NoNameNoFace Posted June 15, 2003 Share Posted June 15, 2003 So me and this guy are best friends. He actually went out with my ex best friend for a long time. I was there for him through this whole ordeal with that.. and now that she is gone between the both of us.. we hang out alot. We know each other like the back of our hands and its great. We both know we will do anything for each other. But now I think im starting to fall in love with him. Hes the most wonderful guy ive ever known. And its amazing how we are so alike and how much we have in common. Im scared if i tell him i like him more than a friend or that I think I love him.. it will ruin what we have now. Im so afraid. But i think hes perfect for me. I dont know what to do. And when he shares some interest in some other girl (s) i get exetremely jealous and want to tell him right there and then.. im so afraid thought. I dont know what to do. Do I tell him.. or continue to be his best Friend forever.... Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 15, 2003 Share Posted June 15, 2003 If this guy is truly your friend, your pronouncement that you care about him and would like a relationship with him will not affect the friendship in any way if he doesn't feel the same way. However, to be true to yourself you really have no choice but to tell him. The best way to break this to him to minimize discomfort is simply to tell him that you feel the friendship could handle upgrading and if he ever feels he might want to take the friendship to a higher level, you would be open to that. That's all you have to say. See what his response is and go from there. Hanging around somebody as a friend when you are really in love with them and want much more is a lie of great magnitude. It's also not being nice to yourself. You don't need to go through all the hurt as he tells you about other females he dates, etc. Talk to him as soon as possible. If he responds positively, that's great. Use some energy of your own to speed the upgrade so the two of you can become a couple. If he doesn't seem to be in favor of any more than a friendship, start backing off and going in another direction. You will not find true love and romance while you're lovingly barking up the butt of a guy who only wants you for a friend. Link to post Share on other sites
kandi13 Posted June 26, 2003 Share Posted June 26, 2003 ok well im gonna try to make this easy and simple.....now its good to tell a best friend how you feel and if your in luv with him go for it but....beware of your friendship....If I was u, I wouldnt go out with him....Id keep the friendship, I went out with my best friend, and we ended up losing everything esspecially friendship! So if you truely think u 2 can work it out even if u go out go for it but if not then keep what u got, u have to cherish what you have and stop to think, I wish I could have done that with my best friend... good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Jtizzle Posted July 8, 2003 Share Posted July 8, 2003 Personally i think you should go for it...if you two really enjoy each others company and u feel that you maybe able to tell him ANYTHING in the world, then he should look at you no differently then he does now (when you tell him that you maybe in love with him or so)...have u ever heard the expression that ur own bestfriend could be ur prince charming..my advice for you is to go for it, cuz u only have one life to live and u should never live in the what,but,or if....kind of world..the BEST thing that can happen to you when you tell him you like him more then a friend is him saying...im sorry i dont have those same feelings for you..but the WORST thing to happen to you, is the chance that you might not have taken by telling him that you really like him..possibly even LOVE him...do whats right..ur heart will lead you there.... Link to post Share on other sites
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