I am a bank teller and desire this married man 20 years older...help!

[Ariadne]

Hi,

 

But if his wife ever fails him, I will be there to help him, that's all. I know the odds are long but

 

Haha...

 

Yeah, you can count on that, provided that he is interested. That too another problem.

 

What can you do.

 

But I know just what you mean.

[LucreziaBorgia]

Can't wait to see where this story goes. I'm sure it will get better and more over the top with each post. Threads like this usually do. I'll play along though. Why not.

 

But if he has problems with his wife, I want to be the answer.

 

I seriously doubt that he has problems with his wife, and I would bet that he will start going out of his way to avoid you. I'm sure your coming on to him is fairly transparent to him, as are your motives.

 

But lets say just for sh*ts and giggles that you do rope him in.

 

What good would you be to this guy or his children? What would you offer him in return for his lifestyle, his looks, his money, his nice cars, his nice clothes, etc. I'm not sure what sort of answer to a problem you'd be. It would seem that with your highly superficial nature, you'd cause more problems in the long run than solve any.

[Lyssa]

Can't wait to see where this story goes. I'm sure it will get better and more over the top with each post. Threads like this usually do. I'll play along though. Why not.

 

Yes, me too -- it's pretty intriguing.

 

What good would you be to this guy or his children? What would you offer him in return for his lifestyle, his looks, his money, his nice cars, his nice clothes, etc. I'm not sure what sort of answer to a problem you'd be. It would seem that with your highly superficial nature, you'd cause more problems in the long run than solve any.

 

Dana, would you be able to take care of his "handsome son and knockout of a daughter"? There is a lot of responsibilities.... have you given it a thought?

[whichwayisup]

As he twisted his torso, he can see the muscles straining at the tightness of the shirt.

 

You'd be real good at writing erotica...

 

Please leave the poor guy alone.

[danavladeem]

And you wouldn't try anything else? Are you trying to say that, all you want is to be his friend and nothing else - for real?

Well, obviously I like to be his friend first. But if the opportunity arises where there is an opening for me then I would be a fool not to take advantage of it. What is wrong with that? It's good business strategy. You would do the same thing, too. I just like to find out what he is like as a person and a friendship is the best way. I will figure out pretty quickly as a friend if there is compatibility. If not, that's it. End of story. But if there is compatibility, I will hang around, I will still look and date other guys. If nothing solid materializes with other men, and he is available on the market, I will be there to act real fast. Obviously, as they say in my marketing classes when I did my university business degree, I want to be "front and center" in his mind to be the next partner in his life.

[danavladeem]

Yes, me too -- it's pretty intriguing.

 

 

 

Dana, would you be able to take care of his "handsome son and knockout of a daughter"? There is a lot of responsibilities.... have you given it a thought?

 

Realistically, if there is anything that does happen it will probably be three to five years from now. If so, then his son will be an adult so I don't have to worry about him and his daughter will be a teenager. I can be a big sister to his daughter. Obviously, I cannot be her mom.

[nellstar]

Realistically, if there is anything that does happen it will probably be three to five years from now. If so, then his son will be an adult so I don't have to worry about him and his daughter will be a teenager. I can be a big sister to his daughter. Obviously, I cannot be her mom.

 

Realistically, nothing is going to come out of this fantasy of yours. IF, A VERY BIG FAT IF it happened, and you end up marrying him.... you will be a step-mother not a step-sister. From what I have read, I don't think he finds you that attractive because if he did, he would have tried something on you from the moment he saw you. Just wondering, did he flirt with you?

[danavladeem]

You'd be real good at writing erotica...

 

Please leave the poor guy alone.

 

You make it sound like I am some kind of stalker....a bunny boiler kinda gal. I am not. I know I have an obsession with the guy but I feel I need to find out what the guy is really like behind the image I have of him. Perhaps reality will bring me down to earth? The hints that I drop in the past have been very subtle. He may not notice them. So, I took a more direct approach this time about his love of cars. He is obviously a very succesful businessman. I have a degree in business. In business you have to do research on your target market. That is all I am doing. Research. Obviously, if there is a possibility, I would like his choice to be me. There is nothing wrong with that. You cannot deny a choice that every woman has to better themselves to better their station in life. Now, if there is no emotional connection there between us (I am assuming if his marriage with his wife disolves for whatever reason) then it is a no go. But if there is a connection......well.....I am going for it.....just like those women on Donald Trumps Apprentice show....

[danavladeem]

Realistically, nothing is going to come out of this fantasy of yours. IF, A VERY BIG FAT IF it happened, and you end up marrying him.... you will be a step-mother not a step-sister. From what I have read, I don't think he finds you that attractive because if he did, he would have tried something on you from the moment he saw you. Just wondering, did he flirt with you?

 

I meant to say big sister in a figurative sense. As for your flirt question, no, but he did comment to me about my new hairstyle recently. Ususally I wear my hair up but recently I let it down and added some lighter blonde and brunette highlights.....he made a nice comment about my appearance for the first time in over a year. He's not that typical flirt that western men are....he is pleasant, diplomatic, a little reserved (a typical Asian trait), professional etc....when he does talk to you he zeros in on you and makes you feel very comfortable....there is a quiet zen aura about him.

