Trialbyfire Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 whoa! I think you hit the nail on the head. And really, if you think about it, if an H has these qualities, W is in all probabilities not withdrawing. Thanks. I can't think of one self-respecting woman who would balk in any way, with a man of this caliber. Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 I have a question, what is mentally stable. Are you talking about guidelines set forth by the psychiatric community or what some one believes is menatally balanced. I believe that people who knowingly engage in sex with married people have some mental instabilities and need some type of help or guidance. But that isn't what the medical feild recognizes or believes. On the other hand some people with mental instabilities lead full normal lives, with counseling, medication, proper health care and God. I for one fall into that catagory. I lead a good life, teach troubled childre(also mental illness) raise my own children and now am working on two degrees. So I guess I need clarification for what you are saying. Given that some mental issues come about due to emotional trauma, such as being cheated on, death, loss of job and a number of other issues, who do you choose a mentally stable person. And the unstable, in your words unsuitable choice, could actually become a rock in a crisis. Life is high risk, yes some of our choices gaurantee that we will end up on the short end of the stick, but we should be careful about stereotyping mental illness. I don't know why don't you ask TrianByFire it was her words to her situation and her "mental" guy that I was refering to in that post! Given that some mental issues come about due to emotional trauma, such as being cheated on, death, loss of job and a number of other issues, who do you choose a mentally stable person. And the unstable, in your words unsuitable choice, could actually become a rock in a crisis. I have no idea what you were trying to say here. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 Sarme, why don't you and TBF just agree to disagree and be done with it. Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 Thanks. I can't think of one self-respecting woman who would balk in any way, with a man of this caliber. I can see the only way you know how to communicate is through low blows and insults. You have demonstrated nothing less of that in this entire thread, and I can also see how you can't seperate how disrespectful you are here with how must be with your close relationships. It boils down to one thing and one thing only, you can claim to have all the self esteem in the world and demand all the self respect in the world but if you are incapable of making a point without having to put another human being down then it really just boils down to the hate you carry around for yourself. BentNotBroken: Ask TrialByFire what she meant or look it up in the thread, stop asking me what she meant she introduced the thought not me. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 *sigh* Sarme, talk to me when you're rational. Beyond that you're now ignored. Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 *sigh* Sarme, talk to me when you're rational. Beyond that you're now ignored. Ok. But will you promise to seek therapy to resolve all your pent up anger and hate baggage? I've seen your picture you are a pretty girl a girl as pretty as you should not walk around as angry as you are. Life is too short for that! Take care huney. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 Ok. But will you promise to seek therapy to resolve all your pent up anger and hate baggage? I've seen your picture you are a pretty girl a girl as pretty as you should not walk around as angry as you are. Life is too short for that! Take care huney. Surprisingly, I'm not angry. I do have issues with affairs and affair partners for assorted reasons of which morality, integrity and honour are the largest components. I feel that sharing my experiences can potentially help others. I will also never condone affairs of any kind. As for therapy, all done and passed with flying colours. Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 Surprisingly, I'm not angry. I do have issues with affairs and affair partners for assorted reasons of which morality, integrity and honour are the largest components. I feel that sharing my experiences can potentially help others. I will also never condone affairs of any kind. As for therapy, all done and passed with flying colours. I take it you think my last post was a rational one and so you responded to it so it must mean you are thinking about what I suggested. I don't understand what passing therapy with flying colours means when you can't even demonstrate basic human respect or the ability to keep your emotions in check in a conversation with someone who is not even attacking you!?!? I know you HATE what I represent but I didn't make choices to get AT you TriabByFire, I made my choices because they suited my life. And don't worry I don't even pose a threat to you because we already established we don't even go for the same men your standards are MUCH higher than mine, and of what you described about your H there is nothing about him that sounds even remotely appealing to me about him, so what are you so angry with me about? I wouldn't have wanted your H even if we did meet while you were still with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 I take it you think my last post was a rational one and so you responded to it so it must mean you are thinking about what I suggested. I don't understand what passing therapy with flying colours means when you can't even demonstrate basic human respect or the ability to keep your emotions in check in a conversation with someone who is not even attacking you!?!? I know you HATE what I represent but I didn't make choices to get AT you TriabByFire, I made my choices because they suited my life. And don't worry I don't even pose a threat to you because we already established we don't even go for the same men your standards are MUCH higher than mine, and of what you described about your H there is nothing about him that sounds even remotely appealing to me about him, so what are you so angry with me about? I wouldn't have wanted your H even if we did meet while you were still with him. Sarme, I'm not angry or flipping around usernames in a childish manner. We disagree on all the basic premises of morality, integrity and honour, when it surrounds an affair situation. That we disagree, doesn't make it disrespectful, does it? Must everyone agree with you or will it be deemed disrespectful by you? Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 I can see the only way you know how to communicate is through low blows and insults. In all fairness you have demonstrated this as well. (hun) Good luck with your choices. Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 Sarme, I'm not angry or flipping around usernames in a childish manner. We disagree on all the basic premises of morality, integrity and honour, when it surrounds an affair situation. That we disagree, doesn't make it disrespectful, does it? Must everyone agree with you or will it be deemed disrespectful by you? Flipping around user names what are you talking about? I said early on you can disagree with me but why must you end all your posts directed at me with a low blow? You are angry, you are very angry and very emotional because you don't agree with my choices. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony Posted January 10, 2008 Senior Moderators Share Posted January 10, 2008 As is usually the case, this thread has degenerated into off topic conversation...some of it not so nice...and banter. The topic of the thread hasn't really been discussed in most of the last 50 posts or so. Therefore, it is with a heavy heart that I close this thread and ask that those who want to talk about mostly nothing do so in the off topic thread. Many thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
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