Kasan Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 The paperwork has not been filed. It it ready, but my attorney has been on vacation. I feel like I want to date before the divorce is final. Last time, it took like a year and a half to be final. If I wait that long again, I'll be like 37... UGH! I'm getting so old. This is where I have a problem with the complex mental thinking thing. You have two failed marriages and you are ready to hop into another relationship. Wouldn't it make sense to take some time off and reflect upon why your relationships failed? Sweetie, 37 is not old. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 That's just my opinion as to why I feel I'm more prone to the attacks... but it's just my opinion. All the more reason to seek counselling and do CBT to help you cope better and learn to control the anxiety and not let the anxiety control you. Trust me, I know ALL about anxiety as well - I did CBT and it helped alot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author watchconcierge Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 This is where I have a problem with the complex mental thinking thing. You have two failed marriages and you are ready to hop into another relationship. Wouldn't it make sense to take some time off and reflect upon why your relationships failed? Sweetie, 37 is not old. I really think that the two don't necessarily go hand in hand. I'm smart. But I obviously am not "right" when it comes to affairs of the heart. I have issues. Look at Bill Clinton. He's a genius. But look at what's he's done. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Great question... A bit of both... Not literal rocket science... But something very complex. Because of this, I started getting recognized and have been in like 40 magazines, on tv, newspapers, etc. I have also run with some major celebs because of this and get invited to events, celeb parties, etc. I never said I was a major celeb. My question was hypothetical. I wasn't actually asking you what you do. It's of no consequence to me at all. It has nothing to do with your situation. You're not getting me. Oh and as for the dating...I started dating 3 days after my separation. Married 3 weeks after my divorce came through. I don't see the big deal about it. But then, I didn't have two divorces under my belt at your age. So I don't know. Sounds like you need to work on yourself a bit before you get involved again. Take care of custody, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author watchconcierge Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 All the more reason to seek counselling and do CBT to help you cope better and learn to control the anxiety and not let the anxiety control you. Trust me, I know ALL about anxiety as well - I did CBT and it helped alot. CBT? I don't understand that term. Link to post Share on other sites
Author watchconcierge Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 My question was hypothetical. I wasn't actually asking you what you do. It's of no consequence to me at all. It has nothing to do with your situation. You're not getting me. Oh and as for the dating...I started dating 3 days after my separation. Married 3 weeks after my divorce came through. I don't see the big deal about it. But then, I didn't have two divorces under my belt at your age. So I don't know. Sounds like you need to work on yourself a bit before you get involved again. Take care of custody, etc. Amen... If so many people see this as so crazy, then I OBVIOUSLY need to do some major work on me. Hopefully this is a good start. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 CBT? I don't understand that term. cognitive behavioral therapy. Google it. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Amen... If so many people see this as so crazy, then I OBVIOUSLY need to do some major work on me. Hopefully this is a good start. Ok, well yes. It IS a good start. (If this is really for real.) I mean we all have to grow up sometime, you know? Maybe it's your time. The best of life may very well still be ahead of you. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkRibbon Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 37 old??? Wow no wonder my husband left me....with me having one foot in the grave and all.... Link to post Share on other sites
Kasan Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Okay, this is my issue with you--I have been broke and I have had a lot of money in my life, and the only thing that matters to me is my family, not my rich friends that I hang with, the volvo I might drive, or if you google and my name pops up. What I just described is very superficial and is just stuff--relationships are the most important thing in my life, and I could not have my money tomorrow and I would still have these relationships. Please get into counseling, because I see your life becoming a ground-hog day kind of life, which would be a tragedy as you sound like you have a lot to offer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author watchconcierge Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 Ok, well yes. It IS a good start. (If this is really for real.) I mean we all have to grow up sometime, you know? Maybe it's your time. The best of life may very well still be ahead of you. I just discovered that with the information given in this thread, you can figure out who I am. Nice. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkRibbon Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 I must be missing the information because I still have no clue who you are but then again if you are not Leo........ And I googled the name and all I got was a watch dealer...???? Link to post Share on other sites