[Chrome Barracuda]

You make it sound like I am some kind of stalker....a bunny boiler kinda gal. I am not. I know I have an obsession with the guy but I feel I need to find out what the guy is really like behind the image I have of him.

Definition of:

 

Stalking (from Middle English stalk: from Old English bestealcian; akin to Old English stelan to steal) is a legal term for a pattern of offensive behavior involving repeated harassment or other forms of invasion of a person's privacy in a manner that causes fear to its target.

Statutes vary between jurisdiction but may include such acts as:

• repeated physical following
  
• unwanted contact (by letter or other means of communication)
  
• observing a person's actions closely for an extended period of time
  
• contacting family members, friends, or associates inappropriately

You say Im not a bunny boiler but I'm obsessed with him?

 

Bottom line is I would have a restraining order against you. lol.

[vivrantflo]

Well, Im 28, have a decent job.. good looking, no kids, and I drive a Supra. Do I make the cut for having superficial blondes stalking me?? lol

[Lyssa]

Well, Im 28, have a decent job.. good looking, no kids, and I drive a Supra. Do I make the cut for having superficial blondes stalking me?? lol

 

Hmmmm... I would like to know if you do too, actually but I have a feeling you don't make it for her. You have to drive one of her favourite cars, I think.

 

OP - Good luck and do let us know how it all went....

[Ms. Red]

You'd be real good at writing erotica...

 

Please leave the poor guy alone.

 

 

LMAO....No $hit WWIU.

[PoshPrincess]

Sorry Dana, but you definitely sound obsessed - BIG TIME. I don't mean to be rude but I am quite surprised at the fact that you're 25 - you're not a kid - I used to have obsessions like this, say, for my teacher at school when I was 15! You're wasting far too much time and energy on a man that you don't even know. There is nothing wrong with harmless fantasies of course but this seems to be a bit more than that.

 

You appear to be very superficial with regards to relationships and girls like you tend to get what they want eventually so I am sure you will meet your rich, good-looking man one day Maybe this guy is a great Dad, etc but no one's perfect. Still, if you're looking for business arrangement rather than a R then you've got the right idea!

[LucreziaBorgia]

I predict withing ten posts we'll be reading about the affair that has started. Not because I think that something like that would happen in reality, but because I think I see where this thread is going. By all means, keep posting. I would love to see where this story takes you (and us).

[justice]

Realistically, if there is anything that does happen it will probably be three to five years from now. If so, then his son will be an adult so I don't have to worry about him and his daughter will be a teenager. I can be a big sister to his daughter. Obviously, I cannot be her mom.

 

Not so. You would be the stepmother, which is harder by far than being a mother because you are always caught in the middle of things whether or not it's your fault. Your gloating tone speaks volumes about your immaturity. Wise up and find a single guy.

[justice]

You make it sound like I am some kind of stalker....a bunny boiler kinda gal. I am not. I know I have an obsession with the guy but I feel I need to find out what the guy is really like behind the image I have of him. Perhaps reality will bring me down to earth? The hints that I drop in the past have been very subtle. He may not notice them. So, I took a more direct approach this time about his love of cars. He is obviously a very succesful businessman. I have a degree in business. In business you have to do research on your target market. That is all I am doing. Research. Obviously, if there is a possibility, I would like his choice to be me. There is nothing wrong with that. You cannot deny a choice that every woman has to better themselves to better their station in life. Now, if there is no emotional connection there between us (I am assuming if his marriage with his wife disolves for whatever reason) then it is a no go. But if there is a connection......well.....I am going for it.....just like those women on Donald Trumps Apprentice show....

 

 

Stop living in tv land. That isn't real life. You are contemplating breaking up someone's marriage for your own selfish reasons. You could better yourself on your own without this man. It's called w-o-r-k and at least it's an honest way of earning what you get. Wouldn't that feel better than breaking up someone's family and leeching off what he has???

If it were to happen, he might lose all of his credibility as a business man and his cars and money too. Then where would you be?

[justice]

I was Daddy's little girl. My mom was a former beauty queen. Yes, looks are important in that first impressions are critical. That is what my parents taught me, first impressions that is.

 

Also, I don't really want to wreck his home life. I don't know too much about him since he is very reserved about his private life. It seems most Asian men are that way from my experience.

