Guys height in comaprison to the women he likes.

[Rise Against]

I was wondering what type of height should the guy be comapred to the girl. Would it be okay if the girl was like 3 inches taller?

[Phateless]

It all depends bud. No point getting self conscious about it. I've seen super hott girls with guys who are a bit shorter.

[Trialbyfire]

If that girl was me, you would be 4'11.5". Truth be told, I would consider you too short.

 

You might want to define how tall you are first.

[Phateless]

If that girl was me, you would be 4'11.5". Truth be told, I would consider you too short.

 

You might want to define how tall you are first.

 

lol, TBF your new nickname is pop-tart! shorty!

 

As a guy, I like being taller than the girl, but I'm not intimidated by her being taller, unless she's a professional wrestler or something.

[Green]

I was wondering what type of height should the guy be comapred to the girl. Would it be okay if the girl was like 3 inches taller?

It doesn't matter how tall you are, they don't have rules for these things. You may have to work a little harder to attract a girl who is taller then you though.

[Trialbyfire]

lol, TBF your new nickname is pop-tart! shorty!

 

As a guy, I like being taller than the girl, but I'm not intimidated by her being taller, unless she's a professional wrestler or something.

Hey, not another LS meanie. I'm not short, I'm vertically challenged. Grrrr....

[Phateless]

Hey, not another LS meanie. I'm not short, I'm vertically challenged. Grrrr....

 

lol i'm not mean i swear! on the plus side you can always wear heels (plus sexy)

 

let's hear from some of the taller ladies... how important is height?

[Crestfallen_KH]

Well, I'm 5'10" and it is important to me, at least on first appearance. I like to wear heels too, so I prefer to date a guy that is at least 6'. My ideal, though, is 6'3" or taller. I think I'm a bit unusual, though. I know of several tall girls who date or marry guys that are closer to their height.

 

I certainly wouldn't discount a guy who was shorter than I, but honestly I probably wouldn't take him too seriously at first. Once I got to know him, though, if I really liked him the height thing wouldn't be much of an issue. I just usually end up dating the tall guys because they seem to like tall girls and that's what I prefer.

[Phateless]

Well, I'm 5'10" and it is important to me, at least on first appearance. I like to wear heels too, so I prefer to date a guy that is at least 6'. My ideal, though, is 6'3" or taller. I think I'm a bit unusual, though. I know of several tall girls who date or marry guys that are closer to their height.

 

I certainly wouldn't discount a guy who was shorter than I, but honestly I probably wouldn't take him too seriously at first. Once I got to know him, though, if I really liked him the height thing wouldn't be much of an issue. I just usually end up dating the tall guys because they seem to like tall girls and that's what I prefer.

 

How much would it stop you from bothering to get to know him at all? I mean, I'm 5'10 so I don't think I get disqualified on height too often, but I always wish I was an inch taller.

[CaliGuy]

Well, I'm 5'10" and it is important to me, at least on first appearance. I like to wear heels too, so I prefer to date a guy that is at least 6'. My ideal, though, is 6'3" or taller. I think I'm a bit unusual, though. I know of several tall girls who date or marry guys that are closer to their height.

 

I certainly wouldn't discount a guy who was shorter than I, but honestly I probably wouldn't take him too seriously at first. Once I got to know him, though, if I really liked him the height thing wouldn't be much of an issue. I just usually end up dating the tall guys because they seem to like tall girls and that's what I prefer.

 

Inscecure guys won't like women who are taller than them.

 

Secure men won't even consider a woman's height as part of the equation.

 

I wonder how my 5'9" friend who married a 5'11 woman (6'2" in heels) feels when they're out on the town. Oh I know. They don't care

 

If it doesn't bother them, why should it bother anyone else? The answer is, they don't care

[DutchGuy]

Inscecure guys won't like women who are taller than them.

 

Secure men won't even consider a woman's height as part of the equation.

 

I wonder how my 5'9" friend who married a 5'11 woman (6'2" in heels) feels when they're out on the town. Oh I know. They don't care

 

If it doesn't bother them, why should it bother anyone else? The answer is, they don't care

 

That's a bit harsh, preference doesn't have to be linked to (in)security.

By the way, if you argue for something you always have to look at extreme cases and no matter how confident or unshallow you are, there'll always be a point at where someone is too short or too tall.

 

In general I think a guy should be taller than a girl or of equal height (not more than an inch shorter).

