Author scottster007 Posted January 8, 2008 Author Share Posted January 8, 2008 All I can think about is going home to do some more stuff to the house Marlena. The place looks so different already and Ive only just begun. So exciting! Well, tonight is the night the stbx and I get together to discuss the terms of our divorce. The two commanders meet on the front line! We have already agreed to to do this uncontested (no fault). I plan on being fair, (even under the circumstances) I don't want to discount the many good years we did have together. My backup plan is secure just in case we don't see eye to eye. I really hope she doesn't get sappy on me. It will just be embarrassing for her if she does. She'll find out quickly that there is nothing left in my heart for her. Honestly the thought of having to sit down with her to do this makes me kinda sick. (i think I already just threw up a little bit in my mouth, lol) Wish me luck! Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 All I can think about is going home to do some more stuff to the house Marlena. The place looks so different already and Ive only just begun. So exciting! Well, tonight is the night the stbx and I get together to discuss the terms of our divorce. The two commanders meet on the front line! We have already agreed to to do this uncontested (no fault). I plan on being fair, (even under the circumstances) I don't want to discount the many good years we did have together. My backup plan is secure just in case we don't see eye to eye. I really hope she doesn't get sappy on me. It will just be embarrassing for her if she does. She'll find out quickly that there is nothing left in my heart for her. Honestly the thought of having to sit down with her to do this makes me kinda sick. (i think I already just threw up a little bit in my mouth, lol) Wish me luck! Just as long as being fair means you don't have to give her any support. You won't be giving her monetary support right? I hope not. You sound like a good guy- I hope it's a matter of splitting everything down the middle and walking away. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 I wouldnt even meet her. I would just let my lawyer handle things. I felt that way after meeting my ex. I didnt get sick I just felt snippy and acted real jerk like. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scottster007 Posted January 8, 2008 Author Share Posted January 8, 2008 Just as long as being fair means you don't have to give her any support. You won't be giving her monetary support right? I hope not. You sound like a good guy- I hope it's a matter of splitting everything down the middle and walking away. Oh no D-Lish, no worries, A fair split is all I want as does she. We both have very good careers and can afford to live very comfortably on our own. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scottster007 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Share Posted January 9, 2008 (edited) Well that was tougher then I thought it would be. I feel like I just took two steps backwards. Why do I feel like crap all of the sudden I wonder? Looks like we got a deal though. Got all of our stuff split up. Going to see the attorney tomorrow and get it done. It's okay to hold onto some anger for a little bit. I lingered in sadness and despair for quite some time and then the anger hit me and that is when I started getting better. Grr I got anger. Seeing her again made me very angry! I lost my horse where did it go. I need to get back on it! It's hard to believe it when you feel so down--- but at some point you will look back and view this break up as just a distant chapter in your life. It's been 4 years for me and so much has changed, and the memory of being married to my ex is just a distant memory. Cant wait!!! Vent away Scotty-pants.... lol, not you too! Ill never escape this will I, "Scotty-pants". (smacks D-Lish upside the head with a pillow!) I wouldnt even meet her. True! I thought I was ready. I kept my cool though! Wounded in battle. Medic! You are on the right track my dear friend and I commend you on your strength and determination to start afresh. Only good things will come of it! Hope! There's my horse. Darn thing walked all the way up a big hill! Must get back on the horse! Thanks Marlena for pointing me to it. blah! Edited January 9, 2008 by scottster007 Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 lol, not you too! Ill never escape this will I, "Scotty-pants". (smacks D-Lish upside the head with a pillow!) Sorrrryyyy.... I thought I was original adding "pants" to my friend's names Link to post Share on other sites
Author scottster007 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Share Posted January 9, 2008 ROFL! I was just messin. Old nickname. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scottster007 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Share Posted January 9, 2008 Update. Negotiations are about 95% complete. We have an appointment to meet the lawyer Monday morning. Then hopefully 30 days after that I'm a free man. She came back today and packed up some more junk. House is looking empty. Oh, and one of our mutual male friends is already getting buddy buddy with her. He doesn't even wait for the dust to settle. Like I care, right? I choose not to. One more month! To the moon! Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 Update. Negotiations are about 95% complete. We have an appointment to meet the lawyer Monday morning. Then hopefully 30 days after that I'm a free man. She came back today and packed up some more junk. House is looking empty. Oh, and one of our mutual male friends is already getting buddy buddy with her. He doesn't even wait for the dust to settle. Like I care, right? I choose not to. One more month! To the moon! This mutual male friend cut him off!!! immediately! He aint no friend that's #1 #2 if you get a chance explain to him about the sex tape and if that's who he wants to deal with in any form or capacity he's inheriting all of it and you will not be his friend anymore. Because if your a friend and associate with a woman like this who can treat me like crap then you arent a friend to me. Good for you that your moving on with your life. I'm surprised she hasnt put up more of a fight but it appears she cant because it's all her fault!!! She's the betrayer she's not a victim! Link to post Share on other sites
Author scottster007 Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 Hes not a real close friend, I've probably met him three times. Standard introvert type. I say good luck to her. Ive got my own path to take now. I'm pretty sure this thread can die. Thanks for all the help! All of you! Ill be around. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkRibbon Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Thanks Marlena. Truly some kind words and thanks for the welcome to the community. I have always been a strong man, but this time I fear I have run out Kleenex. I'm not afraid to admit that crying helps. I wanted to share a quote that I found that gave me some perspective. "Sometimes choices are made in the name of forgiveness while what is occurring isn't forgiveness at all. It is important not to confuse being forgiving with denying your own feelings, needs, and desires. Forgiving doesn't mean being passive and staying in a job or a relationship that clearly doesn't work for you or is abusive. It is important that you are clear about your boundaries. What is acceptable for you? If you are willing to allow unacceptable behavior again and again in the name of 'forgiveness,' you are more than likely using 'forgiveness' as an excuse not to take responsibility for taking care of yourself or as a way to avoid making changes." Robin Casarjian - Forgiveness: A Bold Choice For A Peaceful Heart Welcome! Goodness knows some of us cry. I personally am into 3 months of crying. So post often and things will get better! Link to post Share on other sites
PinkRibbon Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 D-Lish, thanks for the words. To your question: Its a nice house. I think I'm going to keep it, but everything has to change. I've already started redecorating. Well, Ive started looking at some paint colors at the Home Depot... Who knows, maybe I'll get lucky and spill some paint on the carpet. Friggin baby blue carpet! Oh and I took "that" bed down today. Got it all packed up for her to take away. Got a new bed, with no cooties on it! yuck! To think she let me sleep on that thing for a month! I know those sheets didn't get washed! (I'm cringing) PS. We were together for 13 years, married for 10. No children. Cooties!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA:laugh::laugh::laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Author scottster007 Posted January 13, 2008 Author Share Posted January 13, 2008 Ugh. The weekends are hard. I think the depressive stage has hit me. I guess I cant skip these emotions can I? Shes not even worth it! Hung out with some single friends Friday night and realized that the dating world is still alive and kicking. Sounds just like it did when I left it 13 years ago. Good thing I'm not ready for it. Im so ready to get out of the funk. Link to post Share on other sites
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