Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Exactly. Her 50 doesn't have to be in the form of money. She could make up for that in other aspects and I'm not talking about sex only. There you go riddler, give and take. 50/50. Spending time with a man on an even playing field without the idea of using him, makes him feel good. It gives him the opportunity to open up and let his guard down. A man would trust a woman more when it's clear she isnt after his money. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 There you go riddler, give and take. 50/50. Spending time with a man on an even playing field without the idea of using him, makes him feel good. It gives him the opportunity to open up and let his guard down. A man would trust a woman more when it's clear she isnt after his money. -Doing thoughtful gestures -making him laugh -listening to him when he vents about something Just a few examples of a woman showing you that she is not using you. Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 -Doing thoughtful gestures -making him laugh -listening to him when he vents about something Just a few examples of a woman showing you that she is not using you. Also, the hallmarks of the best users. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Also, the hallmarks of the best users. True a sneaky person could get away with it, but actions do speak louder then words. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Also, the hallmarks of the best users. True but if your smart and got a good eye you can see the red flags and identify them before you get deeper with them. Trust your gut!!! lol. Link to post Share on other sites
CraigAllen Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 When a woman is promiscuous, everybody say she's being 'used'. When is the male being used? never? I think this is a 'macho' way of thinking. What if she IS using them... Any comments. I think men can most definitely be used. Question for you though, Lizzie. Do you even consider dating single men, or are you exclusively into guys that are in relationships... married or otherwise? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 I think men can most definitely be used. Question for you though, Lizzie. Do you even consider dating single men, or are you exclusively into guys that are in relationships... married or otherwise? I do date single men... I have single 'friends' with benefits. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Huh??? how can you say that? Do you investigate the past of all your partners? I know it sounds crazy, but there are people out there who are actually able to recall all their partners, and are willing to be upfront about past relationships, if for no other reason than safety's sake. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 I know it sounds crazy, but there are people out there who are actually able to recall all their partners, and are willing to be upfront about past relationships, if for no other reason than safety's sake. Oh well... I suppose.. there's all kind of people out there.. Link to post Share on other sites
CraigAllen Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 I do date single men... I have single 'friends' with benefits. Thanks, I'm sorry I haven't read a ton of your posts, I was just trying to gain a little understanding or your situation. I thought you were exclusively into married guys. Glad to hear you're an equal opportunity man-user. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Oh well... I suppose.. there's all kind of people out there.. True dat, but I have to say I'm glad to know that we're not likely fishing in the same pools. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Glad to hear you're an equal opportunity man-user. From what I know of Lizzie ( from her postings ) she is far from a man-user.. If anything the men she sees use her... She is only along for the ride Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 Thanks, I'm sorry I haven't read a ton of your posts, I was just trying to gain a little understanding or your situation. I thought you were exclusively into married guys. Glad to hear you're an equal opportunity man-user. exactly... Marital status is only an option. When I fill out forms, at the Sex box : I don't tick 'F' I put 'PLS' Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 True dat, but I have to say I'm glad to know that we're not likely fishing in the same pools. Well sorry to burst your balloon... but you can never be 100% sure about that... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 From what I know of Lizzie ( from her postings ) she is far from a man-user.. If anything the men she sees use her... She is only along for the ride Oh well..that's your opinion... I see it quite differently actually... but you're entitled to your opinions... Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Well sorry to burst your balloon... but you can never be 100% sure about that... Actually, I'm pretty sure. People aren't as unpredictable and mysterious as we'd like to think. Link to post Share on other sites
bestillmyheart Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Actually, its if she is sleeping around, she is a whore or slut not being used but anywho........I am *using* my ex that way because thats the last thing I wanted to give up when he decided to break up, lmbo....... And HE is the one that vents to me about work and doesnt mind me asking for a loan and chooses to tell me he thinks about us together when he jerks off........hhhmmmm........maybe someone wasnt as over as he thought he was?! Link to post Share on other sites
Dean Moriarty Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Being used is when the two partners in a relationship have different views of the relationship. A girl who thinks she has a loving boyfriend but in reality she is just a f*cktoy to him and he is out having unprotected sex with bridge hookers and putting her at risk for STDs. That girl is being used. A guy who falls madly in love with his best female friend. She says she doesn't want to ruin the friendship by acting on their shared chemistry at the moment, but maybe at some point in the future... In the meantime, would he mind buying her dinner, changing her oil and babysitting her kids while she goes out on dates? That guy is being used. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 When a woman is promiscuous, everybody say she's being 'used'. When is the male being used? never? I think this is a 'macho' way of thinking. What if she IS using them... Any comments. Being used is when someone doesn't care about you at all as a person, only values you for being able to get some sexual satisfaction. Usually men do this more than women, hence the gender bias. But as you point out, women can do it too. A lot of the time, people in casual relationships are not using each other at all. Often they just like each other's bedroom and wine bar company, but don't want the baggage of serious relationships. They are basically like friends, who also happen to f*ck like rabbits. But to a married couple, or boring bf/gf couple, this is a horrifying thought - what, two adults who don't want 2.4 kids, 3 cars and a white picket fence? How terrible, they can't be having fun can they? They must be "using" each other - yes, that's it. Married people often use each other - for security, housework, sex, money, keeping up appearances, social climbing, starting a family etc. But that's ok Basically the word "used" is 90% of the time bandied around as a socially acceptable insult against people who have a better sex life than you. P.S. 90% of single guys would love to be "used" for sex by an attractive woman. Hell yeah! Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 I've used men sexually/emotionally before. People who knew me back then never mistook it for the other way around, either. Did they enjoy it? If so, then they weren't really used. If not, more fool them! Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 Did they enjoy it? If so, then they weren't really used. If not, more fool them! They enjoyed it, up until the time I had to cut them loose anyway. They didn't so much like that part. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 They enjoyed it, up until the time I had to cut them loose anyway. They didn't so much like that part. So, are you saying they wanted to be used some more? Link to post Share on other sites
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