Wife left any success stories?

[Alpine123]

I'm going to hold you to those words Chrome!!! I just recieved a card on my door from the Sherriff's department!!!! Going down to see if it's done.

[Chrome Barracuda]

I'm going to hold you to those words Chrome!!! I just recieved a card on my door from the Sherriff's department!!!! Going down to see if it's done.

 

 

Believe me man, if it aint the cop theres someone else.

 

Theres too many red flags popping up all over the place to just think nothing's going on. If you aint been stalking her why is she so adamant on leaving you???

 

Something's fishy.

 

My adivce:

 

Get the divorce, go get some new coochie and move on. She isnt worth it and she's a coward!

 

One day the truth will come to light, mark my words.

[Alpine123]

OK so now I've made it to the end. I go down to the cop shop to pick up what I think is divorce papers and its a freakin restraining order!!!! She says that I have abused her physically!!! I have not touched my wife EVER!!! She is obviously setting me up for a huge fall and it took my attorney to shed that light on me. I'm going to fight the order because it's not true and then file for divorce at the same time. I have come to believe all of you---even CHROME. Deep in my gut I feel she has found someone else and because I caught her she's doing her best to save face by defacing me. The pain really hurts when you give SOOOO much to someone and yet to them it's not enough. One little piece of info I forgot to disclose. I'm her third marriage and none made it over a year and she's only 33. I was trying to give her the benifit of the dought but after LS support and everything that has happened so recently I think I have my answers. I feel I can fight back for my self pride and of course future. I feel my love slipping for her each minute after this and I feel now I can close out this pain in my heart. I hope for all those with this situation happening at this time---Stand-by and be prepared for the worst. LS has taught me when a woman ask for space RUN!!!!

[Chrome Barracuda]

OK so now I've made it to the end. I go down to the cop shop to pick up what I think is divorce papers and its a freakin restraining order!!!! She says that I have abused her physically!!! I have not touched my wife EVER!!! She is obviously setting me up for a huge fall and it took my attorney to shed that light on me. I'm going to fight the order because it's not true and then file for divorce at the same time. I have come to believe all of you---even CHROME. Deep in my gut I feel she has found someone else and because I caught her she's doing her best to save face by defacing me. The pain really hurts when you give SOOOO much to someone and yet to them it's not enough. One little piece of info I forgot to disclose. I'm her third marriage and none made it over a year and she's only 33. I was trying to give her the benifit of the dought but after LS support and everything that has happened so recently I think I have my answers. I feel I can fight back for my self pride and of course future. I feel my love slipping for her each minute after this and I feel now I can close out this pain in my heart. I hope for all those with this situation happening at this time---Stand-by and be prepared for the worst. LS has taught me when a woman ask for space RUN!!!!

 

 

HHHHmmmmmmmm?

 

My advice get a lawyer and a P.I. you need the truth.

 

And you must be wiling to go for any lengths to acheive that end.

 

Fight the RO and divorce her ass, but before that get proof for your piece of mind.

[Chrome Barracuda]

HHHHmmmmmmmm?

 

My advice get a lawyer and a P.I. you need the truth.

 

And you must be wiling to go for any lengths to acheive that end.

 

Fight the RO and divorce her ass, but before that get proof for your piece of mind.

 

And I am also sorry for what your feeling right now. No one really wants their marriage to be over or have their spuse have an exit affair.

 

It isnt fair to you and it isnt right either.

 

You'll get through it. Beleive me on that one playa.

[Melovator]

And I am also sorry for what your feeling right now. No one really wants their marriage to be over or have their spuse have an exit affair.

 

It isnt fair to you and it isnt right either.

 

You'll get through it. Beleive me on that one playa.

 

Chromey is right. You will get through this, everyday above ground is a good day, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. Fight that restraining order get a PI, take care of yourself. You're stronger than you think.

