XxBacktoBlackXx Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Alright, I posted under a different name (because I forgot the original name and password that I had) about a year ago in regards to a situation I had with this boy I was pining for. I had met him and we hit it off splendidly. There was tons of chemistry. This was the first time I had ever felt such a way for anyone in my life. Don't get me wrong; I had definitely had crushes and strong feelings for men before, but this time I thought I had found "the one". We were strong friends for about 6 months; we had met in a bar and exchanged e-mail and telephone numbers and then we got together in person. We had the same fondness for the exact same music artists and movies, etc and had long conversations about both. I felt so amazing being around him. I had never been treated so nicely and like I was so special by someone before. Then, the niceness changed like the flip of a light switch and he told me he had a girlfriend abroad after already asking me on dates and doing physical things with me. I was crushed and felt horrible. I foolishly remained friends with him while we were in the same town but it ended badly. I seriously thought I would never get over this. Never, ever. But now I am. 100% over it. Unfortunately, it took me a year, which sound silly, but the connection we had was very strong and I thought it would take forever. It would have taken less time had I completely removed him from my life but he still would contact me through MSN. I had left town without telling him as I was done with school in that area and he lives in the town where I finished school. I thought that would be my final statement of finality to him, but he continued to contact me when I was gone but I have been doing NC more and more. Thankfully, though, now I realize that I have absolutely zero feelings for this man I thought that I loved deeply. I am now dating someone else and I couldn't care less about this person from my past. In fact, I relish in the fact that this happened because now I can look back and be grateful that I got through something I thought that I never would. I honestly thought this would haunt me for years. I really wanted to post to LoveShack about this because I told myself once I got over this, I would post about it on this web-site and would be happy to have people that also think they would never get over someone read it. It may take you months, years, etc. but it does happen. Link to post Share on other sites
sedgwick Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Wow...I really needed this today. It's been six months and it feels like I'll never love anyone again. Mine did the same thing: amazing person, amazing connection, totally in love, and then suddenly he dumped me with no warning. I cannot fathom ever trusting again, or ever being over him. This is really good to read. Link to post Share on other sites
SeraBella Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 thanks for sharing this! Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 3, 2008 Share Posted January 3, 2008 Alright, I posted under a different name ... u had a different name on here... you really confuse me but seems like your happy so congrats Link to post Share on other sites
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