power in the relationship. I know the first piece of advice would be to stop being so nice, but hell, I know that if someone really made me change who I was, I would resent her for it. I wouldn't even want to continue the relationship anymore -- that's just me. If I felt like the only way I could make it work is to constantly be ready to be the enforcer in the relationship then, well, I would quite honestly rather be single. I mean if this is just a simple miscommunication, that's one thing, but if she's just going to say "take it or leave it" then that's going to be hard to deal with.

[Vertex]

Perhaps I am just too fanciful, but so many posts on LS jump to this "break up with her!" conclusion. Yes, her Email is a bit arrogant and rude and oddly convenient for her. She's basically asking you to make the situation perfect for her by not fighting her and letting her do what she wants.

 

While I am not necessarily defending her, I wouldn't simply jump the gun and break up with her when she gets back. Dialup is more than sufficient for Emailing, and if there is dialup there is indeed a landline. Her Email to you basically gives excuses as to why she wants to further limit contact with you, by giving excuses for not only why online communication won't work, but also why phone communication won't won't and why she didn't invite you.

 

It's all very fishy. Amerikajin though is 100% correct -- culture is huge. I've dated many Asians and non-Asians, and I can say that the differences are quite substantial (not trying to generalize across the population, but I can definitely say this is true out of the women I've dated). If she's cheating on you, you're probably never going to find out about it from her. The excuses she's giving you are oddly reminiscent of the types of excuses my cheating exes used to give me... make of that what you wish.

 

Although it can sometimes be awkward for a white guy (assuming you're white here) to be at a social event full of foreigners who are speaking to each other in foreign languages, it isn't really a good excuse to not invite your own boyfriend, especially if you're already used to interacting with foreigners. She didn't even give you this excuse until after she left. Clearly, she's hiding something from you. If things were truly fine she'd be handling this much differently instead of making so many excuses.

 

People in a strong relationship after 1.5 years of dating don't make excuses as to why they can't call each other. They figure out some way of getting in contact. They try to take each other's feelings into consideration. This isn't happening here. She's making excuses left and right and basically telling you to back off.

 

This isn't something you should allow to go lightly. I know you've been dating for a long time and "BREAK UP!"-advice is hard to take because it's clear you care for her. However, you really need to discuss this with her because it's a serious issue of communication, trust, and expectation. She acted with no regard for your feelings and that's not acceptable. If she continues to defend herself at the expense of your needs, I'd seriously reconsider whether or not this relationship is going to work out for you two. A relationship, in my opinion, is for two people. It's a balancing act that is impossible to do alone. If she isn't going to be there to be forthcoming and honest with you, then you should try to focus on why exactly you're in this relationship, and reconsider what the best route would be from there.

Edited January 7, 2008 by Vertex

[bish]

Perhaps, but that's not our call to make.

 

Nothing on here is ever anyone's call to make. But its been my experience that when one partner is a partier, and the other is not...the relationship is doomed.

[AndyW]

Well I ran into her this weekend. It sucks to see her. Makes me feel like ****. It was from a distance but honestly I am thinking about moving down to the beach. I can't really explain the feeling but it is like being hit in the head with a hammer. Hurts like hell at first, and then you just feel like something is not right for a few days. That was my weekend.

 

I need to move because I don't want to be running into her once a week or every so often. We just are to close to each other and it is not healthy for me.

[Cherry Blossom 35]

Someday the hammer will feel like a feather.

[AndyW]

Life is great when I get to run into her much like again tonight. I will say excuse my words at the start of this thread. If f-ing burns me every time I see her. Why the f do I still give a ****. It just burns.

 

She is all skiny because her little Harvard 5 year is this weekend in Boston.

 

You know what pisses me off the most. She was with her ex for 10 years. Married for three. He was good guy. Treated her well. Was caring and nice. She left him because he didn't make enough money. So why the f did I think I was going to be any different. Why the f did I waste two years of my life being dicked around by this f-ing bitch who thinks she deserves the world because she went to Harvard. Who gives a f where you went to school. That doesn't do a ****ing thing for me. How ****ing dumb and blind could I possible be. Not only did I close my eyes and just let someone walk all over me, not only did I ignore all the signs and just keep hoping things would f-ing change, I also got left by this miserable bitch. She left me because in her eyes I wasn't good enough. That is some ****ing irony right there. Now I have to run into her all the time because we live less then a mile apart.