[Alpine123]

I just heard from my W via e-mail yesterday and it was short and to the point about wanting to use our cabin and wondered if I was going to be there this weekend. She had banned me from the cabin in a restraining order two weeks ago. I had to inform her that on a return e-mail then never heard back from her. I know this sounds trivial but I have done what I think is right and listened to advice. I have just finished "Love must be tough" but I ask how tough. Throw divorce papers at her. I have not called,text,e-mail etc.. I've been working on myself, working out, therapist, work, and building my network of friends, but I can also say that this still does not fill the void in my heart from where my wife once was. May be I am in denial but I still deep down think she's not cheating and I think she needs her time but only she can answer that. I'm not sure when I can get the right order to move on or not. Do I date? Send her papers? What is tough love---I read the book but all I really got out of it was leave her alone. I'm just looking for more support in keeping my mind occupied. Thanks friends.

[Chrome Barracuda]

I just heard from my W via e-mail yesterday and it was short and to the point about wanting to use our cabin and wondered if I was going to be there this weekend. She had banned me from the cabin in a restraining order two weeks ago. I had to inform her that on a return e-mail then never heard back from her. I know this sounds trivial but I have done what I think is right and listened to advice. I have just finished "Love must be tough" but I ask how tough. Throw divorce papers at her. I have not called,text,e-mail etc.. I've been working on myself, working out, therapist, work, and building my network of friends, but I can also say that this still does not fill the void in my heart from where my wife once was. May be I am in denial but I still deep down think she's not cheating and I think she needs her time but only she can answer that. I'm not sure when I can get the right order to move on or not. Do I date? Send her papers? What is tough love---I read the book but all I really got out of it was leave her alone. I'm just looking for more support in keeping my mind occupied. Thanks friends.

 

If that cabin is yours, then deny her access!!! She barred you from something that is yours, she's gonna shag someone else where you used to stay, that right there is disrespectful. The nerve of this woman to do all this stuff to you, then calls you and ask you to help her???

 

WTF!

 

I'd help her to a hot poker shoved legally right up her you know what!!!

 

God go get a lawyer and start seperating stuff. let her know your aint playing around!!!

 

If this is the end then you need to show her that your moving on. This isnt a game!

[Rooster_DAR]

Arctic and Gunny, why does what this guy's going through sound so much like my case? Remember what my EX did to me?

(Wish I could find my original post, but it seems that it's gone now)

 

Alpine, listen to these LS members they are wise and have heard it all. When I first came here I was in exactly the same situation your experiencing, right down to the lies, deceit, and confusion. I can't even begin to explain how your dilemma mirrores mine.

 

Both my EX wife and my recent EX fiance of 5 years did the exact same things your's is doing, odd behavior, hanging out with friends and taking long weekends out of town without calling me. After going through pure hell with her seemingly narcissistic estrangement, I eventually found out she was seeing someone she worked with.

 

I went through the same questions and confusion your going through, at many points thinking I was the crazy person mainly due to her accusing me of being controlling and other things. They will do anything to obfuscate their behavior because it puts their fantasy in danger, and they will do anything to protect it.

 

I agree with the others, your best option is to put your foot down and thing about what your going to do for yourself, I would count her out at this point as well. It's very sad to see this happen, I feel for you but sometimes we just have to face that none of us are impervious to infidelity.

 

Keep us updated on your situation, we can talk more later.

 

Cheers!

 

 

PS> As Gunny stated you should look into buying the book "Womens Infidelity" if you want to gain a perspective on her.

[Gunny376]

Let me illustrate you just how devious women and the legal system can get ~ just how far the "femi-nazi's" have come. (Disclaimier ~ not to say any and all women are bad, malicious, users, and abusers)

 

Had a piece on CBS news the other night. Guy has his suspcisions his two children aren't his. He sends off for a $100 DNA kit. Sends it off, and sure as Hell? His children aren't his!

 

Yet, in most states if the man is the "father of record" for X amount of years? He's on the hook for child support for children that aren't even his!

 

In Neveda? If the "state" can't reach out and put the touch on the real biological father ~ the step-father is on the hook for child support.