But that's just me, my sister is pretty tall and most guys she dated were short.

[cj1988]

One of my best friends is over 6 foot tall and her H is shorter than she is...they are adorable together !

[CaliGuy]

That's a bit harsh, preference doesn't have to be linked to (in)security.

By the way, if you argue for something you always have to look at extreme cases and no matter how confident or unshallow you are, there'll always be a point at where someone is too short or too tall.

 

In general I think a guy should be taller than a girl or of equal height (not more than an inch shorter).

But that's just me, my sister is pretty tall and most guys she dated were short.

 

It might sound harsh to you, but if you think about it, if you are looking at the person for who they are and not what they are, height should never really enter into the equation. It would simply be judgement based on what a person is and not who.

 

To say someone is "too tall" or "too short" is the same as saying "I don't care how good of a person you are, I can't get past a particular physical attribute."

 

Confident, secure people put very little (if any at all) value on physical attributes.

[DutchGuy]

It might sound harsh to you, but if you think about it, if you are looking at the person for who they are and not what they are, height should never really enter into the equation. It would simply be judgement based on what a person is and not who.

 

To say someone is "too tall" or "too short" is the same as saying "I don't care how good of a person you are, I can't get past a particular physical attribute."

 

Confident, secure people put very little (if any at all) value on physical attributes.

 

Our attraction to others isn't purely spiritual but also physical.

We do look at people for both what they are and who they are.

Would you date a man if he had a great personality? A penis is just a physical attribute.

Would you date a 6yo or a 90yo if they had a great personality? Age is only a number if you don't care for appearance.

These things have nothing to do with confidence, they have to do with physical preferences. Everybody has them and there's no need to be ashamed of it or to judge people for having them.

[Pyro]

Hey, not another LS meanie. I'm not short, I'm vertically challenged. Grrrr....

 

:lmao: Shrimp

[Trialbyfire]

:lmao: Shrimp

Don't make me punch you in the kneecap.

[Pyro]

Don't make me punch you in the kneecap.

 

Do I have to trap you up inside a sock again?

[Crestfallen_KH]

Inscecure guys won't like women who are taller than them.

 

Secure men won't even consider a woman's height as part of the equation.

 

I wonder how my 5'9" friend who married a 5'11 woman (6'2" in heels) feels when they're out on the town. Oh I know. They don't care

 

If it doesn't bother them, why should it bother anyone else? The answer is, they don't care

 

I agree, it shouldn't bother anyone else. I never meant to imply otherwise. There are much more important qualities that should be looked at before the physical; however, it is the physical we notice first.

 

I do have preferences, like any other human being. I prefer tall, dark hair, angular features, larger frame and within three years of my own age. But if I got to know a shorter, blond-haired guy with a round face and small frame who was 27 years old (I'm 33) and he was sweet, intelligent, spoke well of his exes and his mom, and was honest and funny, I would absolutely date him because I place more importance on those qualities.

[Trialbyfire]

Do I have to trap you up inside a sock again?

I give. Anything but the sock...

 

As for the OP, chemistry happens or not. No matter what anyone's wishlist is, it's the entire composite of the person which will drive the attraction.

[Saxis]

My X was taller than me when she wore heels and it was never an issue. I'll have to say though: I'm not that tall, and I'd feel a bit uncomfortable dating someone that towered over me. A couple inches, fine.

 

Also, those long-legged model types always seem full of themselves, whereas the cute shorties () seem more down to earth (pun intended ). Yeah yeah... that's stereotyping, but it's been true in my experiences for the most part.

[CaliGuy]

Our attraction to others isn't purely spiritual but also physical.

We do look at people for both what they are and who they are.

Would you date a man if he had a great personality? A penis is just a physical attribute.

Would you date a 6yo or a 90yo if they had a great personality? Age is only a number if you don't care for appearance.

These things have nothing to do with confidence, they have to do with physical preferences. Everybody has them and there's no need to be ashamed of it or to judge people for having them.

 

Not judging them. In fact, I am pointing out what others know to be true.

 

We "say" we're not shallow creatures but deep down, we are. And the physical attributes we claim to seek merely scratches the surface.

 

Part of why people are single and lonely all the time is they put far too much emphasis on the physical attributes they are seeking and much less on the person as a whole.

 

I'm not disagreeing that people have them. What I am saying is quite often too much emphasis is put on them.

[CaliGuy]

I agree, it shouldn't bother anyone else. I never meant to imply otherwise. There are much more important qualities that should be looked at before the physical; however, it is the physical we notice first.

