The Wife Killed herself today

[Green]

Your absolutely right KMT.

 

The wife could have waited until her husband came out, popped her husband right in his noodle. Got that OW popped a cap in her ass and then took a slug to her own damn self.

 

Usually that kinds of what happens when triangles tragically end.

 

could have been even worse then that

[ElvenPriestess]

I will just say here that two wrongs don't make a right, and if both those wrongs are carried out then the children suffer all that pain more so.

[lovernotafighter]

this had to be on the news! TFW do you have a link, I hope that isnt disrespectful I'd just like to read the whole story and gain more insight into this tragedy

[Chrome Barracuda]

Ok I may risk being flamed here but that would have been more so poetic justice in a way maybe but no the kids do need at least one parent I supose

 

Tragic stories happen in nyc alot that you dont hear about.

 

People cheat and the betrayed one goes crazy, gets a gun kills both of them and the jumpoff.

 

It's not really poetic justice.

 

Poetic justice is the OW he was cheating with, gives him an incurable STD after he leaves his wife for her. And he can never go back to the wife because she's moved on.

 

That's poetic justice.

 

But this is a very sad story there's no other way to frame it.

[Green]

Tragic stories happen in nyc alot that you dont hear about.

 

People cheat and the betrayed one goes crazy, gets a gun kills both of them and the jumpoff.

 

It's not really poetic justice.

 

Poetic justice is the OW he was cheating with, gives him an incurable STD after he leaves his wife for her. And he can never go back to the wife because she's moved on.

 

That's poetic justice.

 

But this is a very sad story there's no other way to frame it.

 

yeah but he usualy gives that STD to his wife because he was sleeping with both when he started cheating and it sets off something like this

[Chrome Barracuda]

yeah but he usualy gives that STD to his wife because he was sleeping with both when he started cheating and it sets off something like this

 

 

Sad but true.

 

Sometime's in his ignorance and absolute disdain for himself and those around him the MM cares nothing until it hurts him.

[underpants]

Tragic stories happen in nyc alot that you dont hear about.

 

People cheat and the betrayed one goes crazy, gets a gun kills both of them and the jumpoff.

 

It's not really poetic justice.

 

Poetic justice is the OW he was cheating with, gives him an incurable STD after he leaves his wife for her. And he can never go back to the wife because she's moved on.

 

That's poetic justice.

 

But this is a very sad story there's no other way to frame it.

 

Not just in NYC.

 

Someone in my home town did something really terrible to his cheating wife and himself. He set them on fire, in a car in front of the other man's place of work. The other man later killed himself. I was young and it made the papers, I don't recall if there were children, but I imagine if there were that they went into foster care or to grandparents.

 

The std thing is probably the most poetic justice there is and yes I have been privey to 2 of those fun karmic instances so far. I am foreseeing a third right now, but because someone is cheating I am just gonna let that info slide. I really have zero sympathy for cheaters.

 

As sad and tragic as this thread is I really, really do hope it wakes some people up to the yes, rare...but not so rare...ramifications of such betrayl.

 

I really hope it does.

[Trialbyfire]

this had to be on the news! TFW do you have a link, I hope that isnt disrespectful I'd just like to read the whole story and gain more insight into this tragedy

If the OP has concern for her anonymity, I wouldn't recommend linking a news story, since it contains names and locations.

[Green]

N E time NE where U hear about people dying from suicides and murder... good chance, some one was dumped on

[Chrome Barracuda]

Not just in NYC.

 

Someone in my home town did something really terrible to his cheating wife and himself. He set them on fire, in a car in front of the other man's place of work. The other man later killed himself. I was young and it made the papers, I don't recall if there were children, but I imagine if there were that they went into foster care or to grandparents.

 

The std thing is probably the most poetic justice there is and yes I have been privey to 2 of those fun karmic instances so far. I am foreseeing a third right now, but because someone is cheating I am just gonna let that info slide. I really have zero sympathy for cheaters.

