Eminematkent Posted June 17, 2003 Share Posted June 17, 2003 This situation is kind of long but I have been dealing with confussion for some time now and I feel maybe I need some anwsers elsewhere so I came here. I was at college enjoying myself and I met a girl who lived in my dorm. I was totally attracted to her. But I really wanted to get to know her before I got involved. So I talked to her here and there and noticed that I wasn't going to even try witht his girl for a few reasons 1) She was always goign out partying 2) She was barely ever around 3) I just felt she was trouble So the first semester went by and as we left for break i took a pictur with her and that was it nothing much. Now here when it begins. I returned from break and the minute i got situated, the girl came in my room and jumped on my lap and said she had missed me and what not. Now to me this showed that she was interested. So I figured I would take a chance. Well we began to talk and I told her alot about myself but she was really insecure about telling me about her past. But after about 2 months we became closer. She would come up to see me everyday. And we would talk for hours. But once she found out that I really liked her she just played games with me. Like She was afraid to give me a chance because her past. More time went by and I just wanted to her to be real with me. Well she never told me how she felt until one day. She came up and told me I want to stop going out, I want to settle down, I want a b/f. Well me, I figured It was for me....Wrong! The next night she went out and met some guy. They dated until the end of the year. And I feel that she lead me on the whole time. So I wrote her a letter at the end of the semester that told her everything...how i felt ect. And she put it back in my face. Telling me that she never did that blah blah blah. So it's now the summer and I decided to give up on her. Well I decided to go visit a friend of mine who is also friends with her. And things were good I went to her house for the first time(the girl I liked). And we hung out all night. And I liked what was happening thinking she has changed now finally and is going to give me a chance. Well she came to visit me for a night a weekend ago. She wore a tight shirt...short short skirt and to me obvisouly wanted me to notice her. Well there were 4 of us there. 2 girls, 2 guys. The other guy and girl made out all night. I would flirt with her and what not but she wasnt to responsive. And I was confused how to aproach her because of our past. Well I obviously didnt do somethign right because she past out of me. And she said not be so stressed we will see each other again. And told me to call her. Now here's my problem.... I dont know what to do about that. I feel that I'm wasting my time with this girl. But I love her deep down. And she always hurts me. But I always go back. And I dont know why. So I called her because I knew that If I didnt call her she wouldnt call. And I was planning on going to see her the other night with my friend from before. Well he couldnt go but she told me to still come. And even though I lived far away she had plans with some guy that night. (She is always with different guys) That pissed me off and I didnt go. I havent talked to her in a few days and I'm constantly thinking she is the right girl for me. But it always ends up hurting me. So I need help ? What can I do to make it work or how can I stop the pain? I mean we are good good friends but I want more than that and I dont know if she does or not? I just hope someone can help me make the right choice...Thanks....Eminem Link to post Share on other sites
Ephemeral Posted June 19, 2003 Share Posted June 19, 2003 Dear Eminem, It seems that this girl is bad news since all she does is hurt you. There is one thing though that she does a lot and is use her past as a reason for not being straight with you. Have you ever had a long serious talk with her about her past? The fact that she goes out with so many other guys shows that she has a fear of committment. Since she keeps on hurting you is because she is still very unsure about herself and from what you say she doesn't want to lose you as a friend and at the same time scared to be around you. Basically right now is not the time to be going out with her. I think she really needs a friend that will stay by her. She has many things in her life to deal with before she can committ to anybody on a very serious level. That is what it seems like from what you said. Yes you may have a chance with her but not a very satisfying one so it's best to move on. Still be her friend if you can but don't expect much else. Before you do have one more very serious talk with her face to face about your feelings. Just get everything off your chest. Then go from there. Hope I helped somewhat. Good Luck! Ephemeral Link to post Share on other sites
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