I am a bank teller and desire this married man 20 years older...help!

[bentnotbroken]

Yep, next up... "we are having an affair!" and probably after that "I'm pregnant!" You can see this one coming from a mile away.

 

 

 

You forgot that the W is a psycho from hell who is ruining her life;).

[whichwayisup]

Yep, next up... "we are having an affair!" and probably after that "I'm pregnant!" You can see this one coming from a mile away.

 

"How do I get a stain out of an expensive car........" is more like it! Sorry, I couldn't resist...

[bentnotbroken]

"How do I get a stain out of an expensive car........" is more like it! Sorry, I couldn't resist...

 

 

Be careful, you don't want to be "flagged":p

[herenow]

The next question will be, drum roll please:

 

Should I tell his wife?

[herenow]

Be careful, you don't want to be "flagged":p

 

I think even the mods won't mind what's happening here. I hope not. THese re the type of threads that bring BW and OW together.

[bentnotbroken]

I think even the mods won't mind what's happening here. I hope not. THese re the type of threads that bring BW and OW together.

 

 

They mind where I am concerned.

[herenow]

They mind where I am concerned.

 

Wow, sorry about the typos in my last post. Typing fast and not reading before sending is a bad habit.

[whichwayisup]

Well, if this situation is for real, I'm sure we'll be hearing more about it.

 

This kind of reminds me of Mandy and the dentist, that soap opera-like feeling..

[bentnotbroken]

One thing that I find kind of creepy, is that someone in a postion like she describes can so easily find out so much private info without our knowledge. It's like someone snooping around in your house while you are away. Just to set up a fantasy life.

[herenow]

Well, if this situation is for real, I'm sure we'll be hearing more about it.

 

This kind of reminds me of Mandy and the dentist, that soap opera-like feeling..

 

Yeah, the dentist. Even if this situation is real. It's only real in her head. I'm sure the wife can add a sense of reality real fast if there is any truth to the little princess (her words, not mine).

 

But, I do have to agree, she is entertaining. H is on his way home, but until then, carry on Dana. I can't wait to hear more.

[whichwayisup]

Sadly though, if this guy is bored at home and is the type of man who doesn't mind having flings on the side, she WILL end up doing more in that car than just a little ride around the block. I just hope that this guy IS a good man and won't cheat on his wife and let this woman turn her fantasy into an affair. Yuck..

[danavladeem]

You might as well post a picture of him so we can see what the big deal about this guy is.

 

I don't think so.

 

I can't believe he is taking you in his car for a ride.............Sorry, but he's a big fool and has NO idea he's about to played.

 

Played? Think not. Presenting options is more appropriate. Presenting better investment opportunities. Enhancing his portfolio. Giving him better growth...

[herenow]

You might as well post a picture of him so we can see what the big deal about this guy is.

 

I don't think so.

 

I can't believe he is taking you in his car for a ride.............Sorry, but he's a big fool and has NO idea he's about to played.

 

Played? Think not. Presenting options is more appropriate. Presenting better investment opportunities. Enhancing his portfolio. Giving him better growth...

 

 

Better growth :lmao:

 

You are a hoot I tell ya!

[whichwayisup]

You are playing him and not being honest. You are not interested in getting to know him on a platonic level, being a real friend, getting to know his wife, let alone be HER friend. No, you're scouting out the situation and I figure you're going to give him the 3rd degree about his life, his marriage and ask tons of questions, in hopes that you'll hear that his marriage sucks, his unhappy and then you'll throw the hints his way, try to befriend him even more.

 

How you are acting is unprofessional and wrong. I knew someone in college ended up getting a certain job, different circumstances, but she worked in a field where she could get any info on anyone, anytime. She abused it and got caught, was fired. You are using HIS personal info to gain into your own life and that is wrong. I hope you can sleep at night.

[herenow]

Gotta go. Hope ya'll have a great night!

[bentnotbroken]

I told you just plain creepy. She is every good person's nightmare. Access to more info than she is responsible enough to handle. You are being watched whether you know it or believe it, but you are.

[Ariadne]

Hey,

 

Actually, it really wasn't about the money that caught my eye about him. It was his consistent gentleman behavior. His quiet classiness. To find out about the money was really a bonus

 

Yes. You also mentioned that he went to the bank in a Honda and after you were already attracted someone pointed out the Ferrari, which must have been, boom.