 

As sad and tragic as this thread is I really, really do hope it wakes some people up to the yes, rare...but not so rare...ramifications of such betrayl.

 

I really hope it does.

 

Damn setting both of them on fire!!!

 

That's mad extreme!

[lovernotafighter]

If the OP has concern for her anonymity, I wouldn't recommend linking a news story, since it contains names and locations.

 

ahh good point TBF, but it's not her so I wouldn't see to much harm, but then again it would suggest where she's living.

 

let's see how she feels, she might not mind.

[TheFaithfulWife]

Someone is under the impression that I am going to keep Lindas children. Her husband has asked me to keep them for a week. She and I met at a city sponsored event for people with large families and hit it off instantly. We both do have five children. She had two boys 12 and 9 and three girls 7, 5 and 3. One of mine is much older than hers, and is off to college 21, 15, 13, 10 and 7. I posted here about four years ago when my husband and I were having problems in our marriage. I went through the same pain that I believe she went through. But my husband and I were able to work things out with a year of counseling. Thank God.

 

I want to thank those of you that gave me hugs and assurances that I should not feel at fault. It helps alot.

The kids are all asleep right now and I made them a campout in the den.

I checked back to see what I had written. I was not exactly in a good frame of mind earlier when I posted.

TFW

[OWoman]

That is tragic, and yet not so uncommon.

 

Thanks for posting this, all be it painful story.

 

I have known a couple of betrayed spouses that in dealing with the pain have contemplated/wished (one did) such a thing.

 

This is a very real possibility with my MM's W too. The kids have been trying to get her to go to counselling with them but she refuses. There's real concern that she's painting herself into a corner.

 

I had a friend kill herself some years back when she discovered that her H, who'd "cheated" with her, (they were both married to other people at the time) was having an A with someone else soon after their child was born. Only she took the child with her when she did it - tossed the baby out of the window and then jumped herself. Of course we only found out the REAL reason years later, when another friend was helping her H move (into a new house with a new GF) and came across an unposted letter where she revealed her discovery and how she feared he'd leave her, the same way he'd left his xW. At the time everyone put it down to PND. Weird thing was, "new GF" - now his W - looks uncannily like my dead friend, and has a kid the same age theirs would have been. And yes, apparently he does have someone new on the side now too.

[underpants]

I can't imagine having this hit so close to home.

 

Those kids need counseling as soon as possible and for a long time.

 

Quite frankly, I don't even know how good that will do in their formative years.

 

This just never goes away.

 

You are extremely kind to open your home and heart to those involved.

[Green]

not only should you not feel at fault, you need to stop reliving your own trauma from the simalar past events. Your going way above the call of duty here, if this was the military id give you some kind of medal and a parade

[THE THRONE]

How do you know she killed herself? Maybe he actually killed her.

[Chrome Barracuda]

Someone is under the impression that I am going to keep Lindas children. Her husband has asked me to keep them for a week. She and I met at a city sponsored event for people with large families and hit it off instantly. We both do have five children. She had two boys 12 and 9 and three girls 7, 5 and 3. One of mine is much older than hers, and is off to college 21, 15, 13, 10 and 7. I posted here about four years ago when my husband and I were having problems in our marriage. I went through the same pain that I believe she went through. But my husband and I were able to work things out with a year of counseling. Thank God.

 

I want to thank those of you that gave me hugs and assurances that I should not feel at fault. It helps alot.

The kids are all asleep right now and I made them a campout in the den.

I checked back to see what I had written. I was not exactly in a good frame of mind earlier when I posted.

TFW

 

IT's a good thing your able to take care of the kids for a little while.

 

But listen, you need to tell this husband to stay the hell away fro the OW.

 

She will always remind you of what you did to your wife. Your kids will never forgive you, but you can make it better.

 

You are gonna have to face the fact that you and only your actions are the sole reason of why your wife took her own life. Reguardless of what happened.

 

He needs to man up and take care of his kids on his own and live with the fact that he made this happen. Now he has to live with it!