 

**** HER!

[Mary3]

Life is great when I get to run into her much like again tonight. I will say excuse my words at the start of this thread. If f-ing burns me every time I see her. Why the f do I still give a ****. It just burns.

 

She is all skiny because her little Harvard 5 year is this weekend in Boston.

 

You know what pisses me off the most. She was with her ex for 10 years. Married for three. He was good guy. Treated her well. Was caring and nice. She left him because he didn't make enough money. So why the f did I think I was going to be any different. Why the f did I waste two years of my life being dicked around by this f-ing bitch who thinks she deserves the world because she went to Harvard. Who gives a f where you went to school. That doesn't do a ****ing thing for me. How ****ing dumb and blind could I possible be. Not only did I close my eyes and just let someone walk all over me, not only did I ignore all the signs and just keep hoping things would f-ing change, I also got left by this miserable bitch. She left me because in her eyes I wasn't good enough. That is some ****ing irony right there. Now I have to run into her all the time because we live less then a mile apart.

 

**** HER!

 

Let it ALL out ! This is great for you The anger is actually at yourself but let her rip !

[AndyW]

It literally ****ing disgusts me to see her. For who she is! For what she pretends to be! Why not just say I am a ****ing money hungry whore and that is all I ****ing care about. At least then you are upfront and honest. Why ****ing pretend like money is no big deal and then leave two ****ing guys for the same ****ing reason.

 

Be just like Mom and go with some ****ing dip **** that has a lot of money, that you aren't attracted to, that you don't really like, but he will provide for you. What a ****ing joke.

 

Two ****ing years I sat there like a ****ing idiot. I know she was never going to ****ing marry me. I know she would never think I was good enough. For **** sake she told me I wasn't good enough. And I just took it all in and treated her great and I ****ing let her destroy me. Now I go to therapy 5 ****ing times a week just so I can feel okay about myself. She never ****ing loved me, she just ****ing used me because I was a good person.

 

Never a ****ing I am sorry. No ****ing shame. She ****ing disgusts me.

 

It is going to take me ****ing months if not more to be a semi-normal human again and to feel some what okay with myself.

 

I can't even ****ing talk to girls right now because I still feel insecure and ****ing horrible about myself. It is better then 5 weeks ago but how the **** I let this happen is beyond me. How the **** I let someone ****ing use me under the pretence that "she loved me". Give me a ****ing break.

 

She is getting skiny because you know Harvard people only think highly of you if you are ****ing skiny. She has got to try to find MR. 300k. I am must have been out of my ****ing mind.

 

What the **** was I ****ing thinking. She is ****ing insane and I just sat there and rationalized everything. Which makes me ****ING INSANE.

 

I ****ING HATE THE FACT THAT I DIDN"T LEAVE HER MEAN, SELFISH, ABUSIVE, VINDICTIVE ASS OVER A YEAR AGO. GOD THAT ****ING BURNS ME! SHE THINKS SHE IS TOO GOOD FOR ME. **** U

 

Do you think I ever mentioned her stretch marks, flat boxer nose, no tits, weird body, and I go even further but who does that. Who in there right mind says that **** to anyone let alone a partner. Do you think I ever mentioned anything to make her feel bad. No, because why the **** would you want to make someone feel bad in the first place but why you would want to make someone feel bad that you are suppose to love. I loved her unconditionally.

 

 

MY suggestion to anyone that is being treated even remotely poorly. GET OUT. Leave with your head up and pride and self esteem in tact. DON'T LET ANYONE DISRESPECT YOU. EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

I have people that don't like me that were never as mean to me as she was. She claims to have loved me, WHAT A ****ING JOKE! YOU DON'T ****ING ABUSE PEOPLE YOU LOVE. YOU DON'T ****ING PUT THEM DOWN OVER AND OVER AGAIN BECAUSE YOU ARE A ****ING MISERABLE HUMAN BEING.

