mistieyed Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Have you ever had the feeling you were the last "normal" person out there....that is where I am at this point. I am not the type of person that hits the clubs and am finding I am not meeting men that don't bring a tractor trailer full of baggage with them. I know it is said that people attract certain types, but I truly don't want this phase to continue. So, I recently moved to a new state and am trying to find a great way to meet men in their 30s and early 40s. Personally, I could care less if they are doctors or carpenters, just someone of substance and good old fashioned morals/values. Do they still exist? if so, where do I meet them? Any thoughts (from men or women) would be great - thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Yes . Absolutely. The secret is to go where you enjoy being ( like say you enjoy hiking ) and you join a hiking club. There you will meet men who also has the same interest as you and there is the base of your interest. You might enjoy joining Habitat for Humanity. Building homes for the less fortunate. Great guys might be struggling out in the sun and you are right next to them Just find good interests. ( Forget clubs and bars ) I have , lol.....and your mutual interests will mingle into a great friendship or more Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 you may come off bchy, I hope you dont say this when talking to men or even think it, might want to watch that when trying to meet new people... just a thought... if you dont like bars or clubs... try a lounge... Link to post Share on other sites
wergo Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Yes . Absolutely. The secret is to go where you enjoy being . There you will meet men who also has the same interest as you and there is the base of your interest. You might enjoy joining Habitat for Humanity. Building homes for the less fortunate. Great guys might be struggling out in the sun and you are right next to them Just find good interests. ( Forget clubs and bars ) I have , lol.....and your mutual interests will mingle into a great friendship or more Works better in theory than in practise. 95% of the people you'll meet in shared interest groups (and there are precious few of those) are already married or in relationships. And 99% of the people you'll meet volunteering are either in relationships or are high school students hoping to pad their applications for college. I've been following the "mutual interests will mingle into a grea friendship or more" path for more than two decades now and it hasn't worked once yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Have you ever had the feeling you were the last "normal" person out there....that is where I am at this point. I am not the type of person that hits the clubs and am finding I am not meeting men that don't bring a tractor trailer full of baggage with them. I know it is said that people attract certain types, but I truly don't want this phase to continue. So, I recently moved to a new state and am trying to find a great way to meet men in their 30s and early 40s. Personally, I could care less if they are doctors or carpenters, just someone of substance and good old fashioned morals/values. Do they still exist? if so, where do I meet them? Any thoughts (from men or women) would be great - thanks. Not sure if you mean "normal" as looking down at everyone else, but with that attitude you won't be gaining much for friends. And at that age, yes, many people will have some baggage. You should hope they have some experiences under their belts by then... It's not like these people are in a specific place. They're everywhere! You need to be a little more open it sounds like. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Not sure if you mean "normal" as looking down at everyone else, but with that attitude you won't be gaining much for friends. And at that age, yes, many people will have some baggage. You should hope they have some experiences under their belts by then... It's not like these people are in a specific place. They're everywhere! You need to be a little more open it sounds like. yeah she needs to change the attitude or its what they call a self fufilling prophecy Link to post Share on other sites
Author mistieyed Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 to answer your question, no i am not bitchy - i doubt that one person i meet or know would use that word to describe me, in fact, just the opposite. i am very friendly/bubbly (and not in a flirty way) and genuine. maybe the word "normal" is not the right word to use because you have no idea who i am, so i can see where you would assume the worst. the men i have met recently are very jaded when it comes to women or worse, they have commitment issues and somehow i end up paying for their exs hurting them. i just want to get out of that realm and find a man similar to me - someone that still believes in love (but may have had relationships that just didn't work but they are ok with it), that is near my age, and is open to a new relationship. you would think that isn't a tall glass to fill, but apparently it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 don't worry about if its hard or easy to find. Love yourself, don't be sad, theres some one out there for you Link to post Share on other sites
Author mistieyed Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 don't worry about if its hard or easy to find. Love yourself, don't be sad, theres some one out there for you thanks for your reply - you are right, i need to refocus on myself instead of a relationship - it has been approx. two years since i was with someone i truly cared about and miss that. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Eyed Brain Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Places to meet men: Doing chores (bank, grocery, dry cleaning) Library Coffee Shop Work Cafeteria Church Outside events - concerts Parks Beach Gym Anywhere is the perfect place to meet people. Just throw out the receptors.... Link to post Share on other sites
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