just friends, or what? mixed message.

[teamboo]

There's this boy I met in a night class (2 days/week) a few months ago.

We would only talk in class, as months went by, we got closer. I guess we considered ourselves 'friends' by then. We would flirt, nothing much. After class, we would go out to eat or get some coffee, sometimes I would pay, sometimes he would.

As the last days of class went by, I would get home and he would just send me random text messages such as.."thanks for the food" or whatever, ending in good nights.

One night, we were walking and he just puts his arms around me, my mind sort of froze for a few seconds, I didn't do anything, and he let go.

Class ended, and I thought nothing would really happen after that.

My birthday was around that time, we made plans to go out, and we did. He paid for everything since it was my "birthday present" (i have given him a little something for his birthday earlier) He had his arms around me, and we just went around walking like that. It was actually a great night, it felt like we were a little something else. He dropped me off at home and told me he had a great time, so I said, me too.. and that was it for a while.

 

A while, meaning we didn't even talk for a week after that. I was seriously confused.

 

So I initiated the conversation through text, and it was a few days before christmas... he wanted to know what I wanted for Christmas- and being the nice girl that I am, I just said something along the lines of "nothing, what about you?" The answer was going nowhere- then he said, "I want to go see a movie". A few days later, we were texting again and reminded me that we 'needed to hang out'. We were really busy- but we found a day, we went, had dinner, and just talked. He paid for the movie (ahem, since it was christmas). I remembered the last time we went out and he said that he had a great time, so I made sure I said it first. He said that he did too. I made sure he got home okay, the weather was really bad and he thanked me for checking up on him.

 

Less physical contact, no kiss, or anythingggg. Maybe it was my fault, I was sort of nervous.

 

Next day- we also work at the same area, so I walked past his store and said a quick hello, and left. A few hours later, I was busy at work, but he actually went in with his friends... and left. We actually got the chance to talk after he left, when I saw him around again. That was it.

 

New Years came and he sent me a text then, just wishing me a good one. Maybe mass text? I'm not sure. He kept saying he was way over his texts He told me he wished that he was where I was at (I told him I was doing nothing at all) and to have a good day the next day. We texted back and forth then, I told him I had to go.

 

Nothing happened for a week, again.

 

Now, repeating what I did, I texted to say hello. We texted back and forth... and he ended up not replying. This is the third day, and I'm just confused.

 

We never really call those times we hung out "a date". It was just coffee, or either because birthday/christmas. Whateverrr.

 

This guy is really nice and sweet. Maybe he's just this nice to everybody. Maybe he spends money on everybody... Earlier, when we first met, he was telling me of this one time he hung out with the girl he had a crush on and told me he had paid for her. He's never been in a real relationship at all.. a REALLY short term girlfriend, but he tells me that he has bad luck with girls. He sounds like he's shy, but when I called him that, he denied it. He mentioned having a crush on this girl once, or finding other girls cute, but unlike all my other guy friends, he never talk about the girl he's interested in. We never touch the subject.

 

Sometimes I feel like I'm too much. Sometimes I feel as though I play tooo hard to get. We never talk on the phone, when texting comes along, I would always be the first to cut it by saying I'm going to bed.. & etc.

 

Geez. I feel that I should move on, it's so hard moving on from someone I'd like to keep around in my life.

 

I feel a little lead on.

Edited January 11, 2008 by teamboo
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[Mary3]

Wake up girl ! This guy LIKED you . If you like him romantically you should get started letting him know you were shy and froze up and you really LIKE him. Do it quick !

[teamboo]

ughhh. I want to let it go, yet I don't. Parts of me still think he's just like this with everyone.

 

thanks for the reply ! :]