 

I ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT IT WAS WIERD THAT PEOPLE WOULD ALLOW OTHER PEOPLE TO ABUSE THEM OR TREAT THEM BADLY. WOW, LESSON LEARNED.

 

THE BEST PART OF THIS IS I AM THE ONLY ONE WHO THOUGHT SHE WAS A 10. THE WHOLE TIME I WAS WITH HER EVERYONE WAS LIKE SHE OKAY. NOT ME, I AM LIKE SHE IS GODS GIFT. I PUT HER ON THAT PEDSTAL. EVERYONE WAS LIKE WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR OLD EX, SHE WAS HOT.

 

MY EX THINKS SHE IS THE HOTTEST THING ON EARTH. IT IS ****ING INSANE.

 

I GUESS SINCE I CAN'T GO BACK IN TIME ALL I CAN DO IS NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO TREAT ME BADLY AGAIN. THAT IS ALL I CAN DO AND LEARN FROM THIS.

 

 

YOU KNOW WHAT I GOT FOR OVER 2 YEARS. A TEXT! A ****ING TEXT. WHY NOT JUST LEAVE A POST IT ON MY CAR!!!!!!!

 

The best part is she use to tell me i wasn't good at what I do. As soon as i get my cpa in the next few months I am going to be making more then her. I didn't go to Stanford, Nor did I go to Harvard. I went to ****ing Cal State Northridge. So explain to me how the **** I am going to be making more then her yet I am not good at what the **** i do. I don't know if I am good or not. But if I am ****ty at what I do according to her, it is pretty ****ing patheic that at the end of 2008 I am going to surpass her (I am the smartest person in the world ass) in income per year. Pretty ****ing amazing!

[amerikajin]

Life is great when I get to run into her much like again tonight. I will say excuse my words at the start of this thread. If f-ing burns me every time I see her. Why the f do I still give a ****. It just burns.

 

She is all skiny because her little Harvard 5 year is this weekend in Boston.

 

You know what pisses me off the most. She was with her ex for 10 years. Married for three. He was good guy. Treated her well. Was caring and nice. She left him because he didn't make enough money. So why the f did I think I was going to be any different. Why the f did I waste two years of my life being dicked around by this f-ing bitch who thinks she deserves the world because she went to Harvard. Who gives a f where you went to school. That doesn't do a ****ing thing for me. How ****ing dumb and blind could I possible be. Not only did I close my eyes and just let someone walk all over me, not only did I ignore all the signs and just keep hoping things would f-ing change, I also got left by this miserable bitch. She left me because in her eyes I wasn't good enough. That is some ****ing irony right there. Now I have to run into her all the time because we live less then a mile apart.

 

**** HER!

 

Don't think you're the only person who's ever thrown their brain out the window during a relationship. I think this is an ego thing. You're pissed at yourself because a part of you think she got over on you, that she scored points or something. Dating's not a game or a contest; it's just a process through which you establish what hopefully turns out to be a meaningful relationship. Sometimes that happens, sometimes it doesn't. You gotta move on.

[amerikajin]

It literally ****ing disgusts me to see her. For who she is! For what she pretends to be! Why not just say I am a ****ing money hungry whore and that is all I ****ing care about. At least then you are upfront and honest. Why ****ing pretend like money is no big deal and then leave two ****ing guys for the same ****ing reason.

 

Be just like Mom and go with some ****ing dip **** that has a lot of money, that you aren't attracted to, that you don't really like, but he will provide for you. What a ****ing joke.

 

Two ****ing years I sat there like a ****ing idiot. I know she was never going to ****ing marry me. I know she would never think I was good enough. For **** sake she told me I wasn't good enough. And I just took it all in and treated her great and I ****ing let her destroy me. Now I go to therapy 5 ****ing times a week just so I can feel okay about myself. She never ****ing loved me, she just ****ing used me because I was a good person.

 

Never a ****ing I am sorry. No ****ing shame. She ****ing disgusts me.

 

It is going to take me ****ing months if not more to be a semi-normal human again and to feel some what okay with myself.