Author watchconcierge Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 Okay, this is my issue with you--I have been broke and I have had a lot of money in my life, and the only thing that matters to me is my family, not my rich friends that I hang with, the volvo I might drive, or if you google and my name pops up. What I just described is very superficial and is just stuff--relationships are the most important thing in my life, and I could not have my money tomorrow and I would still have these relationships. Please get into counseling, because I see your life becoming a ground-hog day kind of life, which would be a tragedy as you sound like you have a lot to offer. I love that movie. I can seriously watch it over and over. I'm not materialistic although it would seem that way. I give things to people. And I really don't care about money. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 CBT? I don't understand that term. It's a type of therapy aimed to help those who have anxiety disorders, depression, and other phobia's, fears etc...The therapy helps re-train your brain into thinking and processing more clearly, positive thoughts replacing negative thoughts and dissociation, etc.. You learn how to have coping techniques to handle the anxiety, fight it, take control of it, get your life back on track. AND, it's talk therapy so you face your fears, understand them. Read afew books Dr David Burns anxiety book is a good one, it's called the Feeling Good Book. Sam Obitz, been there, done that, try this! Is also another excellent book about CBT. You need to learn more about anxiety, what it is and understand it, not be scared of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author watchconcierge Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 I must be missing the information because I still have no clue who you are but then again if you are not Leo........ And I googled the name and all I got was a watch dealer...???? Trust me... google isn't the answer.... And now somebody just added me to a friends list... all of a sudden. Somebody just figured it out. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 I just discovered that with the information given in this thread, you can figure out who I am. Nice. That's why it's not good to use a username which can identify you. Let alone give a certain amount of info (location, location, location and other personal details) that someone can put two and two together, to figure it out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author watchconcierge Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 It's a type of therapy aimed to help those who have anxiety disorders, depression, and other phobia's, fears etc...The therapy helps re-train your brain into thinking and processing more clearly, positive thoughts replacing negative thoughts and dissociation, etc.. You learn how to have coping techniques to handle the anxiety, fight it, take control of it, get your life back on track. AND, it's talk therapy so you face your fears, understand them. Read afew books Dr David Burns anxiety book is a good one, it's called the Feeling Good Book. Sam Obitz, been there, done that, try this! Is also another excellent book about CBT. You need to learn more about anxiety, what it is and understand it, not be scared of it. I will definitely take a look. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 You're welcome. Oh and block the person who is trying to add you as a friend. Maybe think about re-joining with another username, one that doesn't put you on the map. Link to post Share on other sites
Author watchconcierge Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 That's why it's not good to use a username which can identify you. Let alone give a certain amount of info (location, location, location and other personal details) that someone can put two and two together, to figure it out. Good advice. I had no clue this would turn into this, today. Link to post Share on other sites
cj1988 Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Honey the only thing we know about you is that you are in Colorado and you have 3 kids from 2 women.......you may see the clues we do not Link to post Share on other sites
Author watchconcierge Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 Honey the only thing we know about you is that you are in Colorado and you have 3 kids from 2 women.......you may see the clues we do not How do you know I'm in Colorado? I realized something that I said in this thread that could be added up with something else and then a quick search on a certain website and bam... you know all about me. Link to post Share on other sites
cj1988 Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 You said Denver bars.......maybe I was not paying attention well enough ! Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 I must be missing the information because I still have no clue who you are but then again if you are not Leo........ And I googled the name and all I got was a watch dealer...???? You're seriously cracking me up with the Leo thing. And I feel like a dummy. I have NO clue who the heck he is. I mean he could fit so many people as far as I can tell. (Yeah, I got the watch thing too...) I mean maybe you'd have to string together many things to find out? Like do you have to put in "watch concierge, star, effed up marriage, wife in colorado, valuable brain, dated calendar model." Maybe then something would come up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author watchconcierge Posted January 3, 2008 Author Share Posted January 3, 2008 You said Denver bars.......maybe I was not paying attention well enough ! Don't remember that... But that's correct. I actually tried not to divulge any personal information and caught myself typing names a few times. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkRibbon Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 :D:D:D That is so funny!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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