depressed Posted June 16, 2003 Share Posted June 16, 2003 I recently discovered that my boyfriend has been watching porn and, well, you know, "relieving himslef" and maybe part of it is because I'm pregnant, very sensitive, and very emotional, but I feel like its a form of cheating. He says its no big deal that every guy does it and why does he have to be the bad guy. I said I don't care what other guys do, i'm not in love with them. I don't understand why he doesn't understand how much this hurts me. I feel cheated on, even if he only fantizies about those girls for those few seconds it bothers me a lot, I don't know what to do, I don't know how to make him understand. he feels its totaly natural but its not to me...I want to be the one he wants in that way all the time, why cant I turn him on in that way that easily? I don't know what to do or say......any advise is appreciated...... Link to post Share on other sites
NEONINK Posted June 16, 2003 Share Posted June 16, 2003 Well, this guy needs to step up to plate. If he's big enough to get you pregnant, if he's old enough to watch porn, if he's wise enough to pull the 'everybody does it routine', then he probably should marry the mother of his child. But that would be asking too much, wouldn't it? So what do you care if he takes care of himself while your pregnant? I think you have bigger problems than the Playboy channel. Is he going to stick around after the baby? Link to post Share on other sites
Jamie31 Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 I wouldn't worry too much about this. He is right - most guys do look at porn. It doesn't mean that he is cheating on you. Be glad that he is looking at porn instead of out running around and cheating on you. It's just a stupid guy thing, don't let it bother you that much. He might just be doing it because you are pregnant. I gave this advise to another woman with this problem - why not join him? I don't know how you feel about porn, but instead of bitching at him for looking at it, why not watch it with him? Who knows, it might spruce up your sex life and add a little spark, and I am sure he would appreciate it. Me and my husband watch porn together, and it does add a little something, I mean we don't have to have it, but it's something that we can do together. Just give it a try and if you still don't like it, at least you can say you tried. Hope I have helped!! Link to post Share on other sites
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