I am a bank teller and desire this married man 20 years older...help!

[changchewsoon]

Geez, I didn't know we Asians could have such attractions from girls.

 

I'm driving a BMW M6, owns a IT company and I'm still single. But I don't have any girls stalking on me

[StillSame]

Well, Im 28, have a decent job.. good looking, no kids, and I drive a Supra. Do I make the cut for having superficial blondes stalking me?? lol

 

But, dude, you're not Asian and don't have the "zen aura" about you, whatever that is.

[bentnotbroken]

Well, obviously I like to be his friend first. But if the opportunity arises where there is an opening for me then I would be a fool not to take advantage of it. What is wrong with that? It's good business strategy. You would do the same thing, too. I just like to find out what he is like as a person and a friendship is the best way. I will figure out pretty quickly as a friend if there is compatibility. If not, that's it. End of story. But if there is compatibility, I will hang around, I will still look and date other guys. If nothing solid materializes with other men, and he is available on the market, I will be there to act real fast. Obviously, as they say in my marketing classes when I did my university business degree, I want to be "front and center" in his mind to be the next partner in his life.

 

 

She said good business strategy.:laugh:She is setting up a business deal. She wants someone to hand her a lifestyle that she did nothing to earn.

[bentnotbroken]

Well, obviously I like to be his friend first. But if the opportunity arises where there is an opening for me then I would be a fool not to take advantage of it. What is wrong with that? It's good business strategy. You would do the same thing, too. I just like to find out what he is like as a person and a friendship is the best way. I will figure out pretty quickly as a friend if there is compatibility. If not, that's it. End of story. But if there is compatibility, I will hang around, I will still look and date other guys. If nothing solid materializes with other men, and he is available on the market, I will be there to act real fast. Obviously, as they say in my marketing classes when I did my university business degree, I want to be "front and center" in his mind to be the next partner in his life.

 

What makes you think that you are in his class or his type? You better be careful that he doesn't complain to the bank about your out of control behavior and then the only guys you'll be looking at are the ones who are interviewing you for a job. Or better yet, his wife gets pissed and gets you fired.

[bentnotbroken]

You make it sound like I am some kind of stalker....a bunny boiler kinda gal. I am not. I know I have an obsession with the guy but I feel I need to find out what the guy is really like behind the image I have of him. Perhaps reality will bring me down to earth? The hints that I drop in the past have been very subtle. He may not notice them. So, I took a more direct approach this time about his love of cars. He is obviously a very succesful businessman. I have a degree in business. In business you have to do research on your target market. That is all I am doing. Research. Obviously, if there is a possibility, I would like his choice to be me. There is nothing wrong with that. You cannot deny a choice that every woman has to better themselves to better their station in life. Now, if there is no emotional connection there between us (I am assuming if his marriage with his wife disolves for whatever reason) then it is a no go. But if there is a connection......well.....I am going for it.....just like those women on Donald Trumps Apprentice show....

 

 

Why not just work for you own lifestyle instead of becoming the bunny boiler(yes you are)trying to access what isn't yours.

[bentnotbroken]

From a security perspective, it's very comforting to know that tellers like yourself can use the banks systems to query info about customers you are attracted to.

 

 

Damn straight, she is one scary.....whatever that dictionary defines a business woman in her particular field of expertise is.

[vivrantflo]

I'm driving a BMW M6, owns a IT company and I'm still single. But I don't have any girls stalking on me

 

 

Dude, now THAT is a hot ride!! Now my Supra isn't looking so good!! If you were in Canada, ID be stalking you! lol

[PLAYBRAT]

I also don't believe this story is real. Hard to believe someone could actually be that delusional.

 

But anyway....to the OP....this guy might look good on the surface

but maybe he has a teeny tiny ding ding. Would that matter? LOL

[danavladeem]

Geez, I didn't know we Asians could have such attractions from girls.