 

In 1/3 of all cases where the father is suspicious of wheather a child is his or not? He's right!

 

Men still cheat more than women, but increasingly? More and more women are cheating on men. Where the rate of cheating among men may be 55 ~ 60 %? Its about 45 ~ 50 % among women?

 

In a recent case in Californina? The man suspected that the wife was cheating on him. He hired a PI. The PI could find nothing? She goes to work, she goes home, she goes over to her best friends house ~ they hang out, they go shopping, etc. Ya-da, yada!

 

They get divorce. He buys her out of the house, the real estate business, he's on the hook of $1300 a month alimony ~ for life!

 

Come to find out? She was cheating ~ with the GF! They move in, set up house, she even takes the GF's last name.

 

He goes back to court ~ saying in effect ~ she's re-married. The court rules that he's on the hook for $1300 a month until the ex-wife either dies or remarries a man!

 

These women ~ or these kind of women? They're ruining it for the good women out here?

 

She served you with an un-warranted BS RO? Or to hear you tell the tale!

 

And, I believe you're being straight you with us here on LS!

 

That being the case?

 

"RUN FORREST! RUN!"

 

I never re-married. I've replaced all the crap that the ex-wife took from the marriage with newer, better, stuff! And she took everything that was worth stealing. I let her have it for the sake of the children.

 

I've got all the materailistic crap. Got the DVD/VCR recorder, the big-screen plasma tv, the nice car, desiger clothes from the mall, the jewelry etc.

 

The loaded out ride, with heated leather seats, etc

 

A years worth of income in the bank, the retirement from the Corps, the dirt cheap medical and dental insurance, with the absurdly low deductiables.

 

You know what I don't have? Women problems!

 

At 50? I've got more to offer most women than most women have got to offer me?

 

The simple truth of the matter is? You can play now and pay for the rest of your life ~ or you can pay now and play for the rest of your life like me!

 

I paid up front, I suffered, I did without, I scraficed, I went without, I invested! And now at age 50 ~ its paying off in Spades!

 

The nut I've got crack each month ~ $560. And "No" I'm not living the lifestyle of the rich and famous. And "no" I don't have everything that I want? But? I've got everything I need!

 

I'm working to live ~ not living to work!

 

Forget this broad! Learn something it took me thirty years to learn?

 

LIVE FOR YOURSELF!

[Chrome Barracuda]

That's some sick stuff gunny! you gotta get a prenup these days I dont care cause sometimes love isnt enough!

[Gunny376]

And for the Average Joe? Neither is a pre-nup!

 

Most of us aren't Donald Trump ~ and thus can't afford to hire a entire law class of lawyers from an Ivy League college to whip together an "iron-clad" prenup.

 

In certain courts, (mainly so-called "no-fault" states ~ prenups have been ruled "null and void" because an individual (mostly women) cannot "sign away their rights" under he law.

 

Pre-nups are vastly overated?

 

In most states, the way to go is if your a man is to acquire any and all real property, (real estate, land, furnishings and appliances, etc) before you ever get married.

 

Generally speaking? If you owned it outright before you got married ~ you've got exclusive right to it after you divorce? The other half is entitled to only half of what you acquired after you got married ~ there are exceptions?

 

Say you owned a house before you got married ~ if you put the other half on the deed? You screwed!

 

Generally speaking? The best course of action for a man is as I said to acquire any and all real property prior to marriage ~ and then secure it even further with a pre-nup.

 

"Possession being 9/10th's of the law" you're only reinforcing your ownership to your property by spelling out what you owned prior to the marriage, and "what was who's and who owned what" going into the marriage.

 

And while it doesn't sound very romantic ~ the fact of the matter is? Marriage is basically a business contract anymore ~ if you understand that going into it ~ and view it through clear leneses? You're better off IMHO!

 

IMHO? Pity the fool of a man that gets married. Would you get on a plane that has a fifty percent change of crashing and not reaching its destination? I think not.

