Guys height in comaprison to the women he likes.

[shadowplay]

I've never understood height requirements either. I laugh when I see them, but whatever floats their boat.

 

And I've never heard of a man, regardless of height, say I need a woman at least xx tall.

 

I kind of understand the "concept" of women needing to feel secure therefore requesting a "tall" man, but that's never really made complete sense to me. What are they doing that they need to feel "protected" over and what makes them think a 5'6" guy couldn't whip a 6'2" guy?

 

See: Bruce Lee.

 

I don't think height is a dealbreaker for the average woman unless the guy is actually shorter than she is. Height is a bonus like any other good trait; it rarely makes or breaks a guy. Most women would probably prefer to date a taller guy all other things being equal, but it rarely comes down to one superficial feature like that since people are all so different.

Edited January 11, 2008 by shadowplay

[Art_Critic]

I don't think height is a dealbreaker for the average woman unless the guy is actually shorter than she is.

 

You haven't tried online dating have you ?..

I have contacted women that we matched except for the height requirement and have been politely told that I didn't fit her height requirements..

 

More than once that has happened.. in fact a good bit of the time.. that is where I came to believe how ridiculous it is for a woman 5'5" to only date men over 6'... since most men are not over 6' she is cutting her dating pool by 2/3 or more..

[shadowplay]

You haven't tried online dating have you ?..

I have contacted women that we matched except for the height requirement and have been politely told that I didn't fit her height requirements..

 

More than once that has happened.. in fact a good bit of the time.. that is where I came to believe how ridiculous it is for a woman 5'5" to only date men over 6'... since most men are not over 6' she is cutting her dating pool by 2/3 or more..

 

It is much easier to dismiss someone online you haven't met for some superficial criterion. It's a way of sorting through the clutter and narrowing down your search. I don't believe women are usually this superficial and dismissive in real life. Women are usually swamped in emails when they put up an online profile and some may use a check list as a fast way of weeding suitors out.

Edited January 11, 2008 by shadowplay

[Art_Critic]

I don't believe women are usually this superficial and dismissive in real life.

 

Correct me if I'm wrong.. but isn't online dating real life in today's world ?

 

I see where you are coming from though..Online dating can be a bit like a candy store.. and in a face to face scenario a person's height becomes secondary

[shadowplay]

Correct me if I'm wrong.. but isn't online dating real life in today's world ?

 

I see where you are coming from though..Online dating can be a bit like a candy store.. and in a face to face scenario a person's height becomes secondary

 

What do you mean by this? I don't think online dating becomes "real" until there is actual face to face contact. Even then, it's different from traditional dating because people have more options and are more likely to shop around and dismiss people for superficial reasons.

[Art_Critic]

What do you mean by this? I don't think online dating becomes "real" until there is actual face to face contact.

 

But it is real.. that is how people are actually meeting today...

 

It was real before I met anybody.. it was real while I was emailing them or talking with them on the phone...

 

I met my wife online.. it was real before I had a face to face with her.. We had already spent many hours making sure it was real...

[DutchGuy]

I think it is much easier to dismiss people online for some superficial criterion before you've ever met them. It's like a way of sorting through the clutter and narrowing down your search. I don't believe women are usually this superficial and dismissive in real life. These women are often beseiged by emails when they put up a profile and need a fast way of weeding people out.

 

I think we all are as superficial in real life but not as harsh.

If I see women I think: no, no, yes, no, no, no, yes, maybe, definitely.

And the women do the same.

But if a 'no' comes up to me I'll always have a talk and let her down easy.

[shadowplay]

But it is real.. that is how people are actually meeting today...

 

It was real before I met anybody.. it was real while I was emailing them or talking with them on the phone...

 

I met my wife online.. it was real before I had a face to face with her.. We had already spent many hours making sure it was real...

 

Plenty of people still date in the traditional way. I've never gone the online route.

[CaliGuy]

Actually a lot of guys are selfconscious about their muscles.

I'm not trying to pick on you but I think you are much more insecure about height.

 

If I was, I wouldn't have dated a woman 4" taller than me (without heels).

 

I don't think I am insecure about my height because it doesn't even bother me. I do laugh about height requirements when I see them posted online though. Not out loud. Inwardly.

[DutchGuy]

If I was, I wouldn't have dated a woman 4" taller than me (without heels).

 

I don't think I am insecure about my height because it doesn't even bother me. I do laugh about height requirements when I see them posted online though. Not out loud. Inwardly.