 

I can't even ****ing talk to girls right now because I still feel insecure and ****ing horrible about myself. It is better then 5 weeks ago but how the **** I let this happen is beyond me. How the **** I let someone ****ing use me under the pretence that "she loved me". Give me a ****ing break.

 

She is getting skiny because you know Harvard people only think highly of you if you are ****ing skiny. She has got to try to find MR. 300k. I am must have been out of my ****ing mind.

 

What the **** was I ****ing thinking. She is ****ing insane and I just sat there and rationalized everything. Which makes me ****ING INSANE.

 

I ****ING HATE THE FACT THAT I DIDN"T LEAVE HER MEAN, SELFISH, ABUSIVE, VINDICTIVE ASS OVER A YEAR AGO. GOD THAT ****ING BURNS ME! SHE THINKS SHE IS TOO GOOD FOR ME. **** U

 

Do you think I ever mentioned her stretch marks, flat boxer nose, no tits, weird body, and I go even further but who does that. Who in there right mind says that **** to anyone let alone a partner. Do you think I ever mentioned anything to make her feel bad. No, because why the **** would you want to make someone feel bad in the first place but why you would want to make someone feel bad that you are suppose to love. I loved her unconditionally.

 

 

MY suggestion to anyone that is being treated even remotely poorly. GET OUT. Leave with your head up and pride and self esteem in tact. DON'T LET ANYONE DISRESPECT YOU. EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

I have people that don't like me that were never as mean to me as she was. She claims to have loved me, WHAT A ****ING JOKE! YOU DON'T ****ING ABUSE PEOPLE YOU LOVE. YOU DON'T ****ING PUT THEM DOWN OVER AND OVER AGAIN BECAUSE YOU ARE A ****ING MISERABLE HUMAN BEING.

 

I ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT IT WAS WIERD THAT PEOPLE WOULD ALLOW OTHER PEOPLE TO ABUSE THEM OR TREAT THEM BADLY. WOW, LESSON LEARNED.

 

THE BEST PART OF THIS IS I AM THE ONLY ONE WHO THOUGHT SHE WAS A 10. THE WHOLE TIME I WAS WITH HER EVERYONE WAS LIKE SHE OKAY. NOT ME, I AM LIKE SHE IS GODS GIFT. I PUT HER ON THAT PEDSTAL. EVERYONE WAS LIKE WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR OLD EX, SHE WAS HOT.

 

MY EX THINKS SHE IS THE HOTTEST THING ON EARTH. IT IS ****ING INSANE.

 

I GUESS SINCE I CAN'T GO BACK IN TIME ALL I CAN DO IS NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO TREAT ME BADLY AGAIN. THAT IS ALL I CAN DO AND LEARN FROM THIS.

 

 

YOU KNOW WHAT I GOT FOR OVER 2 YEARS. A TEXT! A ****ING TEXT. WHY NOT JUST LEAVE A POST IT ON MY CAR!!!!!!!

 

The best part is she use to tell me i wasn't good at what I do. As soon as i get my cpa in the next few months I am going to be making more then her. I didn't go to Stanford, Nor did I go to Harvard. I went to ****ing Cal State Northridge. So explain to me how the **** I am going to be making more then her yet I am not good at what the **** i do. I don't know if I am good or not. But if I am ****ty at what I do according to her, it is pretty ****ing patheic that at the end of 2008 I am going to surpass her (I am the smartest person in the world ass) in income per year. Pretty ****ing amazing!

 

Andy, I want you to read this carefully and remember it - even if you happen to see your ex out on the town one night, riding shotgun in a Mercedes sports car with some hot sh*t hedge fund guru. Remember what I'm about to write.

 

Andy, can't you see what you're writing here? This is about your ego. You're looking at this as a contest in which she won and you lost. You have to frame this the way it should be framed. She didn't win anything, nor did you lose anything. If she goes and dates some guy who makes double what you earn what does that mean? Sh*t that just tells me that the next poor unsuspecting b@stard is going to have to pay her double the money you did just to keep that cvnt from whining about getting what she deserves. Look at it this way, bud...at least you get to keep more of your own hard-earned money. Her next victim won't be nearly as lucky as you are in this regard, and you already have the benefit of knowing this is true, right?