 

most men with wealth or are self made have big egos, are jerks etc....Plus the fact he is nice eye candy made it a plus. Most wealthy guys are really old, fat, ugly, in terrible physical shape....I am talking about self made guys.

 

I know what you mean. I'm in love with a rich guy too, self made, that is the most gorgeous guy in the whole universe. He is 44, but he is with someone else as well.

 

You are probably correct in that it is highly unlikely his marriage is crap, but gotta try and see.

 

Yeah. In your case I wouldn't even mind being a lover if he is up to, but then you know the pros and cons of that. And that is if he is willing because some men won't go for that.

 

Thanks for the encouragement. I will find my man one day! And if not, maybe I will join the other team. LOL....

 

Sure. Good going with the ride though.

 

Take care,

 

Ariadne

[johnnyj]

I know what you mean. I'm in love with a rich guy too, self made, that is the most gorgeous guy in the whole universe. He is 44, but he is with someone else as well.

 

Yup, that says it all. No wonder you are so supportive. Take care Alex.

[Trimmer]

I ask to drop by the bank one day with the Ferrari so that I can see it. He said he may do it but no promises. And if he does, I will ask him for a quick ride in one. That's innocent enough.

... as long as he doesn't know your intentions.

 

But if there is a connection......well.....I am going for it.....just like those women on Donald Trumps Apprentice show....

So your view of human relationships and interaction is synthesized from a combination of beauty pagents, business school, and television shows?

 

You people are just a bit weird....you are all making the assumption that I will barge in and take this guy away from his wife.

No, I am not making that assumption. However, depending on what kind of a person he is, just positioning yourself (pun intended) for his attention is "not as innocent" as you are letting on. But I suppose that's his business. If he goes after you, then we'll know what kind of man he is anyway, won't we?

 

Interesting, if he sees you as a "better prospect," how confident will you feel in a long-term relationship, knowing that someone else out there with better marketing skills and a better product (you won't be in your 20's forever, you know...) will eventually come along, and that he - being the smart businessman that he is - is bound to take the better offer? That's essentially what you are preparing yourself for, isn't it? Will you be prepared to be on the other end of that deal when it happens a few years down the road?

 

No, I don't believe you are a predator. You are acting like a scavenger.

 

Wish it was a story. But life is stranger than fiction at times. Anyhow, I got my dream Ferrari ride date this friday. I am soooo happy! I feel like a little princess......

47 year old married guy with 2 kids takes a 27-year old bank-employee-with-apparently-unspecified-job-title for a ride in his Ferrari. Now we may be learning more about what kind of a guy he is.

 

Either he's incredibly naive, or he just showed her his dick.

[whichwayisup]

....you are all making the assumption that I will barge in and take this guy away from his wife.

 

That's because you've implied it big time in almost every single one of your posts.

[crazy_grl]

Trimmer just summarized it all beautifully. He's either naive or scummy.

 

So anybody wanna take bets on whether the next post will be sex in the Ferrari or just making out? I'm betting on a passionate kiss that makes her knees go weak.

 

*staying tuned*

[LucreziaBorgia]

I'd say that will happen within the next five posts. Within the next ten it will be a full blown affair. Within the ten after that, she will be pregnant. A few more, it will be "I am going to tell the wife". Then, Dday and she will get thrown under the bus in a particularly harsh way. Then, time to create a new story.

[bentnotbroken]

What all your post imply or in my opinion, said straight out, is; I want this man and I am placing myself in a position to make him notice me(like a huge wart). I am stalking him in a sense, by violating his privacy and researching him like a project to be bidded on. Never mind he is married, or has children, but this is a hostile takeover and I will use every dirty trick, every body part and every source that I can to attain the object of my obsession. Now I don't know whether or not he will respond to your plan of trap and conquer. But your plan speaks a lot about your character and with questionable character you shouldn't be working in a position to have access to someone's private financial situation. It also speaks of what you a capable of on a human level. Maybe he will see you for what you really are, an immature woman who's chrushes get out of control.

[danavladeem]

... as long as he doesn't know your intentions.

