dd9 Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 not really sure what to do and looking for some outside insight... my wife and i were married two years when things just didnt seem to be working out for us. not to risk going in to too many details, but we separated when i couldnt handle living with her but during the separation we talked almost daily and i helped her work through problems that i couldnt live with. i didnt see anyone else, but she ended up sleeping with someone who is in our circle of friends, after first telling me he was just a friend, and that it wasnt like that. eventually we reconciled and now things are much better between us but i can't make love to her without these deep feelings of resentment. i am still incredibly attracted to her but when i kiss her, i think of this other guy kissing her, i think of all i do for her and i can't help but feel such anger that this other guy was there in the middle of our life together, that she had sex with him. for a while things were fine until i ended up going back home with her for a family function, when we ran into him at a bar. and now i feel like i can't even kiss her without feeling like a chump. i cant stop picturing them together and it's driving me insane. i don't want to lose my wife, but i dont want to live the rest of my life resenting her. any comments are appreciated Link to post Share on other sites
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