 

I'm driving a BMW M6, owns a IT company and I'm still single. But I don't have any girls stalking on me

 

BMWs are nice but they are not that exclusive....too many of them around. From talking to my office colleagues, he owns a couple of IT companies: custom software and hardware lines with an emphasis on logistics. He also owns a small investment equity firm, a construction company. I heard from my boss that he has been travelling to Romania alot lately. Apparently he is opening up two new businesses there: real estate investments, and a modelling agency. That's cool. I am part Romanian and part Slavic. Us East European girls are hot! Maybe I will say something nice to him in Romanian like: Un sarut pentru tine? By the way, he was originally borned in Lahad Datu, Sabah. His parents are from China.

[danavladeem]

But anyway....to the OP....this guy might look good on the surface

but maybe he has a teeny tiny ding ding. Would that matter? LOL

 

Very funny comment. Big ones hurt too much. I have a small frame and am not built for big 'guys'. Whatever he has, it works since he has two kids. So, really, your question is hypothetical since nothing has happen. Everything is preliminary. But one thing that disturbs me is that someone change the title of my thread. Someone made an assumption that I was a bank teller. Not. I think everyone is just being overly moralistic. BTW, it is more real than you think. You people are just a bit weird....you are all making the assumption that I will barge in and take this guy away from his wife. Nope. Hope you people can read. My intentions is to be a friend and see if there is an opportunity. That is not going in and deliberately breaking up someone's marriage. If his wife looks after him, all is fine with me. But let's say in a hypothetical situation we hook up, the wife will get her millions in a divorce settlement. Pretty good payback for her investment and time I would say.

[PLAYBRAT]

Ummm we can all read just fine. What we reading is that you have a fantasy of this guy in your head and of what he is like based soley on his looks and his wealth. You ASSUME you can become friends with him and weasel your way into his life, thereby HOPING it will turn into more and he will leave his W for YOU. So I have read your intentions just FINE. You sound pretty shallow and materialistic to me. Do you think THAT is a quality this man will like about you? I doubt it. Maybe he hates greedy women. Maybe that's why he has not flirted with you. He can probably see right through you.

[Cobra_X30]

Very funny comment. Big ones hurt too much. I have a small frame and am not built for big 'guys'. Whatever he has, it works since he has two kids. So, really, your question is hypothetical since nothing has happen. Everything is preliminary. But one thing that disturbs me is that someone change the title of my thread. Someone made an assumption that I was a bank teller. Not. I think everyone is just being overly moralistic. BTW, it is more real than you think. You people are just a bit weird....you are all making the assumption that I will barge in and take this guy away from his wife. Nope. Hope you people can read. My intentions is to be a friend and see if there is an opportunity. That is not going in and deliberately breaking up someone's marriage. If his wife looks after him, all is fine with me. But let's say in a hypothetical situation we hook up, the wife will get her millions in a divorce settlement. Pretty good payback for her investment and time I would say.

 

You say moralistic as if that is some kind of insult!

 

Your intentions are not good, and you seem completely focused on his $$$.

 

Take this one piece of advice... if you want a shot with this guy... don't act so pathetically shallow.

[Ariadne]

Hi,

 

I think everyone is just being overly moralistic. BTW, it is more real than you think. You people are just a bit weird....you are all making the assumption that I will barge in and take this guy away from his wife. Nope.

 

They are all the time like that.

 

You see a handsome man on the street and they say, how dare you put your eyes in a taken man.

 

Many of them have been cheated by their husbands and are afraid of women out there.

 

Anyway, if you want to get a chance with this guy you are going to have to become friends, but most likely he is happy in his marriage (even though people get divorced, if he has children and has been married for a while it is unlikely).

 

On the other hand, if he has so much money, why is he going to the bank so much? I mean, he could have people do it for him, or go to other branches, or do it online, or however else guys like that do business (I can't figure Donald Trump standing in line).

 

So, maybe he goes to see you.

