Phateless Posted January 16, 2008 Share Posted January 16, 2008 You need to get out bro, it's already over. Allow me to be insensitive for a moment and ask - what the hell were you thinking, getting married at 22 years old? What's the big rush? Jeez... at this point, I think you need to take some space and take care of yourself. If she decides she wants to come back, talk to her, but don't promise her anything more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lossofwords Posted January 16, 2008 Author Share Posted January 16, 2008 I am emotionally, and maturally ready to be married. Everything was great, this is just a sudden thing. I don't want to be a partier, or go do all the crazy stuff young people like. I want to be a successful person with one day a family and I want a wife, someone who will put me at the forfront of their life and I do the same for them. Thats what I want, I don't want to young cool hip scene. I am a little old fasioned in that regard. I know now that she was definatly too young, I didn't before though. I thought she was a mature lady capable of making a mature decision that will affect us for the rest of our lives. But now it's beginning to look like the beginning of the end. So please again, just pray for me, us. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
LostHusband Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 I dated a girl when she was 16, I was 18 - we dated off and on for 5 years. We planned on getting married one day. But things never worked out, we were both just too young. It was mainly her - she was still in high school when I went to college. She started partying at a young age and she broke up with me while I was in school. I was devestated - I wanted her back sooo bad. A year later we were back together, it was great. But that died too, she told me she cared for me but wasn't in love with me, only as a friend, so that time I ended it. We went our separate ways and our paths crossed again a couple of years later and we were back together again. She was going to college at a pretty well known party school - so it didn't last long that time either. Finally gave up on the whole thing and 8 years later she calls me up out of the blue and wants to get together. We started hanging out and it was a kind of friends with benefits deal - we were both approaching 30 and much more mature. She started talking about how much she loved me and hoped we could get back together and married someday. But a person changes a hell of a lot from the time they are 22 until they are 30 - and we were both completely different people. She was fun and all, but I had NO desire to start anything up again, I never even thought about her when she wasn't around. There was just no love there anymore - even after many nights of being very physical with each other. She kept telling me she loved me and I would just respond with "thank you" or "I know". I just didn't feel it. So we stopped seeing each other - she sent me a bunch of nasty emails until she realized it wasn't my fault I didn't feel the same way. Last I heard she joined a convent. Moral of the story - people change, emotions change - don't think you will hold onto love for this person forever, because you wont. Try again when you are a bit older. Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 It started by her not coming home on New Years Eve, and now she is acting like she doesn't want to be around me. Never calls me, or lets me know what she is doing. I have asked her what was going on, and I never get an answer, just "I dunno." I asked her if it was someone else, drugs, or me. All she will say is that it is her and not me. Ever since this started she doesn't come home til 10 or 11, and smells like smoke. Says its from her friends house. Well 'something' happened on New Years... where were you that she was out alone? Either way whatever happened it caused a very sudden turnaround on her part... the liklihood of someone else ... is high. She suddenly realized she's young and doesn't actually know what she wants yet. One month into a marriage! Yikes... mine didn't make it 2 years and I thought that was quick. Cut your losses, go through the emotions of the loss and move on. It's all you can do. You're really young and have all sorts of time to get your life on track and find some good women out there that won't dismiss something as important as a marriage so easily. Link to post Share on other sites
marazul Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 Mistakes that young people do: marrying without realizing what it implies. She's too young and she needs to experience life. I really doubt that she'll change, you're going to be miserable, because she wants to have fun with her friends, go party, flirt, she's not into married life, she cannot accept it. I'm really sorry for you Link to post Share on other sites
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