angelina78 Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 hi all, been reading the boards all night looking for a similar situation, but perhaps this one is (slightly) unique. i'll bullet point the specifics for easy reading . . . thanks in advance for your advice! been developing friendship with a guy for year and a half; we've become very closemore recently, i've started thinking of him in a romantic way (when i met him, i was in a LDR that ended about 6 months ago and i'm finally over it).he's 10 years younger than me (well over legal age btw); and i know he prefers girls younger than himhaven't done anything physicalwe spend all of our time together, so much so that it would be difficult for either of us to date anyone elsewe talk about everything, including serious topic (his fears, insecurities). he can't seem to do this with other people, especially girls he's previously datedwe're playful with each other, touching each other, etc.he told me it's hard for him to make the first moveoften "performs" for me (i.e. sports type things)said to someone else (my ex) in my presense that he has never thought of a friend that's a girl in a romantic waydoesn't have many close friends that are girlsi was a little tipsy one night, hanging out with another guy friend of ours (mostly mine, but he's met him and is friends with him too), called him saying that i was contemplating having sex with our mutual friend and said that i wouldn't want that to one day interfere with my giving him (my guy friend in question) a bj . . . he responded that he didn't think it would interfere (but said somewhat shyly or awkwardly)i just don't know what to do here . . . i don't think i want a serious relationship, but would like to make it physical. i don't necessarily subscribe to the belief that sex ruins a friendship. any advice would be great! thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 What's the age difference between you two. Are you both single? Link to post Share on other sites
Author angelina78 Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 he's 10 years younger and we are both single . . . Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 he's 10 years younger and we are both single . . . Then go for it!!!! Have fun and dont be his mother. Be his woman!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author angelina78 Posted January 11, 2008 Author Share Posted January 11, 2008 I think my problem is that i don't know how to go about it. Neither of us are ones to make the first move and i wouldn't want to make things awkward between us by making a move that's unwelcome . . . Link to post Share on other sites
fral945 Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 You should make the first move yourself. If sex is offered and the woman is attractive enough generally we men won't turn it down. We're easy. Just start kissing & put your hand down his pants and the rest should take care of itself. That would work for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 lol, that's too much. I prefer the subtle but firm approach. Give him a strong clue he cant ignore. You cant be afraid of rejection angelina. If your afraid of doing anything in life you would be stuck in the corner for the rest of your life. You would never take risks with your life. Approach and be friendly, flirt and just ask him if he isnt busy, could you get lunch with him. The thing to getting the guy is to let him take his guard down. Make him relax and open up. Then you could just ask him if you guys can go out sometime get to know each other better. Maybe he likes you but doesnt know how to approach you. Link to post Share on other sites
Always Wrong Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 (edited) You said you spend a lot of time together talking about things he can't talk to others about? Well........ ask him, (as if you were asking about two "other" people), if he thinks two friends as close as you two are, could take it to a physical level without damaging the friendship? If approaching the subject in that way makes him squirm, then just say, "How bout those Red Sox!" "Do lunch?" "I need a drink..." Edited January 11, 2008 by Always Wrong no spacing Link to post Share on other sites
Author angelina78 Posted January 15, 2008 Author Share Posted January 15, 2008 great advice, all! i think i feel most comfortable with the last approach, though the kissing and the hand down the pants sounds more fun . . . thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 just set up a romantic situation and gradually escalate -dinner/wine -movie at your house -cuddling -go in for the kiss easy. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 he's 10 years younger and we are both single . . . IMOP 10 year's is not big deal at all! The most important thing here is the compatibility between the two of you. Gosh if it's there by all mean's go for it, I would! Good Luck! AP:) Link to post Share on other sites
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