flowr183 Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 hi..i have been with my b/f for a few years..he never met my good friend's sister..she doesnt mean any harm and shes a nice girl. she met my b/f the other night b/c it was my friends b-day..but she got drunk..and it was funny and we were all having laughs. My b/f has this old nice car..but he didnt use that one for this night..when we were leaving the sister then said hey where is the car(she probably knows about it b/c i told her or my friend did)..and she kept saying oh u disappoint me (to my b/f) and still asked where is the car etc etc..and then in the car she actually said are u gonna pick me up from work in that car?..i dont think she meant anything by it but it does sound like she was slightly hitting on him or maybe its just me?? ..but i know she was completely drunk..and then she was saying you cant handle a corporate girl?..and then she said well how do u handle her(meaning me) shes a coporate girl. and she said again so are u gonna pick me in the car?..i know she was really drunk but it kind of bothered me he got attention like that and makes me think apart of my b/f probably felt really good..like almost like an ego boost or something. am i making too much out of it? I told my b/f she doesnt remember alot that went on that night. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 Well, it is kinda flattering AND it's kinda not at all flattering when a super-drunk person expresses attraction/like, isn't it? Ask your b/f what is his take on the whole deal -- I would suspect that you have nothing to fear. I did that once when I was maybe 18 or 20 -- got super-drunk and did that with a guy I knew had a g/f. Boy, was it embarrassing to have to apologize for my juvenile behaviour!!! (And sober, I didn't even think he was at all good looking -- maybe THAT'S what was so embarrassing? ) So, yep, I would say don't sweat it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author flowr183 Posted January 12, 2008 Author Share Posted January 12, 2008 it just kind of bothers me he got the attention..he already is kind of arrogant in some ways so i bet this was a major ego boost.. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 Well, that's a different kettle of fish! If he has an engaging personality or is good-looking or whatever, then he will attract attention for probably the rest of his life. If you choose to stay in relationship with him, then the only way to deal with that is to learn how to not let it bother you -- YOU are the one he chooses to be in relationship with and to go home with at the end of a social event. You could see those as the positives they are, and simply be happy for, and admiring of, his innate strengths. I'm not getting why it's a problem when he gets an ego boost? -- Does he act arrogant towards you, or does it negatively impact your relationship in some other way? (For me, when my guy gets an ego boost it is supporting his self-esteem and confidence and I like and want that, for him.) Link to post Share on other sites
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