whichwayisup Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 I doubt it's a prank. Besides maybe the OP went out for the day and will post later or tomorrow. She's an older poster from 2003, so chances are her thread is real. SO if anything I hope any BSs reading this out there learn that no matter what if your choice is to take your own life then you are doing something tripple worse than what was done to you. I hope you will stop to think before you act irrationally because your children and family should not have to pay for your lack of stability in dealing with life's unfortunate events. Hmm, so once again it's the BS's fault that the cheater cheated and it's the BS's fault that she was pushed past her emotional limit, treated poorly, disrespected. Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 With no further input from the OP I just HOPE this isnt a sick prank. Yeah I thought it sounded too much like a troll coming to teach a lesson. It's a foolish one if you ask me, because the only lesson learned is that people who take their own live's are sick tormented people and no one is responsible for that nor held accountable for that. It would be like blaming society for a person's schizophrenia, it's a mental disorder that cannot be pin pointed to one factor and you can never blame other's for a person's illness. Link to post Share on other sites
OWoman Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Please post as you seemed to have dropped off here I suspect OP has her hands full with 10 kids as well as her own shock and grief to deal with. I hope she's coping, as that's a tough ask for ANYONE, let alone someone who's gone through similar issues themself and will find themselves identifying and getting drawn back into their own pain too. Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Hmm, so once again it's the BS's fault that the cheater cheated and it's the BS's fault that she was pushed past her emotional limit, treated poorly, disrespected. Did I say that? Because I don't think I said that anywhere in my post. A person can be pushed past their limits because of a lot of factors. A lot of those mass murders you see comitted by lonely troubled teenagers that go into a univeristy and open fire are caused because they were pushed by society, so when consoling the parents of the murdered children do you tell them "well mam, was it his fault that society made fun of him and outcasted him and pushed him past his emotional threshold by ostrecizing him and making him feel inferior to the rest of the world, treated him poorly and disrespected him?" I don't think so. If that were so the laws would protect mass murderes from doing that because after all "they were also pushed to their limits" Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Some of the responses here just astound me. Incidents like this happen. Incidents where the OP commit suicide happen. Incidents of murder, or murder/suicide happen and yes there is often a motive. While you are sitting around trying to rationalize it away and assign blame, I hope any of the parties of a deception and betrayl are not off someplace being pushed to their emotional limits and do something out of character because ...well...bang...and then it's gone. Link to post Share on other sites
TogetherForever Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 With no further input from the OP I just HOPE this isnt a sick prank. That's what I meant when I replied about this just being a "wise up" thread. I hope the OP comes back soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 I wouldn't come back to this thread either. It's bad enough that a close friend has died and the OP was kind enough to help the cheater out, for the sake of his 5 children. Now she's got to come back to defending her deceased friend? Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 When I read this I did not think troll. I am concerned though with the similarities in the story and the posters story and am quite concerned that this could be her goodbye world thread. If this was the posters actual plans for the future and wanted to see the reactions that her future death will have on people. I hope I am wrong about that. Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 I wouldn't come back to this thread either. It's bad enough that a close friend has died and the OP was kind enough to help the cheater out, for the sake of his 5 children. Now she's got to come back to defending her deceased friend? Well then why come to a place like this to share the story anyway? What's the point? did they expect 100 posts claiming "I am ending my affair today" because they read this? :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
greengoddess Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Well then why come to a place like this to share the story anyway? What's the point? did they expect 100 posts claiming "I am ending my affair today" because they read this? :laugh: wow talk about cold. Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 When I read this I did not think troll. I am concerned though with the similarities in the story and the posters story and am quite concerned that this could be her goodbye world thread. If this was the posters actual plans for the future and wanted to see the reactions that her future death will have on people. I hope I am wrong about that. Oh I never thought of that, that's a good observation. If the OP is reading and it is indeed this, don't do it, it is not worth it and the only ones you will seriously damage are your children and family. They need you, you wanted to bring children into this world and they love you more than any love you will experience from a man so please think of them. Get some help and find peace life is prescious and we are only her once and no matter how bad things get there is always something better for us around the corner, we just have to give it some time. If your H was not meant to be in your life anymore there is a good reason for that, you just have to give it a little time to figure out why and you will look back and think" my goodness to think if I had checked out I never would have seen this" Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 ...the only thing one learns from this is that some people are selfish and don't care who they hurt, they are emotionally unstable an cannot handle life's hardships or obstacles.... So in life when faced with a hard pill to swallow we always have choices and some people don't think further than what is convenient for them. As long as these sentiments apply equally to the affair partners, I can agree. I hope you will stop to think before you act irrationally because your children and family should not have to pay for your lack of stability in dealing with life's unfortunate events. Again, I know you meant this in the context of the suicidal wife, but it also eloquently summarizes my feelings about affair partners. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 wow talk about cold. It is a tad cold in here all of a sudden, no? Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 I can see why you're currently in or have been in the situation of an affair. It takes a certain personality type to be willing to get involved. I am not in an affair I am with a divorced man now. Yes it does, it most definitely does take a certain personality, it takes a strong personality not one that is willing to check out of the world when the chips are down. And I can assure you if he ever left me for another woman I would not take my own life. EVER. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 This morning she drove to the OW's apartment where her husband was, pulled her car behind his, attached a flex hose to her tailpipe with a pipeclamp. She pulled the hose through the back window of her van and placed a clear garbage bag over her head with the hose inside and started the car. They found her when he went out to head to work. ~Wow, I didn't realize there were so many people who has done the very exact same thing described here. Just read several stories involving this very thing and one of them was about a van and a tailpipe too. All I know is, if my friend had committed suicide, I highly doubt I would even be on any site trying to relay my message of worry and concern, I would not even be able to type correctly. Not the same day it happened anyway. And the post said it happened today. Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 I am not in an affair I am with a divorced man now. Yes it does, it most definitely does take a certain personality, it takes a strong personality not one that is willing to check out of the world when the chips are down. And I can assure you if he ever left me for another woman I would not take my own life. EVER. You were in an affair, and your recent posts on this thread denote a certain cold indifference that have apparently left many folks here wondering about you. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 I am not in an affair I am with a divorced man now. Yes it does, it most definitely does take a certain personality, it takes a strong personality not one that is willing to check out of the world when the chips are down. And I can assure you if he ever left me for another woman I would not take my own life. EVER. Just like it takes a strong personality not to break the bonds of matrimony, indulging in infidelity and the strength it takes to not indulge in an affair with a previously committed partner. An affair is not a necessity to anyone's well-being. Affair partners have a choice to indulge. They do it regardless of obligation to family and society. A betrayed spouse has no choice in being forced to handle the fallout from an affair. You tell me who's the stronger individual. Link to post Share on other sites
TogetherForever Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 This morning she drove to the OW's apartment where her husband was, pulled her car behind his, attached a flex hose to her tailpipe with a pipeclamp. She pulled the hose through the back window of her van and placed a clear garbage bag over her head with the hose inside and started the car. They found her when he went out to head to work. ~Wow, I didn't realize there were so many people who has done the very exact same thing described here. Just read several stories involving this very thing and one of them was about a van and a tailpipe too. All I know is, if my friend had committed suicide, I highly doubt I would even be on any site trying to relay my message of worry and concern, I would not even be able to type correctly. Not the same day it happened anyway. And the post said it happened today. How would one find the time to think "Let me post this on LS ...." in the middle of dealing with the death of a friend & taking care of the children of this friend? Now it's leaving room for doubt in my mind...... Link to post Share on other sites
luvmy2ns Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Just like it takes a strong personality not to break the bonds of matrimony, indulging in infidelity and the strength it takes to not indulge in an affair with a previously committed partner. An affair is not a necessity to anyone's well-being. Affair partners have a choice to indulge. They do it regardless of obligation to family and society. A betrayed spouse has no choice in being forced to handle the fallout from an affair. You tell me who's the stronger individual. Damn, you're good! Perfect! Yeah, like it takes strength of character to sleep with married folks, eh? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 And I can assure you if he ever left me for another woman I would not take my own life. EVER. I'm sure his wife felt that way too. Noone knows how they'll react when pushed past their limit. Why do you think crimes of passion happen? Remember what's her name, that NASA woman, who drove across the country? A once respected and well established individual....It can happen to anyone, so never say never. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 To the OP TheFaithfulWife. I have a question for you. You said your friend and h had 5 kids. I read a post of yours from 2003, you also have 5 kids. You also stated your h was cheating on you then. This is not about you and you're not planning on doing this are you? Just wondering since you your friend had 5 kids and so do you. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 How would one find the time to think "Let me post this on LS ...." in the middle of dealing with the death of a friend & taking care of the children of this friend? Now it's leaving room for doubt in my mind...... I really do not know. Maybe ask the OP. Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 This morning she drove to the OW's apartment where her husband was, pulled her car behind his, attached a flex hose to her tailpipe with a pipeclamp. She pulled the hose through the back window of her van and placed a clear garbage bag over her head with the hose inside and started the car. They found her when he went out to head to work. ~Wow, I didn't realize there were so many people who has done the very exact same thing described here. Just read several stories involving this very thing and one of them was about a van and a tailpipe too. All I know is, if my friend had committed suicide, I highly doubt I would even be on any site trying to relay my message of worry and concern, I would not even be able to type correctly. Not the same day it happened anyway. And the post said it happened today. Exactly!! you know what else I just noticed? The person who posted this story is a BS who was cheated on TWICE, the last time she posted was a few months ago. She took her husband back and they were together for 5 years after the A and now he left her again and wanst a D with no warninng apparently she thinks for an old highschool sweetheart. Look FaithfulW if you are reading this and it is indeed a cry out for help don't do anything foolish it is absolutely foolish to think that taking your life for another human being is in any way going to help or solve anything. I know you must be in a lot of pain right now and I am not sure if your situation has changed at home but NO man is worth the pain you are feeling, please get some help and think of your children they will help you get through this tough time and something good will be is in store for your when you are well again. Right now if you are contemplating something irrational, you need to get some help. Trying to change other people's actions is not going to solve your problem, take charge of your own happiness and your own life. Link to post Share on other sites
TogetherForever Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 To the OP TheFaithfulWife. I have a question for you. You said your friend and h had 5 kids. I read a post of yours from 2003, you also have 5 kids. You also stated your h was cheating on you then. This is not about you and you're not planning on doing this are you? Just wondering since you your friend had 5 kids and so do you. Oh, God. I don't know whether to hope this is a fake situation or what. I hope this situation that has NOT happened already & that will never take place!!! It leaves me with a very unsettled feeling. Happy Effin' NewYear huh. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Oh, God. I don't know whether to hope this is a fake situation or what. I hope this situation that has NOT happened already & that will never take place!!! It leaves me with a very unsettled feeling. Happy Effin' NewYear huh. I agree TF, I agree. Link to post Share on other sites
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