 

Marriage anymore? Is like those adds you see in the paper about being a car salesman?

 

"You too can earn $100,000 your first year! Selling Cars!

 

Yea! Some do! But most don't! 60% of all car saleman are out of the business within the first six months, 90% are out within a year (I sold cars for six months ~ so sue me! LOL!)

 

There's just enough successul couples that celerbrate their 50th or 60th anniversary to make the rest of us believe that we can live the dream?

 

My biggest problem with marriage? I can't afford to keep going to "China-Mart" and buy the same stuff over, and over, and over! (I've only been married once!)

 

As a man? All I've ever really gotten out of marriage and a LTR?

 

Headache

 

Heartache!

 

Heartbreak!

 

Child Support x's "X" amount of years!

 

And sex!

 

Hell, I don't have to get married to get all that!

 

I'd like to find myself some strong, self-supporting, independent lass ~ like Melevator. She's got her place! I've got mine! She's get's tired of me being around, hangning around? I'm getting on her nerves ~ I'll be at the house! Give me a call when you're in a better mood!

 

Hell! I'll even give her a key to my place ~ so she can hold "strange ear rings/panties that don't belong to me" inspections when I'm at work!

[Alpine123]

Well I'm still here!!! I took some time for myself, trying to get my head on straight. Work has picked up. Lost 15 lbs, been lifting and actually feeling pretty good. I've been going out on a couple of saturday nights and meeting quite a few old friends and meeting new ones as well. Seems like everyone out there has already been divorced which is a little depressing. Age group from 38-50, but all in all great people and there looking to have fun. I ran into the 52 year old guy at the bar saturday night that I caught my wife with in december. I still today dont think she slept with him but that just doesn't matter anymore. I had a few glasses of vino then confronted him --Asked him why he never returned my calls on the matter of him taking my wife away for the weekend--he told me that it was none of my business and the conversation was pretty much ended. I was apauled at him but kept my cool about all. I then ran into a girl that knew my wife and had seen her at another club the previous night dryhumping a bunch of guys on the dance floor!! That pretty much threw me over. I took off and went home. The rage, fear, pain, heartache and everything else overwelmed me. I texted my wife and told her "I'll end it monday". I called my attorney yesterday and he said we have a hearing on the RO monday then I proceeded to tell him to start the divorce as well. I feel better today, and you guys have been a BIG help. There aren't any success stories at least none to shake a stick at. These women (and men) are living in there world and not our world. I to dreamed of the 50 year marriage that's why I waited till I was 38. I wanted to be done growing up and make sure I understood life before I dedicated my entire future life to someone else. I do know I can may be fullfill that dream I think I just need to shop harder before I buy!! Gunny you make good sense, chrome hardcore sense, sadhubby straight shooter and everyone else here helping--You saints in disguise!!! Semper Fi

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[Chrome Barracuda]

Well I'm still here!!! I took some time for myself, trying to get my head on straight. Work has picked up. Lost 15 lbs, been lifting and actually feeling pretty good. I've been going out on a couple of saturday nights and meeting quite a few old friends and meeting new ones as well. Seems like everyone out there has already been divorced which is a little depressing. Age group from 38-50, but all in all great people and there looking to have fun. I ran into the 52 year old guy at the bar saturday night that I caught my wife with in december. I still today dont think she slept with him but that just doesn't matter anymore. I had a few glasses of vino then confronted him --Asked him why he never returned my calls on the matter of him taking my wife away for the weekend--he told me that it was none of my business and the conversation was pretty much ended. I was apauled at him but kept my cool about all. I then ran into a girl that knew my wife and had seen her at another club the previous night dryhumping a bunch of guys on the dance floor!! That pretty much threw me over. I took off and went home. The rage, fear, pain, heartache and everything else overwelmed me. I texted my wife and told her "I'll end it monday". I called my attorney yesterday and he said we have a hearing on the RO monday then I proceeded to tell him to start the divorce as well. I feel better today, and you guys have been a BIG help. There aren't any success stories at least none to shake a stick at. These women (and men) are living in there world and not our world. I to dreamed of the 50 year marriage that's why I waited till I was 38. I wanted to be done growing up and make sure I understood life before I dedicated my entire future life to someone else. I do know I can may be fullfill that dream I think I just need to shop harder before I buy!! Gunny you make good sense, chrome hardcore sense, sadhubby straight shooter and everyone else here helping--You saints in disguise!!! Semper Fi

 

 

Hey man, it's good to hear from you again.