 

Dude, tramps like your ex aren't capable of loving anybody, not in the truest romantic sense. She's only capable of having an indefinite relationship with someone who continues to feed her ego, and more importantly her sense of entitlement. So that's why I say you haven't lost anything with her. She never loved you - not because you weren't good enough as the next guy, but because as it is with her ex husband, you and the next poor sap, she is strictly a consumer. What she never gave you, she'll never give to anyone.

 

Understanding that this is about your ego is important not only in terms of getting over your ex but also in terms of approaching your next relationship. There's a bullsh*t dating scene out there and I get the impression that Southern California's the epicenter of it all. There's a lot of this dating for sh*ts and giggles and also a lot of what I see as competitive dating or dating for ego. You need to stop seeing dating as a game in which you go out and try and find the hottest chick or woman with the most impressive resume. Just try to find someone who's real and someone who will turn you on while not threatening you.

[Krytie TV]

Man, I know I'm probably going to come off as an insensitive jerk here, but I just have a nagging thing.

 

Andy, I think you should stop journaling your life on LS and start dealing with your life in privacy. It's great to use resources available to you, but man, you need to step up and start dealing with this yourself... or with your therapist. You need to man up and take care of your affairs on your own. It builds better coping mechanisms that will help you later in life. Always relying on others' advice and input is a sure path to confusion and fruitlessness.

 

Take a break. Deal with it. And good luck.

[amerikajin]

Man, I know I'm probably going to come off as an insensitive jerk here, but I just have a nagging thing.

 

Andy, I think you should stop journaling your life on LS and start dealing with your life in privacy. It's great to use resources available to you, but man, you need to step up and start dealing with this yourself... or with your therapist. You need to man up and take care of your affairs on your own. It builds better coping mechanisms that will help you later in life. Always relying on others' advice and input is a sure path to confusion and fruitlessness.

 

Take a break. Deal with it. And good luck.

 

What?!

 

One of the reasons people come to LS is so they can occasionally journal their lives and say things they don't feel comfortable dealing with internally or with someone they know. Who's to say that he's not coping with this on his own? I think he already is talking to a therapist.

 

Bad post, Krytie.

[Mary3]

Man, I know I'm probably going to come off as an insensitive jerk here, but I just have a nagging thing.

 

Andy, I think you should stop journaling your life on LS and start dealing with your life in privacy. It's great to use resources available to you, but man, you need to step up and start dealing with this yourself... or with your therapist. You need to man up and take care of your affairs on your own. It builds better coping mechanisms that will help you later in life. Always relying on others' advice and input is a sure path to confusion and fruitlessness.

 

Take a break. Deal with it. And good luck.

 

But this *IS * part of Andy's Therapy. If he wants to yell out the window tonight in his loudest voice " I hate that F**** B who I wasted 24 months on of my f*** Life ," then thats what he needs to do.

 

He likely already tried drinking himself up after this , he likely tried and felt like crying , he likely suffered through some immense pain through all of this but Andy is very STRONG ! Right now he is cussing alot , lol. But hey we all cuss when were are pissed.

 

Andy I say you continue to post. We are not doctors or therapists we are just human beings who also have been either used , or dumped , or both.

 

WHATEVER your therapy is....well...that's what it is

 

This IS part of the mourning process of letting go of something lost . Well he didn't * lose * her , He gained his mind back. She was nothing to lose !

 

Keep it up Andy

[AndyW]

I am sorry for losing it last night. amerikajin is right in a lot of ways.

 

"Just try to find someone who's real and someone who will turn you on while not threatening you". (Very Good Point as well as a very good post). You are right, this is about ego in a lot of ways.

 

No drinking or crying last night. Just pissed.

 

It is time to move on and let go of the past. It is what it is.

 

From now on I am only going to post about me and my new start at all of this. I am done talking about her.

[Mary3]

I am sorry for losing it last night. amerikajin is right in a lot of ways.

 

"Just try to find someone who's real and someone who will turn you on while not threatening you". (Very Good Point as well as a very good post). You are right, this is about ego in a lot of ways.