 

The fact that you keep repeating that you are so happy with your height gives me the idea that you need to remind yourself. It's clear that women who have height requirements really hit a sore spot with you.

[Blue Eyed Brain]

I'm 5'2" - 5'3" and I wear heels all the time. Therefore, with heels, I am 5'5 or 5'6.

 

Anyone over 5'8 or taller would be perfect for me!

[CaliGuy]

The fact that you keep repeating that you are so happy with your height gives me the idea that you need to remind yourself. It's clear that women who have height requirements really hit a sore spot with you.

 

I'm not reminding myself of anything nor is it a sore spot. I do find that people question if this is how I really feel and thus when I have to repeat it, someone's going to come behind and say "See, you're repeating it coz you're trying to convince yourself."

 

There's always one who makes this "assumption."

[InferiorityComplex]

Well, I am 5'3" when I first wake up in the morning, and 5'2" when I go to bed at night. I have always had a thing for tall guys. Just the way we "fit" together, (both mind in and out of the gutter) My ex was 6'4" and my current bf is 6'3". There's just something about the hugging and cuddling with a taller man. I would think spooning would be odd if the woman were the "bigger spoon"

 

Also, my bfs brother is 6'6" and his wife is 5'1". They seem like a perfect couple....even though their 3 year old daughter is catching up to her quickly and she has to stand on something to take pictures with him. LOL

 

But yes, when I was actively dating I had a height and a weight requirement. Taller than me, and bigger than me. I wouldn't date some short guy, as I wouldn't date some twiggy emo boy. I also had an age requirement...older than me. My current is older by 2 months...therefore he passes.

 

But that is all pre relationship stuff. I think once love comes into play that stuff shouldn't matter anymore. If my bf got in an accident and lost his legs, I wouldn't leave him because he's shorter in a wheelchair.

[DutchGuy]

I'm not reminding myself of anything nor is it a sore spot. I do find that people question if this is how I really feel and thus when I have to repeat it, someone's going to come behind and say "See, you're repeating it coz you're trying to convince yourself."

 

There's always one who makes this "assumption."

 

Okay, I'll drop it.

[blackbird]

I remember one time, my younger sister was visiting me, and I took her out to dinner at this 'family-style gourmet supper' restaurant where you sit at the same table with everyone else there and get served from a single menu, like a big dinner party with strangers and awesome food. The couple seated next to us was this sweet, gorgeous, tall blonde woman, and a charming, outgoing man who must have been a good four or five inches shorter than she was, both seemingly in their early 40s or so. I remember my little sister commenting afterwards, "She must love him a lot!"

 

Not long after I started seeing someone who was only an inch taller than me, which meant, with most of my shoes having 2 inch or higher heels, I'm usually as tall or taller. Least tall of anyone I've ever dated -- I'm 5'7", and with the exception of one ex who was 5'10", all my other lovers have been 5'11" or taller. (He's also quite slender, but that's not a new thing for me, I tend to go for the slim builds. But at his height, that means he only weighs about 10-15 pounds more than I do, though he's ALL muscle and can wrestle me down with ease.)

 

I'm not going to lie and say there's no difference whatsoever. Sometimes I do miss the feeling of being able to lean into a man's chest and have his arms envelop me and surround me completely. Or being able to embrace him standing up and nestle my face against his neck/chest without putting a huge crick in my neck. There is something that feels very warm and pleasant about that, something that hearkens back to childhood maybe, like being cradled and protected. But for me at least, I have found this is of very little importance. I'm sure my SO would like it if my tits were a little bigger. I've heard him talk about how visually and sensually stimulating bigger tits are. But is it important? Does his height or the size of my tits turn either of us off? No. In the end, as long as you find each other attractive overall, height is no big deal IMO. If there's a large disparity, you do have to deal with the opinions of society, so someone who is very sensitive to what others think may have a problem with this even if they don't personally.

[Meaplus3]

I was wondering what type of height should the guy be comapred to the girl. Would it be okay if the girl was like 3 inches taller?

 

Well I alway's prefered the guy to be taller as I like to look up to them. I'm 5'7 so any where from 5'10 to 6-1 felt comfy for me. I did once date a guy decades ago and he was the same height, that was just strange! I guess was matter's most is that your comfortable.

 

AP:)

[ElvenPriestess]

I'm comfortable so long as I don't look down at the guy. lol. I'm 5'2, so that's a rare problem for me;)

[JamesM]

I am always amazed at how simple questions can generate such detailed debate...unnecessarily IMO.