 

You are right to bail on her she isnt worthy of being your wife. Look at what she's doing to herself and your marriage.

 

Keep moving on with your life. If I was you I would have beat the answer out of that old man's ass!!! lol.

 

He had it's fun but guess what it's over right? So he's a jerk and a user and your soon to be ex likes to be used. I bet she dropped him and that's why he got all pissy with you.

 

Awww his little jump-off left him for someone younger??? lol boo-hoo.

 

The thing is you need to open your eyes there's a whole world of beautiful and faithful women out there. But once you get over the grief of your marriage ending you'll be ready.

 

Get the divorce done, then start dating. You'll be fine.

 

What else is going on with you?

[Alpine123]

Chrome, my man!!! Thanks for being there. Rough night last night ---going back and forth wondering if I'm doing the right thing but then realizing --DO WE EVER KNOW!! You hit it. There's gotta be some woman out there that respects relationships and is willing to uphold the faith of one. I just sit back and look and what I gave and my friends laugh and say dude you just treated her to good --you should of treated her like sh**t and she would of stayed!!! I laughed briefly. When a man works as hard as I or we do at both life and relationships and then has it thrown right back at us as if we didn't do anything I swear it's the most hurtfull feeling I think a man can experience---but the true test is if we ,can stand back up and take the next punch!!

[sadhubby]

thanks alpine for calling me a straight shooter most people say that about me im glad it comes across here to. by the way fellas why dont me alpine gunny jt and chrome meet for beers sometime lol. i friggin love you guys .and by the way i just discovered my stbxw has a profile up on grirl to girl A LESBIAN SIGHT !!! WTF she is bi curious i found somthing like that 3 years ago but brushed it off . wow i was married to a lie for 8yrs omg.

[sandflea]

Chrome, my man!!! Thanks for being there. Rough night last night ---going back and forth wondering if I'm doing the right thing but then realizing --DO WE EVER KNOW!! You hit it. There's gotta be some woman out there that respects relationships and is willing to uphold the faith of one. I just sit back and look and what I gave and my friends laugh and say dude you just treated her to good --you should of treated her like sh**t and she would of stayed!!! I laughed briefly. When a man works as hard as I or we do at both life and relationships and then has it thrown right back at us as if we didn't do anything I swear it's the most hurtfull feeling I think a man can experience---but the true test is if we ,can stand back up and take the next punch!!

 

Hi Alpine - been there, done that.

 

You need to initiate divorce procedures by contacting a lawyer, and starting to describe what you'd like to have of your marital property. That's anything you guys bought while you were married.

 

Smile at her the next time you see her. Don't say a word. Refer to No Foolin's recent post. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/?highlight=foolin

 

When she is served, she'll understand exactly how much space you are giving her.

 

Oh, one more thing - all her family, friends and co workers that are covering for her - they're not your friends. Sorry, fella. You gotta ride this one out on those two stones of yours.

 

You can do this. It's totally possible to reclaim your life, meet someone new (who wants the "space" right next to YOU!) - and, in general, thrive.

 

Chin up. Call the lawyer today. Get a referral from a buddy who's been through this. I know a GREAT lawyer in VA.

