kidneyguy Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 I've known this girl for a little over two years now. We've been good friends during that time period. I've started to like her as more than a friend, and she doesn't like me as more than a friend. She knows I like her, but we haven't talked about it. I've been able to talk to her better, since I used to always get nervous talking to her. Now, I don't ! I gave her a copy of a CD she REALLY LIKED, and she went nuts (it was an anime soundtrack, and we're both into mostly the same anime). I was thinking I'm doing well. Am I? Do I have a better chance of getting her as a girlfriend? What should I get her for Valentine's Day? It has to be cheap becuase I have another friend who's birthday is Valentine's Day. Need some big help here if there's any hope for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 If you have to ask us your probably not that close to having her see you as a bf. Just try to kiss her and see what happens. You know flirt then get touch and then try to kiss her. I think an attempted kiss will tell you more then some lame can we be gf/bf conversation. For valentines day you could make her a scrapbook... Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 I agree with KMT. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 uhhhhhhhhhhh honestly, you really can't force someone to be your girlfriend just b/c you have feelings for her (only in a perfect one sided world would this happen, where only you get everything you ever wanted happen to you). I would just enjoy her company as a friend, and stop thinking about her. It's really not that hard, because there are so many other girls out there you can just start thinking about. She knows you like her, and you guys dont talk about it...hmm i wonder why? because she doesnt feel the same man, sorry. In life you will keep finding that not every girl you are attracted to and can relate to will feel the same, girls tend to be kinder and friendlier so its harder to analyze their true feelings (whether it be friendship, lust, or love) yet with experience, patience, and some risks, you'll learn to see who wants what. And giving her an anime cd i guess is a start...but a lot of my friends (of both sexes) tend to share a lot of their things and give things to each other (cause thats what friends do). And i suggest chocolates if you really feel the need to buy her something...that way if she rejects your proposal of "love" than...at least you got some candy out of it Link to post Share on other sites
fishtaco Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 The answer is no. Listen to Lucasarts. Forget her. Go hit up on some other girls. Stay friends with her. Everyone need platonic female friends. They're awesome. BTW, in general, you'll end up spending much less effort finding a new girl than trying to convince a girl that's not into you to develop romantic feelings for you, assuming if that's even possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 Look the way things are you have a ZERO % chance. Your probably only friends with her at this point because you phantisize about being her bf or what ever so if I were you I'd just risk losing her and try something completly out of character and go in for a kiss. Hang out with her one night and get her drinking something alcholic then go in for a kiss. one of 5 things will happen, she'll kiss you and be into you 2) she'll kiss you out of pitty and be pissed at you but still posibly forgive 3) she'll kiss you and then relize she hates you and never want to see you 4) she won't kiss you and things can posibly get back to the friendship they were 5) she'll be mad and uncomfortable being friends. I say go for it. At this time though zero percent chance she feels the same way. If you go for the kiss, who knows what your chances are. it will be something. She might pitty make out with you. that could hot. she might pitty lay you dude. Some girls really cant say no Link to post Share on other sites
Author kidneyguy Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 Hang out with her one night and get her drinking something alcholic then go in for a kiss. 1. Her parents won't let her hang out with anyone, basically (I know, becuase I tried to take her to a Blue Man Group concert, but her parents won't let her go, even if we went with BOTH our parents). I say I respect her parents' wishes, but COME ON! 2. We're a little young to drink, and I can never drink because of my medications. We won't go to any parties to get drunk. We're just like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 didnt relize your to young to drink. If her parents never let her hang out with you then theres your answer. 1) you cant date her because her parents wont let you hang out. 2) maybe this entire "my parents wont let me hang out with you" is half made up and she just doesnt want to flat out refuse to hang out. look either go for that kiss or just give up your romantic dreams with this girl. And with the next girl, be friendly, but be flirty, try to kiss/touch... dont go into that black hole the friend zone Link to post Share on other sites
Author kidneyguy Posted January 11, 2008 Author Share Posted January 11, 2008 She really means it when she says she can't hang out with anybody. One of my friends that's a girl tried to hang out with her, couldn't do it. So the girl I like isn't lying about that. Link to post Share on other sites
Always Wrong Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 Love is not football... there are no conversion plays, darnit! Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 um listen this girl is like a a forbidden fruit, you want it, you need it, you crave it, but you just can't have it. Theres a reason, her parents dont want her to be dating, and thats a shame because her parents are probably crazy and they didnt go out on dates till they were in their 20's (or they had a crazy amount of sex and fun, and did lots of drugs, but realized that their daughter shouldnt be exposed to those things). And honestly, do you want a girlfriend who you only see during school? I guess cause your young..tho i donno how young (middle school? freshman in high school?) i'd suggest you just stay friends with her until you guys can actually...um hang out? Link to post Share on other sites
Author kidneyguy Posted January 14, 2008 Author Share Posted January 14, 2008 um listen i donno how young (middle school? freshman in high school?) i'd suggest you just stay friends with her until you guys can actually...um hang out? We're both high school juniors. And you're probably right. We should just hang out as friends. I'll still try up 'til Valentine's Day, and if I still can't be her boyfriend, (which will probably occur) I won't chase her anymore. I'll probably tell her I like her that day, so......hopefully I can make up some ground during that time. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 We're both high school juniors. And you're probably right. We should just hang out as friends. I'll still try up 'til Valentine's Day, and if I still can't be her boyfriend, (which will probably occur) I won't chase her anymore. I'll probably tell her I like her that day, so......hopefully I can make up some ground during that time. She already knows you like her. Girls are alot more perceptive to that kind of stuff then most guys. Look just try kissing her during lunch one day or something. and do the kiss thing ASAP dont wait till next month to do something that shows ur man enough to make a move. And then move on if it doesnt work out. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 It is never a good idea to be *buddies* with a woman you are romantically interested in. ...You make a romantic move ( like a kiss ) in the very beginning or you will forever be stuck in the Friends Zone. She likely feels comfortable being your buddy. Unless you have some amazing penis or love skillz , I don't think she is going to convert you into a hot lover anytime soon.... Link to post Share on other sites
LikesMeNot Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 I also have a problem. There's this girl i like. we're good with each other. We talk:D, laugh:laugh: together and she smiles a looottt at me. I don't know if she likes me back. My friend told me she knows i like her. He's pretty untrustworthy though, so i don't no if it's true. Last time i had a crush, when the girl found out, she avoided me for the whole school year. Why is she still hanging aroud me? Also, she hangs around this other guy. I'm not the jealous type, but when i see her talking wit him, my blood starts to boil (i do have a bit of a temper) Should i make a move? I'm really in love:love:, and i think of her everyday. I have other girls i could flirt with, but i believe she's the 1. Valentines Day is coming up, and if i no wat 2 do, i'll tell her how i feel then. -Confused Link to post Share on other sites
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