 

For as long as human history, men and women, through the ages place themselves in the most advantageous positions for whatever reasons. We all have at one time or another being in a situation where ulterior motives were cloak to ascertain things we needed to know. Obviously there were strategic reasons for doing so. This is a standard human response. Nothing is different here. However, my intent and assessment of the situation will follow protocol that I have set out for myself. I anticipate there will be deviations that will come my way and that I will have to readjust my protocol and approaches to meld with any new reality.

 

So your view of human relationships and interaction is synthesized from a combination of beauty pagents, business school, and television shows?

 

If the statement you posed above were so simple and succinct. There have been many influences on my outlook. For obvious reasons I will not go into the specifics of it all. But suffice to say my eastern European upbringing steered by two pragmatic parents have seared certain expectations, outlooks, frameworks into my essence as to whom I am.

 

No, I am not making that assumption. However, depending on what kind of a person he is, just positioning yourself (pun intended) for his attention is "not as innocent" as you are letting on. But I suppose that's his business. If he goes after you, then we'll know what kind of man he is anyway, won't we?

 

Yes, it is his business as to his decisions. I don’t know him that well. Obviously, you don’t know him at all with the exception of the snippets that I care to reveal here on these forums.

 

Interesting, if he sees you as a "better prospect," how confident will you feel in a long-term relationship, knowing that someone else out there with better marketing skills and a better product (you won't be in your 20's forever, you know...) will eventually come along, and that he - being the smart businessman that he is - is bound to take the better offer? That's essentially what you are preparing yourself for, isn't it? Will you be prepared to be on the other end of that deal when it happens a few years down the road?

 

There are few absolutes in life: death and taxes are some that come to mind. I cannot ascertain the future outcome. If I can, I would have extraordinary supernatural powers that can alter and influence future outcomes. But then again, I have place myself in that classic time travel paradox that physicists have struggle for years to reconcile with that prior statement.

 

But let’s say, for fun, we randomly conjure up this model: in 25 years, I will be 52 and he will be 72. The chances of someone in their 20’s or 30’s expressing an interest in him will be remote. The chronological age gap will be a significant emotional barrier for a lot of these young women to over come. The dating friction coefficient will be sufficiently high to dissuade a significant number of these women.

 

Now, on the other hand, he decides to take on a side dish. Unless, I am unable to provide him with intellectual, emotional and sexual stimulation, he can go for it. But let’s say I am the jealous type with no clue to the reality of life the financial penalties couple with his station age in life will be sufficiently high to give him pause for thought. Let’s put numbers into play here. Assuming things go successfully with me and him. His wife is now out of the picture. Let’s assume his net worth for the sake of this scenario is 50 million. His wife takes half in the divorce. Boom his net is down to 25. Legal fees will probably run into a million or more. Let’s say a million. He is now down to 24. Him and I grow it up to 100 million for a net gain of 76 million (without inflation being factored in). If we split up, he would be loose 38 million. Under Canadian law, I am only entitled to what is gain during the marriage not before. His total net worth is now 62 less a couple million for legal fees for a total of 60. Now if I factor in inflation, the 60 is more like 30 in today’s dollars. Obviously, this is a simple model that does not take into account other factors but I think you get the gist. As for prenups, they cover prior assets and a mechanism for future settlements for house keeping purposes. But since I intend to be both an emotional and life partner to him along to being a business partner, this business partner element will negate the more draconian aspects of the future settlement mechanism inherent in prenups.

 

No, I don't believe you are a predator. You are acting like a scavenger.

 

It’s question of semantics. However, I respect your will to express your opinion.

 

47 year old married guy with 2 kids takes a 27-year old bank-employee-with-apparently-unspecified-job-title for a ride in his Ferrari. Now we may be learning more about what kind of a guy he is.

 

Obviously I will not identify my title for my privacy reasons. In addition, I would not provide identifiable information on him for the same said reason noted earlier. As for the specifics of the ride request, it was a simple request that he acquiesced to. I have provided exceptional service levels for him. He is now just reciprocating his appreciation in return.

 

Either he's incredibly naive, or he just showed her his dick.

 

I certainly don’t think he is naïve due to his many successes in life but I understand where your generalization comes from. As for your penis comment, another poster, Playbrat, eluded to a micro penis. If I read men being what they are and extending Playbrat’s logic, he would too embarrass to show me his penis therefore nothing sexual will happen.

[Owl]

This is awesome!!!

 

I really think you should quit your day job at the bank! You have a much more promising future as an author!