 

SF

[Alpine123]

Thanks sandflead--I read that post and the NC thing I feel IS very important but on the same token is VERY hard to do. I never got a reason why she left. I haven't spoken or seen her for over 7 weeks, (besides my text last weekend that I was filing monday) and it just sucks not knowing why!! I'm getting to the point that I don't want to know but it's been a very rough road. I would just like to hear it from her. Hell --even if it was she just she didn't love me anymore---something is better than nothing. I guess I 'm lucky this happened sooner than later. Like SH said 8 year lie. That is harsh. Hey SH, JT's got a plane I'm taking you up on the beer offer!!!

[sandflea]

Alpine - there really may not be a "why". I watched a woman who I considered one of the most wise, peaceful, together and at times divine people I've met - throw herself at another guy, and I kept asking myself "why". "How could she?". I even asked her - as I'm sure you've done - "what the hell did I do?". I grovelled and pleaded and bargained. It only earned me her contempt.

 

She did this for her reasons - some may be noble, some may be incredible vain, and honestly, she may not really know. She may have agonized over this, or just "freaked". Who knows. It's so hard when we see someone we love take a nose dive, and not look back. But, my friend - it is what it is... It's done, and now that she's violated your trust, rejected your love, and broken your heart, trust me - you don't want her back. It would NEVER be the same.

 

Just try to listen to EVERYONE on this forum who are telling you that it will get better, and it's OK. I know it doesn't seem like it - but, sure enough - you'll be smiling again.

 

And, NO - you won't be alone forever.

 

I wish I had a better answer... I wish it was easier, man. Hang in there.

[Chrome Barracuda]

Alpine - there really may not be a "why". I watched a woman who I considered one of the most wise, peaceful, together and at times divine people I've met - throw herself at another guy, and I kept asking myself "why". "How could she?". I even asked her - as I'm sure you've done - "what the hell did I do?". I grovelled and pleaded and bargained. It only earned me her contempt.

 

She did this for her reasons - some may be noble, some may be incredible vain, and honestly, she may not really know. She may have agonized over this, or just "freaked". Who knows. It's so hard when we see someone we love take a nose dive, and not look back. But, my friend - it is what it is... It's done, and now that she's violated your trust, rejected your love, and broken your heart, trust me - you don't want her back. It would NEVER be the same.

 

Just try to listen to EVERYONE on this forum who are telling you that it will get better, and it's OK. I know it doesn't seem like it - but, sure enough - you'll be smiling again.

 

And, NO - you won't be alone forever.

 

I wish I had a better answer... I wish it was easier, man. Hang in there.

 

That's exactly what I said to my ex.

 

Why would I take you back, So you could do it again? What's the point?

[twice_shy]

I was looking for some books on the web and came across this web site. I ended up reading threads for hours. I have a similar story to everyone here but I just suppose I need to share mine to may be get some advice to ensure I'm doing all that I can. My wife moved out of our home two days before x-mas for reasons un-benounced to me. we have been together for three years plus and married 1 year in November. I've tried to talk with her but she says she needs space, her Mom says she needs space, her Step-dad says she needs space, and friends etc... get my point. I'm not sure what space is.

 

Especially if she is partying with "friends", space usually means they want to mess around with other men. Not saying this to hurt you man. I have been in your shoes, believe me.

 

My gut tells me she was either cheating or wants to.

 

 

I'm starting the no contact thing but just can't bear to think of the un-evitable of her not coming back. Please help! Tell me someone got there wife back.

 

Unless I'm wrong, if she is messing around on you, why would you want her back? If she is cheating, or wants another man or other men, then you asked "any success stories?". If what I say is true, then the success story IS that she is gone. Because if what I say is true, you deserve better.

[twice_shy]

Almost like following a script:

 

1. Man takes one across the bow and stern!!! Hits some rough water and times. Stuggling, mentally, emotionally, pyschologically ~ income takes a dip. Has to tighten the belt.

 

2. Wife starts running with single women

 

3. Wife longs for single life ~ and likes all the fun and attention she's getting

 

4. Husband/BF isn't a fun by comparission ~ donwright dull

 

5. Wife either begins EA or PA or thinking seriously about.

 

6. All of sudden? Wife needs space.

 

Been there, done that, got the coffee cup, the beer stein, pictures and poster!

