Did I Blow it?

[ManWithoutPlan]

Ok...first post...here we go...A while back I went to this party/dance with this girl and we ened up having alot of fun. First off I am quite shy about dancing...but i got a hang of it and it was fun. She seemed to be really liking me...Sticking with me everywhere and when we sat down she would lean on me and stuff. I think she wanted me to put my arm around her but I am quite shy...very actually. So on the bus ride home (we all got shuttled out and back) I put my arm around her and she rested on me...and actually feel asleep on me. I definately felt there was something there. So we got off the bus and we were walking through the parking lot and all of a sudden she had to go one way and me another(she was giving some people a ride home...and i was getting a ride with someone else) So it was really quick and we just said goodbye and she said she'd talk to me later. So about 20 minutes later i realized i didn't have a phone number...hehe...shoot! But i knew she was my friends RA in the dorms...so i could find her. I talked to my friend about seeing if he could help me out...and eventually he and her got talking and she gave him her number for me. She brought it up...not him. So I thought..cool! and called her. Nows where I start to hate my stupid shyness problem. I leave a message and its ok sounding. She calls me at 2 am the next day/night and i talk to her. I was too tired to be shy at this point...but we basically said that i was gunna be gone all weekend and couldn't hang till this week, and i'd call her. So i called her this tues...and my shyness took over. Something about the phone...I just can't do it. I guess I am too afraid of aqward silences...but i just talk too much. I don't let her talk. grrr! So I asked if she wanted to hang out some time this week...and she said sure. I told her I would call her back later when i thought of something to do...and she asked when? i said wednesday. Nows where i mess up...So Wednesday goes by and i realize i really have no idea what to do around here. I just moved down a few months ago...and have no freetime between work and school. Usually i hang out with my friend and he finds the things to do. So i end up not calling her Wednesday damnit. So today(thurs) come up and I decide...hey...I get off school too late to go to dinner...but maybe we can go to a movie...so I call her (message) and say that i was having a hard time thinking of something to do...and suggested a movie. I also mensioned something like if she knew of anything fun let me know. I told her I get outta school ~8 but after that its fair game. Well I get outta school and no messages so i call again...(message again)This time i ask if she still wants to do anything this evening and if so please call me....Well now it is getting later by the second and nothing. I am afraid i scared her off with my horrible phone skillz...cause i am not joking about how nrvous i get. Then i think i messed up real big by not calling her Wednesday. So what do i do now? Do ya guys think there is any way to save this? She seemed really intrested...but now I think she has changed her mind. Help!I don't wanna call again tonight...cause i already left a message...2 actually...and 3 is too much. any thoughts?

[cindy0039]

I'd say definitely don't call her again tonight. She may have thought you blew her off since you didn't call when you said you would and maybe she went ahead and made other plans with friends. Wait a day or so and see if she calls, then call again and apologize for not calling when you said you would and see if she'll give you another chance. Try having an imaginary conversation with yourself before you call to practice what you'd like to say and just say it. Don't linger on the phone a long time, that way you won't give yourself time to get nervous. Just be honest and tell her you're not much of a phone person but would rather talk to her in person. And don't worry so much about WHAT you do with her, just ask her out. A movie, dinner, going to a park (I'm not sure where you live), anything that gives you a chance to get to know one another is cool. Just take it slow.