 

I do have preferences, like any other human being. I prefer tall, dark hair, angular features, larger frame and within three years of my own age. But if I got to know a shorter, blond-haired guy with a round face and small frame who was 27 years old (I'm 33) and he was sweet, intelligent, spoke well of his exes and his mom, and was honest and funny, I would absolutely date him because I place more importance on those qualities.

 

If I have learned anything in life, it's to stop imagining what my eventual spouse is going to look like or how old they are going to be and just let God work His magic.

[DutchGuy]

Not judging them. In fact, I am pointing out what others know to be true.

 

We "say" we're not shallow creatures but deep down, we are. And the physical attributes we claim to seek merely scratches the surface.

 

Part of why people are single and lonely all the time is they put far too much emphasis on the physical attributes they are seeking and much less on the person as a whole.

 

I'm not disagreeing that people have them. What I am saying is quite often too much emphasis is put on them.

 

You judge them because you say they must be insecure.

This is not about being insecure or not, it's about acknowledging the importance of physical attraction in being attracted to a person (this being physical, spiritual and circumstancial attraction combined).

 

Some people will be very lonely because they are too demanding, but that doesn't apply to physical preferences alone. It might also be hard to find a partner if you insist they share all your passions. Or if they must be a billionaire.

 

To me, turning someone down because they don't believe in your god or don't share your political stance, is equally shallow to turning them down because how they look. But both have nothing to do with being insecure.

 

And everybody is 'shallow' in one way or the other, dating an ungly old billionaire doesn't make you any less shallow than dating a gorgeous shrew.

[CaliGuy]

You judge them because you say they must be insecure.

 

Yes. That's what men who won't date women who are taller than them are essentially saying.

 

This is not about being insecure or not, it's about acknowledging the importance of physical attraction in being attracted to a person (this being physical, spiritual and circumstancial attraction combined).

 

I never said it wasn't important. What I am inferring is those who include or exclude someone out based purely on a physical attribute. That's looking at someone for what they are and not WHO they are.

 

Some people will be very lonely because they are too demanding, but that doesn't apply to physical preferences alone. It might also be hard to find a partner if you insist they share all your passions. Or if they must be a billionaire.

 

Agreed, but none of those attributes are based on WHO the person is. You are not defined by your money or career or anything of the sort. What it comes down to is personality. You CAN be defined by what you own or how much money you have, but only if you allow your sense of self worth to be determined by such things

 

To me, turning someone down because they don't believe in your god or don't share your political stance, is equally shallow to turning them down because how they look. But both have nothing to do with being insecure.

 

Political stance I might understand. Faith is something completely different and has much more of an impact than what candidate you are backing. None of that has an effect on whether you are pleasing God or not.

 

And everybody is 'shallow' in one way or the other, dating an ungly old billionaire doesn't make you any less shallow than dating a gorgeous shrew.

 

Never said it didn't. But dating an ugly old billionaire because he's a billionaire and not because you love the person he is, does.

 

Pursuing a relationship with someone based on a physical attribute is completely irrational and I am willing to bet, causes a huge chunk of problems we are all facing on this forum. We see the "red flags" yet we ignore them because that person, in our eyes at least, is "hot." Yes, their physical attributes might draw them to you but it will not hold a relationship together alone nor will it be a healthy one.

 

I don't disagree with what you are saying. I simply do not believe that making someone's physical attributes the most important aspect when choosing whether or not to pursue a relationship is a good idea. I think it's a sure path to relationship failure.

 

It's just not good practice to include or exclude someone from your dating pool simply based on a/many physical attributes.

[Mustang Sally]

As I've said in other similar threads....

 

I'm tall and slender. 6'0' to 6'1" depending on who does the measuring....(my mom vs my old basketball coach )

 

I'm married to a guy who is shorter than me at 5'10" to 5'11".

It doesn't bother him, because he always dated girls my height. Has a thing for that, it seems.

 

It doesn't bother me, because it doesn't bother him.

 

But, most of the guys I dated, back when I was dating, were taller than me.

 

I wear up to 2.5" heels when I feel like it. I figure if it bothers someone, then f*ck 'em.

 

I personally think it's silly to make preconceived judgements about people because of things like height.

JMO.

 

Oh. And Saxis? If you never met any model-esque gals who weren't just full of themselves, then you must not have been looking in the right places. Sorry about that for you.