 

I'd kicked her to the curb when the partying started!

 

Don't write her, text her, call her, send her cards, letters, flowers ~ not only NC ~ but in so far as she's concerned she's nothing but a memory, and you've fallen off the planet!

 

No begging, whinning, pleading, crying ~ zilch, nadda, nothing. She's emotionally bankrupt ~ and you've just withdrawn everything you have from her bank!

 

Take back your life and control of your life

 

Let her know your filing for divorce ~ no negotation, bargining ~ nothing and then shut up. She tries to contact you? Tell her to speak to your attorney!

 

If you want? You might tell her,........................."You've got thirty days to make up your mind! Thirty days and that's it! After that? There's no coming back.............................EVER! After thrity days? I walk for good. We're not going to be friends, buddies, pals, sidekicks. In thirty days? I'm going to find someone who can appreciate me for who I am and what I am and what I've got to offer!"

 

Damn man, if you didn't hit the nail on the head with that script!!

[Alpine123]

You know Flea the more and more I think about it I'm not sure if I could take her back--- like you said, she has put some serious water under my bridge and I wouldn't know how to structure our marriage after this episode. I have had a few people (my therapist is one) told me it's a big possibility she could be bi-polar with all the symtoms I have told her about my wife. I do think sometimes that I'm looking for an excuse TOO take her back, like a medical condition. SH**T ---I just re-read this post and realized I'm trying make escuses for her. Medical, Mental, infidelity, or whatever, your right I just need to haul ass with my hair on fire past this marriage so it can be over. Monday is a big day for me. Fighting her on my RO that she put on me and every bit of it is a blaten lie. Then if I played my cards right she should get served for the divorce around V-day!!!!

[sandflea]

You know Flea the more and more I think about it I'm not sure if I could take her back--- like you said, she has put some serious water under my bridge and I wouldn't know how to structure our marriage after this episode. I have had a few people (my therapist is one) told me it's a big possibility she could be bi-polar with all the symtoms I have told her about my wife. I do think sometimes that I'm looking for an excuse TOO take her back, like a medical condition. SH**T ---I just re-read this post and realized I'm trying make escuses for her. Medical, Mental, infidelity, or whatever, your right I just need to haul ass with my hair on fire past this marriage so it can be over. Monday is a big day for me. Fighting her on my RO that she put on me and every bit of it is a blaten lie. Then if I played my cards right she should get served for the divorce around V-day!!!!

 

Alpine - my man, you AMAZE ME! I cannot think of a more appropriate valentine for this woman than being served divorce papers! You could even include some cheap flowers - so first, she thinks you're begging her back.

 

Lord (wipes tear from eye...). Boys - I think he's got it! This is fantastic~!!!

 

Let's pull together some funds for some good scotch for old Alpine!

 

Congratulations! You have just reclaimed your power.

 

SF

[Blue Eyed Brain]

Smile at her the next time you see her. Don't say a word. Refer to No Foolin's recent post. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/?highlight=foolin

 

When she is served, she'll understand exactly how much space you are giving her.

 

Oh, one more thing - all her family, friends and co workers that are covering for her - they're not your friends. Sorry, fella. You gotta ride this one out on those two stones of yours.

 

You can do this. It's totally possible to reclaim your life, meet someone new (who wants the "space" right next to YOU!) - and, in general, thrive.

 

Chin up. Call the lawyer today. Get a referral from a buddy who's been through this. I know a GREAT lawyer in VA.

 

SF

 

Sandflea - Thanks for the link to No Foolin' - That should be the LS Commandments.....! Everything he said is comprehensively true.

 

I need to post that on my wall for daily reference.

 

OP - Just know that women hurt, too. We are on this board and we do feel the hurt and pain of lost love. But be known, that there are good women as there are good men. You just have to be patient and sift through all the duds.