 

But I like to have a friendship with him. But if his wife ever fails him, I will be there to help him, that's all. I know the odds are long but I just found out from my Aunt that is how she got her husband. She worked as a car salesman in one of the largest auto dealers in the country. Became a top performer. Became a friend of the owner's son, who was married, and eventually he divorce his wife and married her. They have been married for 20 plus years now. My Aunt and her hubby now owns the largest Honda Dealer in a major western Canadian city. And yes, she was a former beauty queen. Yes, let's face it, we girls use our looks to hook guys. What is wrong with that. My looks will fade with time. Gotta strike while the iron is hot as the old saying goes. By the way, I never said I'm out to wreck his life. But if he has problems with his wife, I want to be the answer. So, if his family life is great, his life with his wife is great, then nothing will happen. There is nothing wrong in me being a friend. Anyhow, I saw him on the street today, and chatted with him for about ten minutes about Ferraris. He was surprise I had such a knowledge about the cars. Apparently, he is a Ferrari fan. Anyhow, I ask to drop by the bank one day with the Ferrari so that I can see it. He said he may do it but no promises. And if he does, I will ask him for a quick ride in one. That's innocent enough.

 

 

I've never used my looks to "hook" someone. There is more to being a human being than looks. What is inside you is the important thing, and evidently........well we won't go there. Once your Asian man looks further than your superficiality, he won't see anything other than that.

You must have really low self esteem to be thinking these thoughts.

Honestly, are you for real or just another crap stirring troll?

[justice]

Well, obviously I like to be his friend first. But if the opportunity arises where there is an opening for me then I would be a fool not to take advantage of it. What is wrong with that? It's good business strategy. You would do the same thing, too. I just like to find out what he is like as a person and a friendship is the best way. I will figure out pretty quickly as a friend if there is compatibility. If not, that's it. End of story. But if there is compatibility, I will hang around, I will still look and date other guys. If nothing solid materializes with other men, and he is available on the market, I will be there to act real fast. Obviously, as they say in my marketing classes when I did my university business degree, I want to be "front and center" in his mind to be the next partner in his life.

 

Well if you are looking at this as a business strategy, you shouldn't be working at a bank. There's a name for women who look at men as a "business" look it up in the dictionary sometime and see if it applies.

[Siena]

Most Asian men are quite polite - yes they are reserved when it comes to their personal life, but you need to consider where this man is from and how long he has been in this country (as culture will play a big part in his friendliness). I have lived in Japan, Thailand, Indonesia and visited China and Korea and the Asian culture is a beautiful thing. Most men (omitting the bastards that live in almost every country) have the utmost respect for their wives and treasure their family above and beyond any material possession or possible temptation.

 

I'd say in your case, it's best to be nice to him (it's your job afterall), talk about cars if you like, but back off, find someone else that is single and stop focusing your attentions on someone that will not reciprocate your feelings.

[johnnyj]

I work in a bank. There has been this one Asian customer that I see regularly for the last year and a bit as a customer. He is very handsome, tall, sweet, very well spoken and polite. I have met both his kids who are customers of the bank where I work. His son is 16 (he is amazingly handsome) and his daughter (she is a knockout) is 10. Both kids are extremely good looking. I dream and have fantasies about this guy constantly. I dropped lots of hints about my interest in him but all to no avail. But recently, I found out he is married since I did a profile search on the bank's computer. I have seen his wife in the bank as a customer. She is this attractive french woman. His kids seem to have the best traits from both the Asian and European side. I constantly dream about having good looking kids with this man! (I am 5' 6" 130lbs and blonde....I can imagine what beautiful kids we could have!) He is also very wealthy so I know he can take care of me. I just found out thru a co-worker that he drives a nice Porsche and a Ferrari! My two favorite cars in the world! He has everything I could dream of having. He is 47 and I am 27. I know it is wrong but all the men I have dated and met are lacking....this guy has it all....I want this guy real bad....help....I am so confused....Is it so wrong for me to desire this guy!

 

From a security perspective, it's very comforting to know that tellers like yourself can use the banks systems to query info about customers you are attracted to.

[Tony T]

From a security perspective, it's very comforting to know that tellers like yourself can use the banks systems to query info about customers you are attracted to.

 

Ha...good point. I'd love to meet a very rich lady. I think I'm gonna go apply for a position at a bank tomorrow morning...... What a deal!

[OldEurope]

What is truly sick is this attitude that there are "no" worthwhile single guys. Of course there are. If you are so big into "marketing" then you know you have to put yourself out there in the right places in the right way and not wait behind teller windows living on fantasy.

 

The object of your affection here, this Asian gentleman, was at one point single and he was climbing his career ladder ambitiously. Apparently he married along the way. Okay folks, happens every day! Every attractive, successful married man was at one time single...And there are generations more to come!

 

Yes, I was once an OW but my thinking was never so cynical and warped as this poster's....

 

I often wish there were an admissions exam to joining and posting threads on Loveshack. It seems too much a waste of the valuable energies of WWIU and LB and company to answer to these ridiculous threads....

 

OE

[LucreziaBorgia]

Eh, I'm just playing along. I don't think this is a real story.

[OpenBook]

I often wish there were an admissions exam to joining and posting threads on Loveshack. It seems too much a waste of the valuable energies of WWIU and LB and company to answer to these ridiculous threads....

 

Well, don't hold back OE, tell us how you REALLY feel! Look, nobody's obligated to respond to any thread, ridiculous or otherwise. If we want to waste our "valuable energies," well that is totally our call. And Thank God for that freedom!!