 

Ariadne

[whichwayisup]

Geez, I didn't know we Asians could have such attractions from girls.

 

I'm driving a BMW M6, owns a IT company and I'm still single. But I don't have any girls stalking on me

 

I'll stalk you!

 

Very funny comment. Big ones hurt too much. I have a small frame and am not built for big 'guys'. Whatever he has, it works since he has two kids. So, really, your question is hypothetical since nothing has happen. Everything is preliminary. But one thing that disturbs me is that someone change the title of my thread. Someone made an assumption that I was a bank teller. Not. I think everyone is just being overly moralistic. BTW, it is more real than you think. You people are just a bit weird....you are all making the assumption that I will barge in and take this guy away from his wife. Nope. Hope you people can read. My intentions is to be a friend and see if there is an opportunity. That is not going in and deliberately breaking up someone's marriage. If his wife looks after him, all is fine with me. But let's say in a hypothetical situation we hook up, the wife will get her millions in a divorce settlement. Pretty good payback for her investment and time I would say.

 

We are only going on what you've said and it seems you're like a hawk, waiting to come in for the kill..Go back and re-read your posts, I think you've forgotten what you've said.

 

I hope if he tells you no thanks, he doesn't want to be your friend, you leave the guy alone.

[Ariadne]

Maybe I will say something nice to him in Romanian like: Un sarut pentru tine?

 

That's cool, but be careful you are going to give away that you have been doing all this investigation on him and he might get creeped out.

 

I'm like that too, when I like a guy I want to find out everything about him in every possible means available, but then they freak out.

 

Ariadne

[Cobra_X30]

Someone made an assumption that I was a bank teller. Not.

 

Oh, almost forgot about this.

 

Go back and read the title of your thread.

 

Either your really bad at sarcasm... or you are smoking from the wrong end of the crackpipe!

[whichwayisup]

Oh, almost forgot about this.

 

Go back and read the title of your thread.

 

I am a bank teller and desire this married man 20 years older...help!

 

Good catch Cobra.

[Ariadne]

Oh, almost forgot about this.

 

Go back and read the title of your thread.

 

Either your really bad at sarcasm... or you are smoking from the wrong end of the crackpipe!

 

The mods changed the title of her thread and wrote that.

 

(They have changed the title of one of threads too, they like to do that, something that would never occur to me to call my thread.)

[Cobra_X30]

The mods changed the title of her thread and wrote that.

 

(They have changed the title of one of threads too, they like to do that, something that would never occur to me to call my thread.)

 

Ah, thanks for clearing that up!

 

My bad!

[whichwayisup]

Why would the mods change the title of her thread saying she is a bank teller, if she's not?

[Ariadne]

Hey,

 

Why would the mods change the title of her thread saying she is a bank teller, if she's not?

 

Like she said, they assumed she was a teller. According to her: I have a degree in business. In business you have to do research on your target market...

 

Probably just works there but tellers usually don't have business degrees.

[danavladeem]

Hi,

 

I think everyone is just being overly moralistic. BTW, it is more real than you think. You people are just a bit weird....you are all making the assumption that I will barge in and take this guy away from his wife. Nope.

 

They are all the time like that.

 

You see a handsome man on the street and they say, how dare you put your eyes in a taken man.

 

Many of them have been cheated by their husbands and are afraid of women out there.

 

Anyway, if you want to get a chance with this guy you are going to have to become friends, but most likely he is happy in his marriage (even though people get divorced, if he has children and has been married for a while it is unlikely).

 

On the other hand, if he has so much money, why is he going to the bank so much? I mean, he could have people do it for him, or go to other branches, or do it online, or however else guys like that do business (I can't figure Donald Trump standing in line).

 

So, maybe he goes to see you.

