perfectescape Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 After 7 months of being broken up(she wanted it) with NC, she contacted me at work to question me why I didn't thank her for the virtual card she sent me for my birthday...My birthday is 2.5 weeks away and it seems somewhat early to be getting a card, however, I didn't even get the card from her and I made that clear to her when she called...When she called she just talked about her family and her vacations as though nothing happened 7 months ago..I asked her what the purpose of her calling me and she said that she was just wondering why I didn't respond to her virtual card and that she didn't want to send it on my birthday, as that may upset me and ruin my birthday...I left it that it was nice to hear from her and asked her if she could call me later to talk more and she said that she couldn't due to other plans...She then said that if she didn't speak to me before my birthday, then happy birthday...As I said above my birthday is 2.5 weeks away... My questions are why do you supposed she called after so many months and Was it really to upset me for my birthday? Link to post Share on other sites
Freddy Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 I don't think she was trying to upset you but I guess with her calling it has caused you to question this. I think she is still thinking about you in some way and just trying to be nice. Her saying she couldn't call you later just goes to show that she has moved on. Sorry man just try to shrug it off and continue doing what you doing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author perfectescape Posted January 14, 2008 Author Share Posted January 14, 2008 Since my post an hour or so, she has resent her card which i didn't open and texted me with a message "hey you" IC.... Link to post Share on other sites
sedgwick Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 I would just straight up tell her that you don't want contact with her unless she wants to reconsider being together. That is, if you still want to be with her. Don't let her think she can hurt you and then just waltz on back into your life and be friends like nothing happened. That's insulting to you and inconsiderate of your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkRibbon Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 I 100% agree with sedgwick! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 I would just straight up tell her that you don't want contact with her unless she wants to reconsider being together. That is, if you still want to be with her. Don't let her think she can hurt you and then just waltz on back into your life and be friends like nothing happened. That's insulting to you and inconsiderate of your feelings. I wouldn't even respond to her at all. This is her "fishing" to make sure he is still at her beck and call, should she change her mind. The proof was in the statement "Can we talk later" and her response was "I have other plans." In other words what she is saying is "I'll talk to you when *I* want to talk to you and not the other way around." What this tells me is that she is playing him for a fool. He was doing good with the NC. She's not changing her heart. And the only time I would even tell him to respond, should he desire, is if she says "I screwed up badly, I miss you, I'm sorry." Otherwise, cut her off like a bad habit. Link to post Share on other sites
kimba Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 Or better still, cut her off like a gangrenous toe.... before you lose your whole leg:eek: Link to post Share on other sites
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