american-woman Posted January 5, 2008 Share Posted January 5, 2008 After all the hurt I never thought about it. I went to an MC I rather be a live coward than a dead one. Link to post Share on other sites
american-woman Posted January 5, 2008 Share Posted January 5, 2008 Thought about it, planned it to look like an accident, left letters for my family. I hadn't found out about the cheating with Mr. Messy Pants yet, so that had nothing to do with it. I suffer from depression most of my life and didn't know it. I got help just before I found out about the affair, otherwise, I am not sure what I would have done because I was in the darkness. God is so good to me, that I had a good friend come to my home, cuss me out, make me get dressed and drove me to her Dr. He got me help and counseling and I wa s able to deal with Mr. Messy in a way that was completely opposite of my nature. BIg Hugs to you:) Wonderful that you didnt do it. My mom always told me GOD does`nt put anything on your shoulders he doesnt think you cant handle. I guess maybe thats why I never thought about it. Link to post Share on other sites
ElvenPriestess Posted January 5, 2008 Share Posted January 5, 2008 A few years back I had thought about this. But I realized that I'm only hurting myself and those who love me, not the ones that hurt me. Though in a terrible state of life right now, I just realize it is not only not the answer, but not AN answer at all. And I think your reason of not letting the other person win through this OP is a truly wonderful realization. It helps many to see the error of their ways. Link to post Share on other sites
american-woman Posted January 5, 2008 Share Posted January 5, 2008 Hon your are`nt worthless. We all are special dont ever forget it:) Link to post Share on other sites
brothermartin Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 I made a mistake and went over to ow/om and read where a betrayed wife and 5 kids were abandoned by the cheater. He left her for OW and she ended her life. It scared me a little because for about a year after D-day, I thought about it alot. How I would do it even. Did you ever think about it? Not melodramatically, but seriously? No, I never considered suicide. I did consider vandalism, terrorism, blackmail, extortion, assault, and public disturbance. I wasn't broken, I was very very pissed off. But I took the high road instead. Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 I made a mistake and went over to ow/om and read where a betrayed wife and 5 kids were abandoned by the cheater. He left her for OW and she ended her life. It scared me a little because for about a year after D-day, I thought about it alot. How I would do it even. Did you ever think about it? Not melodramatically, but seriously? Yes, I thought about it seriously. Finally decided to do it. Fortunately, my husband figured out what my decision was and managed to intervene. I almost destroyed my life because of what happened, but then he saved my life. I figure it evened out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JustBreathe Posted January 7, 2008 Author Share Posted January 7, 2008 Just reading through these... it is amazing how common it is to contemplate suicide, or how you can be driven to extreme violence, isn't it? You feel like your life is over and for all intents and purposes life as you once knew it is over. But you go on for whatever reason. It's sad what happened to that woman. She had 5 kids. Her husband will now have to raise those children alone. OW and her husband had moved in together and she killed herself in their garage. Her kids will have to know this and will carry it forever. You're correct. That was incredibly selfish, although I can understand how a person could be driven to it. When they're boinking around, cheaters don't realize the chance their taking. How it affects not only the betrayed spouse but his or her kids, the grandparents, sisters, brother, cousins, etc. People take sides and you lose friends as well. Well, I know I wouldn't have killed myself. But I sure thought about it! Link to post Share on other sites
Planofool Posted January 7, 2008 Share Posted January 7, 2008 No, I never considered suicide. I did consider vandalism, terrorism, blackmail, extortion, assault, and public disturbance. I wasn't broken, I was very very pissed off. But I took the high road instead. I second that. The thought of purchasing a plane ticket for a weekend of ass whooping did cross my mind. But in the end I just felt sorry for him. He has spent the last 26 yrs in love with a married woman who lives 1200 miles from him. And she has been using him. He is also a recovering alcoholic and did I mention they are second cousins......now that I think of it I feel sorry for both of them. Link to post Share on other sites
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