 

No drinking or crying last night. Just pissed.

 

It is time to move on and let go of the past. It is what it is.

 

From now on I am only going to post about me and my new start at all of this. I am done talking about her.

 

Yeahhh Andy ! You know I think anger is the last phase before acceptance . Sounds like you are entering you new life now HUGS

[AndyW]

Feeling like this just isn't worth it!

[Mary3]

Feeling like this just isn't worth it!

 

Andy are you doing okay ? Are you taking care of yourself ?

[AndyW]

Up and down. I guess that will be my life for a bit.

 

I have decided to stop drinking until the end of 2008. That might seem extreme but based on how I feel and how I break down every time I drink I think it is a good idea. It is clear to me (duh) that binge drinking is not going to take away the pain that I am feeling or make anything better. Clearly it just makes things 100 times worth.

 

I am going to focus on about 15 goals that I want to get done/accomplish by the end of 2008. Some big, some small but I will get all 15 done.That is where I am going to focus my time and energy.

 

I want to put myself in a better position emotionally, fiancially, and mentally over the next 7 months.

 

These last 6 weeks have been horrible. I don't want to keep feeling this way so basically I am going to do the opposite of what I did for the past six weeks and I think I will be in much better shape.

[Mary3]

Is that a recent pic of you on your avatar ? You look so sad. I don't want to say anything except things that bring you up ! But just wondered , it looks alot different than the one you used to have...

[AndyW]

Yes, that is a recent pic.

 

The one before was in Mexico two years ago when (of course me and my ex went for my 30 bday).

[Mary3]

Yes, that is a recent pic.

 

The one before was in Mexico two years ago when (of course me and my ex went for my 30 bday).

 

You are better to keep this one on the site. The other one looks disturbing. Kind of like an empty shell of a man. I don't want to say anything negative because I want you to get better ! This pic you have now you look happy. At least you want to convey that to yourself while in recovery from the wicked witch....

[zicke]

Hey Andy,

 

I can so relate to you, however, I am the woman that allowed herself to be treated like crap. I did it for four years. On/off/on/off--9 break-ups, 9 dumpings, 1 broken engagement, 9 times moving in and out. So dude--I can relate.

 

My ex just wasn't that into me. Maybe he is confused, maybe he is just an *******, maybe he has commitment issues, maybe not, maybe he just couldn't make up his freaking mind. It doesn't matter. What matters is is that I allowed him to behave this way to me. Someone with high self esteem would have jumped ship the day the engagement was broken off. But noooo, I stuck around for three more years and 8 more dumpings.

 

He is an ass. I am pissed. Yours at least sent you a text message, mine just disappeared. Just stopped calling and answering my calls. Nice huh? After four years, 3 of them living together, I don't even get a courtesy call. Nothing. (And no, he is not dead or otherwise maimed unfortunately)

 

I guess what I am trying to get at is, some people are just broken. As much as we want to be the ones that they fix themselves for, they just can't or won't. They are just broken.

 

Revel in the fact that as low as you feel right now, and as bad as your self esteem is right now, you can feel. You can love. You will fix your low self-esteem, you will love again. One thing for sure, you will notice the red flags immediately and want no part of them or the person. Our ex's, whether or not they ever fix themselves, have not had the lesson and gift of loving someone and learning from that love. They have their empty souls, which they try and fill through other people, and it is never enough.

 

You will prosper, and become the man you always were. She is broken. Remember that.

[AndyW]

Thanks for your post. I am trying to stay up. Not easy.

 

This has honestly been the worst 6 weeks of my life. It can only get better, right?

[zicke]

Yup!

 

6 weeks is a long time...give it another 6 and get back to me. You'll be better than fine. Better to get the grieving over with now! Trust me on this, I went back with my ex time and time again because I didn't want to go through the pain of grieving. He has given me that gift. I now have to go though it. No choice. I will finally be freeeeeeee!!!! Look at it that way. A gift.

[Chrome Barracuda]

Yes, what goes down, gets back up!

 

just remember you had a life before her, you'll have a life after her.