 

Ariadne

 

I know from my experience with other wealthy clients, some of them are very low key, they come in to do their thing in person. This guy is like that. Yes, he wears very nice clothes when he dresses up. But usually he dresses casually. And to answer an earlier poster's comment, his daily driver is a Honda. Most of his visits deal with investments since our bank has a large brokerage arm and have people in branch that deal with high net worth clients. And with personal stock investments you don't have other people do that kind of work for you. Of course you hire the investment manager to do things, but you still need to go in there and discuss market trends, asset reallocation, new trends and new strategies....these are all things you would want to discuss with someone face to face. No, he is not in Donald's league. No, he doesn't have everything at our bank but I figure he is in the 8 to 9 figure net worth range.

[Ariadne]

some of them are very low key, they come in to do their thing in person. This guy is like that... I figure he is in the 8 to 9 figure net worth range.

 

Bummer.

 

Well, good luck then.

 

I also want a millionaire husband to take care of me so I never have to work a day in my life etc etc, those are hard to find though.

 

I was just watching the premiere of this new show, The Millionaire Matchmaker, and the girls are all like supermodels. But at least you are pretty, I'm 40

[bentnotbroken]

Very funny comment. Big ones hurt too much. I have a small frame and am not built for big 'guys'. Whatever he has, it works since he has two kids. So, really, your question is hypothetical since nothing has happen. Everything is preliminary. But one thing that disturbs me is that someone change the title of my thread. Someone made an assumption that I was a bank teller. Not. I think everyone is just being overly moralistic. BTW, it is more real than you think. You people are just a bit weird....you are all making the assumption that I will barge in and take this guy away from his wife. Nope. Hope you people can read. My intentions is to be a friend and see if there is an opportunity. That is not going in and deliberately breaking up someone's marriage. If his wife looks after him, all is fine with me. But let's say in a hypothetical situation we hook up, the wife will get her millions in a divorce settlement. Pretty good payback for her investment and time I would say.

 

 

 

Marriage for some people is more than a business arrangement. Her investment, your business strategy, WTF are you thinking???????

[danavladeem]

Bummer.

 

Well, good luck then.

 

I also want a millionaire husband to take care of me so I never have to work a day in my life etc etc, those are hard to find though.

 

I was just watching the premiere of this new show, The Millionaire Matchmaker, and the girls are all like supermodels. But at least you are pretty, I'm 40

 

Thanks. Generally, I don't follow these kinds of boards. I just stumble on to it by accident. I was in a bit of down mood due to work and life in general. This past Xmas was kinda lonely. I thought I just post my thoughts about this guy who's been in the back of my mind lately. I thought it would be a good way to get things off my chest so to speak. Therefore, I posted some pretty raw thoughts. But it has been quite an experience listening to all the viewpoints.

 

I know it is probably a bad analogy to compare a marriage to a business. But there are similarities such as both require nuturing, inordinate amount of sacrifice etc to make things happen with no guarantee of success.

 

I am making the best of a poor situation. I am looking at all options. I see why I shouldn't at least tried. It may not work. No harm in not trying. I am not going to paw all over the guy. I just want to earn his trust. If his marriage is solid then there is absolutely no problems. His wife is French. Lots of European women know that men in Europe have mistresses. It is very common there. If he is opening a modelling business there, he will attract far more attention from all of these young and beautiful women then he will get from me. I am not saying that I want to be his mistress. So please don't try to read that into this comment. His wife should know that other women will envy her. So, therefore, she will need to invest in her marriage with him. If not, there will be people like me who will step in.

 

On another note, most wealthy men are not very appealing. They are, quite frankly, *********s. This guy is not. This is another reason why I find him appealing.

 

Let's face it. We tend to judge others by their appearance. Look at all the images in the media. I am just stating things that are obvious.

 

I also know a few people have said how superficial I am. People here don't know me. You only can infer from my comments as to what you think I am like.

 

When you watch that Millionaire dating show, you will truly see how superficial these men (and women) really are. I am not like that. Sometimes words in print cannot convey the context and body language of a spoken word.