Is Alcohol Liquid Truth?

[xxscarredxx]

For those that have been keeping up with me, I haven't talked to my ex gf for about 3 days now... until last nite. On my way to work, i received a text from her saying "imissyou". So then i text her back saying that i missed her too, and how bad i felt about how we separated. Then a few minutes later, my voicemail indicator pops up. When i retrieved the message it was her saying, "look, about everything, i dunno.. look, i just wanna talk to u. I don't really care about anything else. Bottom line is that me and u are special.. more than anything else. I guess ur on ur way to work right now. When u can, gimme a call." And that was that. I felt kinda good, like maybe me and her could possibly work things out.

This morning as i was leaving work, i got another voicemail from her saying that she has absolutely no recollection of texting me or leaving me a voicemail from last night because she was drunk... she had deleted my number, but obviously had remembered it and called me. She then said that it was not a good idea that me and her attempt anything because i'm more accepting of things than she is.

I'm a little devestated by it. I don't know what to think, really.

I feel that she's playing with me, and that was a lousy excuse for her actions. Now my devestation is turning into anger... mainly because i don't think she was drunk when she contacted me.

How can i get over her?

[Lee725]

"look, about everything, i dunno.. look, i just wanna talk to u. I don't really care about anything else. Bottom line is that me and u are special.. more than anything else. I guess ur on ur way to work right now. When u can, gimme a call." And that was that. I felt kinda good, like maybe me and her could possibly work things out.

This morning as i was leaving work, i got another voicemail from her saying that she has absolutely no recollection of texting me or leaving me a voicemail from last night because she was drunk... she had deleted my number, but obviously had remembered it and called me.

 

I was just wondering in between her send the TXT and voicemail and then the one in the morning, did you contact her?

 

If you didnt and she had no recollection, how did she know she had done it?

If she saw on her re-dial she had called you, how could she have remembered what she had said?

 

Maybe is it is just me, but would'nt you have to be near pass out drunk not to re-call what you had done? if she was that drunk, i doubt she would have been able to construct proper sentences.

 

Something seems a little a miss here?

Liquid truth (maybe) liquid regret for not being with you (more likely)

[xxscarredxx]

Yes, i did text her back, twice. After she texted me "imissyou" i texted her back saying that i missed her too. Then after her voicemail i texted her again saying that my signal was too weak to call her, and after i leave work in the morning i'd give her a call.

But i still believe that she wasn't all that drunk to call me... and text me.

[vivrantflo]

Ahh, the drunk dial.. been a victim of that many times.. I still get them... Judging by your post, like myself, you work the night shift...

 

This is what I do.. Never answer any phone calls from the ex after 10pm.. that way... anytime you notice her calling you from an earlier time.. you know she's sober..

 

 

If you were doing NC, go right back to it.. and don't answer her calls.. Drunk dials are annoying, and in most cases..give you tons of false hope.. good luck

[D-Lish]

Geez.... that's a pretty strange thing to do.... to say something so touching and then take it back the next day blaming alcohol.

 

Listen- when I am drinking- I often let things fly I am scared to say in person.... It's especially true with someone I have had history with.

 

When I am drinking- my feelings are usually enhanced.

That's a pretty crappy thing to do though. I'd be angry too.

 

I'd proceed to NC immediately.

She needs to learn she can't push your buttons and get away with it whenever she feels the drunken whim.

 

If she has something to say- let her do it sober, in person, and with true sincerity. If not- she's just wasting your time.

[Green]

I think alot of times a person is likely to get more emotional when they drink but I dont necisarily think everything a drunk person says is the truth. I personaly become mr. Hyde when I drink so I tend to avoid it.

[KenzieAbsolutely]

people say a drunk man's words are a sober man's feelings or thoughts or something. i forget how it goes, exactly.

 

personally, i think it's crap. i've lied through my teeth while drunk. i've also come up with some really bad or strange ideas that seemed great at the time, and then when sober thought...'what the *&^%$ was i thinking? i would never do that!'

 

so yeah, i am going to go ahead and venture that 'sober you' is the real you. adding substances to your body that aren't normally there doesn't make the real you. a version of you, yes, but not the real one.

[EYECANDY000]

I honestly believe that she is just playing games with you. She wasnt drunk! and if she was the Im sure that she remembers contacting you.

[BlueEyedSarah]

I feel that she's playing with me, and that was a lousy excuse for her actions.

Yes, she is just playing games and blaming it on drink.

 

How can i get over her?

Delete her phone number, her messages, everything, go in nc with her, go out have fun with your friends, don't answer her calls, dont reply to her texts.

[KenzieAbsolutely]

Maybe is it is just me, but would'nt you have to be near pass out drunk not to re-call what you had done? if she was that drunk, i doubt she would have been able to construct proper sentences.

 

Something seems a little a miss here?

 

you'd be surprised. seriously.

 

(not excusing this girl, by any means, however. just making a valid point because i know differently.)

[e.clipse]

Maybe is it is just me, but would'nt you have to be near pass out drunk not to re-call what you had done? if she was that drunk, i doubt she would have been able to construct proper sentences.

 

Something seems a little a miss here?

 

that is typically the case for most people, yes, but it isn't necessarily so for everyone.

 

based on the OP's post, however, i don't believe she is telling the truth, in that she was "too drunk to having any recollections" whatsoever of the prior night. if anything, she probably was drinking, which could have lowered her inhibition (ie: to not break NC) and heightened her sensitivity (ie: sending emotional messages). that's my take on it, at least.

 

I feel that she's playing with me, and that was a lousy excuse for her actions.

 

i'm not sure if alcohol is liquid truth, to be honest. they say that alcohol lowers your inhibition threshold to the point where you would do things you would be too embarrassed/unsure to do whilst sober. however, this typically goes along with the line of thought that what you do while drunk is the result of thoughts you've experienced while sober (ie: cheating while being drunk).

 

if this is true, then it seems likely that what you say while drunk is also the truth. however, imo, a lot of people are extremely nonsensical when they are drunk, so i wouldn't be so quick to say that all they say is the absolute truth. perhaps they are just thoughts that were once had; after all, thoughts don't equate feelings.

 

the point is: who knows? maybe she did mean what she told you, but the words and actions she illustrated whilst sober speak much more of her character that does the former. she is playing games with you, adjusting her words and actions to her own convenience, and you shouldn't allow that.

 

because she already pulled this little number on you, i'd suggest that you continue with the NC and that (if the is a) next she calls you whilst "drunk," you ignore her. if you are still hopeful in fixing things, then tell her that you will only talk to her when she is fully conscious of her actions, and leave it at that. however, if you have had enough of her mangling you around, then just ignore her. completely.

 

no explanations. no small talk. no nothing. just silence.