yongyong Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 I was one of those self-conscious dude. I discovered pua community and it helped me boost my self-esteem. I keep going to the bar once a week and try to open up conversation at coffee places. I learned that it really depends on how confident I am during conversation. so if I mess up something, I blame my skills (not my ethnicity) To increase the chance of meeting a good girl friend, I joined match.com I think my profile is ok. I sent about 60 messages and got only couple replies (no interest) Feels like sending out flyers. (if you get 2% return, that's successful:lmao:) When I talked to guys from PUA community 'hey it's hard as being an Asian' , they usually say 'that's your advantage, you are the unique one!' to boost my ego However, When I look at the stats, I now realize the reality. P.S: if you are woman and want to see my profile to give some advice, let me know I will pm you Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Well, not sure if this will help, but I am a blue eyed, blonde 100% american girl who finds asian men very attractive. I have never dated one due mostly to circumstance. I agree that dating is a numbers game, and that confidence is THE biggest turn on ! If you want to send me a link to your profile I would be happy to give you constructive criticism. Good luck ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author yongyong Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 there is no PM function here. tell me your email! Well, not sure if this will help, but I am a blue eyed, blonde 100% american girl who finds asian men very attractive. I have never dated one due mostly to circumstance. I agree that dating is a numbers game, and that confidence is THE biggest turn on ! If you want to send me a link to your profile I would be happy to give you constructive criticism. Good luck ! Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Online dating does suck. I didnt do match.com But im on black planet and it isnt working for me. The good looking ones aint even trying to meet you if you aint ballin!!! lol. Link to post Share on other sites
SeraBella Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Online dating does suck. I didnt do match.com But im on black planet and it isnt working for me. The good looking ones aint even trying to meet you if you aint ballin!!! lol. forgive me..what does that mean? (i seriously don't mean to sound stupid or like an ass) Link to post Share on other sites
Author yongyong Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 forgive me..what does that mean? (i seriously don't mean to sound stupid or like an ass) Baller = someone who has lots of money Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 forgive me..what does that mean? (i seriously don't mean to sound stupid or like an ass) Where's a gun where you need one!!! so I can shoot myself!!! lol. Ballin, flossing synonyms associated with being rich and or wealthy. Living a lavish lifestyle and splurging financially on women at a whim. The woman and man went shopping and brought a $7,000 louis vuitton bag with his black american express card. The cashier replied you must be ballin!!!! duh!!!! lol. Link to post Share on other sites
SeraBella Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 sorry, i should have just looked it up on urbandictionary myself. usually, i'm not so lazy. usually, i know basic definitions to commonly used words. sorry for my ignorance. thank you for answering, though. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Dude stop using your ethnicity as an excuse. And dont put to much faith in the PUA community. Your biggest strenth with women will be unshakeable confidence. Make sure your personalizing the messages you send out to these women. Take the time and read there profiles and customize ur message. Bars are a bad place to meet women because they have there gaurds up. A better place to meet girls would be at a book store or the mall. Tell me do you have a good circle of friends? Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Dude stop using your ethnicity as an excuse. And dont put to much faith in the PUA community. Your biggest strenth with women will be unshakeable confidence. Make sure your personalizing the messages you send out to these women. Take the time and read there profiles and customize ur message. Bars are a bad place to meet women because they have there gaurds up. A better place to meet girls would be at a book store or the mall. Tell me do you have a good circle of friends? Hey KMT in bars you meet jump off's and future baby mama's. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Lunar Sonata Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 To increase the chance of meeting a good girl friend, I joined match.com :lmao::lmao::lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Hey KMT in bars you meet jump off's and future baby mama's. lol. Ive never had any luck with getting a gf out of a bar or club... Idk what it is. I personaly tend to like shy girls who say stuff like " I've never been to a club in my life"... but thats just me Link to post Share on other sites
StillSame Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 yongyong, what city do you live in? Do you only limit to certain ethnicity or are you open to all? Link to post Share on other sites
Author yongyong Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 Utaaaah. 90% is white. on online dating 95% is white I think. sometimes I am the only Asian guy in the club haha Link to post Share on other sites
StillSame Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Utaaaah. 90% is white. on online dating 95% is white I think. sometimes I am the only Asian guy in the club haha You didn't answer my second question, are you open to all ethnicity? Link to post Share on other sites
fishtaco Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 KMT is right. Don't blame it on your ethnicity. I'm Asian too, and I prefer non-Asian women. In fact, I normally go after black and Hispanic women. You just need to know the approach. For example the skinny and glasses-wearing I'm a good student look may be the preferred look for FOB Asian chicks, that doesn't fly with American women (including Americanized Asian women). If you can dance and shake your ass at the same time (the Latin hip motion), Hispanic women LOVE that. In fact let me tell you a little secret -- Asian women don't like to date Asian men. Especially the mixed ones. You actually have better chances with non-Asian women. The fact that you are in an area without a lot of Asians is a plus. You are more "exotic". Play that to your advantage. If a white chick wants some inter-racial action, you're it. Where I am there are a lot of Asian people (well actually a lot of everything), so I'm basically just some dude competing with everyone else. But the trick is you don't want to be too Asian. White people like Chinese food, but they like Chinese food made for white people. Give them marinated chicken feet and hundred year old eggs, maybe not so much. Get my meaning? Be just a tad bit Asian, but you also have to be able to "integrate" into the white population fairly well. For non-whites, (like Hispanics and Middle Easterners for example) it helps to know something about their culture, or speak a few words in their language. That shows interest, plus it's a safe topic you can talk about during the first couple of dates. Anyway I'm not convinced if you should use the PUA techniques like a bible. My theory is you want to learn about as many techniques as possible, but not necessarily use them. Use your own judgment. I'm an ex-nice guy, but I still have remnants of it left -- unfortunately I have this little thing called conscience always getting in the way. So immediately the more... um... "effective" techniques are out of my reach. But I'd like to learn about them anyway. Maybe I can develop something that's a compromise, maybe after a few more bad women experiences I'll be jaded enough to use the techniques anyway, you never know. Knowledge is never a bad thing, but you also don't want to blindly follow something. As for online dating, can't help you there. All my successes came from the old fashioned way. Friend's friend, social events... etc. Oh and I also have a very solid circle of good friends that is continuously growing. That helps a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
ABrokenWing Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 I was one of those self-conscious dude. I discovered pua community and it helped me boost my self-esteem. I keep going to the bar once a week and try to open up conversation at coffee places. I learned that it really depends on how confident I am during conversation. so if I mess up something, I blame my skills (not my ethnicity) To increase the chance of meeting a good girl friend, I joined match.com I think my profile is ok. I sent about 60 messages and got only couple replies (no interest) Feels like sending out flyers. (if you get 2% return, that's successful:lmao:) When I talked to guys from PUA community 'hey it's hard as being an Asian' , they usually say 'that's your advantage, you are the unique one!' to boost my ego However, When I look at the stats, I now realize the reality. P.S: if you are woman and want to see my profile to give some advice, let me know I will pm you Yongyong, I think asian men are very attractive, you just haven't met the right women yet. If you want me to take a peek at your profile to let you know what I think, I would be happy to. Link to post Share on other sites
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