 

That is the only way he's able to ever gain his children's trust again.

 

Please whatever you do, you must convince him to give up the OW forever!

[Green]

not only should you not feel at fault, you need to stop reliving your own trauma from the simalar past events. Your going way above the call of duty here, if this was the military id give you some kind of medal and a parade for making it through this

[OWoman]

Someone is under the impression that I am going to keep Lindas children. Her husband has asked me to keep them for a week. She and I met at a city sponsored event for people with large families and hit it off instantly. We both do have five children. She had two boys 12 and 9 and three girls 7, 5 and 3. One of mine is much older than hers, and is off to college 21, 15, 13, 10 and 7. I posted here about four years ago when my husband and I were having problems in our marriage. I went through the same pain that I believe she went through. But my husband and I were able to work things out with a year of counseling. Thank God.

 

I want to thank those of you that gave me hugs and assurances that I should not feel at fault. It helps alot.

The kids are all asleep right now and I made them a campout in the den.

I checked back to see what I had written. I was not exactly in a good frame of mind earlier when I posted.

TFW

 

Strength. Losing friends is never easy. Losing friends where it just feels so unjust, so wrong, so much more so.

 

I hope you find the space and the time to mourn your friend in amongst all that you are doing for her family.

 

(hugs)

[Green]

How do you know she killed herself? Maybe he actually killed her.

 

thats not for her to think about, police do that. but the way she did it is usualy suicide not murder

[Trialbyfire]

He needs to man up and take care of his kids on his own and live with the fact that he made this happen. Now he has to live with it!

I absolutely agree with this.

 

The children should always be put first. If he's suffering any real grief, it will be grief for himself.

[dropdeadlegs]

I'm so sorry this has happened.

 

How unfortunate for you to be left in the position of keeping the children and having to "keep it together."

 

Peace to all of you. I wish I had something more to offer, I truly do.

 

]Someone is under the impression that I am going to keep Lindas children.[/b] Her husband has asked me to keep them for a week. She and I met at a city sponsored event for people with large families and hit it off instantly. We both do have five children. She had two boys 12 and 9 and three girls 7, 5 and 3. One of mine is much older than hers, and is off to college 21, 15, 13, 10 and 7. I posted here about four years ago when my husband and I were having problems in our marriage. I went through the same pain that I believe she went through. But my husband and I were able to work things out with a year of counseling. Thank God.

 

I want to thank those of you that gave me hugs and assurances that I should not feel at fault. It helps alot.

The kids are all asleep right now and I made them a campout in the den.

I checked back to see what I had written. I was not exactly in a good frame of mind earlier when I posted.

TFW

that may have been me. I didn't think you were "keeping" them, just keeping them until someone could explain that their mother had passed. "For the week" seemed too long IMO, but I was basing that on the OP.

 

I actually have no idea what time frame is appropriate, or even if I remember the OP correctly. I could easily be mistaken.

 

The children are so young! Even in my darkest hours (of which I have had many) my children kept me going.

 

I sincerely hope they can recover from this serious loss.

[TheFaithfulWife]

I just wanted to mention that my husband and I since his affair four years ago have still had our problems with trust, In fact a couple of months ago I thought he was cheating again and I made him so angry that he gave me back the same paperwork that he had given me previously. He didn't realize you have to file again I guess. But we have since worked things out and I am working on getting my jealousy in control.

He moved out for a couple weeks and is back home now. We both need to work on his being open when he meets an old friend from his past and me on dealing with past issues.

I think this situtation with Linda may make him rethink his carelessly tossing divorce papers at me everytime we have an argument. I can only hope so.

TFW

[Trialbyfire]

This thread makes me seriously rethink about getting married again and having children.

 

It's all so tragic and so unnecessary. It tears me apart to think of the pain those five children will be going through, for the rest of their lives. So unnecessary. So incredibly wrong.

[Green]

I think theres a 50/50 chance the children will turn out fine.