 

I am six foot. My wife is 5 ft 5 inches. Most of the women I have dated were around the same height...5'4 to 5'6". (Which I find interesting, because the height of women that I find most eye catching today is around 5' to5'1" and petite. Reality is..I never felt "matched" with them).

 

Was it because of my insecurities that I did not date taller women or was it simply because I am attracted to that height range? I think it is an attraction issue...period.

 

I did date a girl who was one inch taller than me with her shoes on. While I did not marry her, I don't think this would have been the reason. I did date one who was around 5' 2". Again, the height was not the reason that I quit dating her. (Being truthful, I think it was because she weighed more than I did). I simply look back and see that the women I was attracted to were in the same height range.

 

What is proper?

 

Personal preference. I have a friend who is barely 5'4" married to a woman who is 5'10". For me...this is out of my range. For him...they have been married for 25 years.

 

And I know of a guy who is 6' 5" and married to a woman who barely tops out at 5'1". Yep, they have been married for quite awhile, too.

 

So, you choose who you are comfortable with and be happy.

 

Are people going to make comments or look at you if you are shorter? Yes. Will they look at you if you are a lot taller? Yes. But they will also look at you if you are alot fatter or thinner than her. Or any other noticeable difference. Does this mean that this opinion should decide whom you decide to marry? I think the answer is obviously no.

[Meaplus3]

I'm comfortable so long as I don't look down at the guy. lol. I'm 5'2, so that's a rare problem for me;)

 

LOL! Well it would be if your were dating a Horse Racing jockey, they seem to be all in the 4'ft range!

 

AP:)

[thewholeshabangg]

the first thing i notice about a guy is his height.. just as some people look at eyes, hair, face structure, dress.. everyone has preferences.

im a tall woman. I come in at a whoppin 5'9 and i mostly embrace my height, however there are times that i feel uncomfortable and almost.. 'man-ly' because im tall.

then i go and buy more heels cause im obsessed

 

i wouldn't say that i wouldn't date someone shorter than me, but to be completely honest, it would take time for me to be completely comfortable with the difference, especially since all of my s.o's have been over 6'3

[starlite]

I like to wear heels, so I'd be uncomfortable around a guy who was less than three inches taller. I dated a guy who was only an inch or two taller than me once, and I always felt like a giant next to him in heels.

 

It is so funny this is coming up now as I recently met someone online (never thought I would say that) and I think we may go on our first date soon. Well, I am 5'8" and love wearing heels, usually 3". He claims he is 5'10" but his pictures make him look a bit smaller than that and I am really worried about what I should wear on my feet. The smallest heels I have are 2.5".

 

It makes me feel insecure to be taller than the guy I am with, I want to feel little, sexy, cute...like he can just pick me up...when i am taller I feel oaffie.

 

I am still going to go on the date, i have to see for myself. And he has to ask me on a date first...but i think it is coming.

[CaliGuy]

It is so funny this is coming up now as I recently met someone online (never thought I would say that) and I think we may go on our first date soon. Well, I am 5'8" and love wearing heels, usually 3". He claims he is 5'10" but his pictures make him look a bit smaller than that and I am really worried about what I should wear on my feet. The smallest heels I have are 2.5".

 

It makes me feel insecure to be taller than the guy I am with, I want to feel little, sexy, cute...like he can just pick me up...when i am taller I feel oaffie.

 

I am still going to go on the date, i have to see for myself. And he has to ask me on a date first...but i think it is coming.

 

Ok I think I am getting a clearer picture here. You are 5'8" which is taller than most women. In order for you to feel petite (ie: sexy) you need a big man. One who can easily pick you up.

 

I think this goes back to what I was saying earlier. It's not how a man looks that attracts a woman in the long run for a LTR, it's how he makes her feel. And if he's much larger than her, especially if she is tall, he makes her feel more petite. How does this work in relation to short women requiring tall men?

 

Am I on track with that? Just trying to get a better understanding behind the logic of height requirements.

[johan]

The analysis on this thread is pretty deep. Maybe we need a guide on how to be cool with being whatever height you are. Because when you get right down to it, it's who you really are that matters.

[Jilly Bean]

Because when you get right down to it, it's who you really are that matters.

 

 

True. So long as a man you are wrapped in a 6' tall package.

[johan]

True. So long as a man you are wrapped in a 6' tall package.

 

I'm not. But it's ok with me if you think of me that way. It's fortunate that there are other packages that matter almost as much.