JHS Posted January 16, 2008 Share Posted January 16, 2008 No matter that they are 100% in the wrong, they want you back but can't say sorry even though they cannot think for one minute they are in the right ......... and when you tell them what they done they just go quiet! why???????????? It does not make sense at all, when I am wrong I admit it and say sorry, it isn't hard! I agree that it makes no sense but I don't think it's a man thing. I have had relationships where it was the female who could not say sorry/admit wrong. Over really stupid stuff, too. I have seen some real digging in of heals AND I have seen it with some posters on this site! The point to me is that it is important to say sorry or admit wrong so that everyone can just move on. So much time can be wasted getting hung up on that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lishy Posted January 16, 2008 Author Share Posted January 16, 2008 Yes Wogs they are. That is why we are not together! I see things many ways and I can tal about things to a degree that I could then see the other person point of view. He can not do this at ll. His sees his side only and that is all! I would never ever say I am perfect but I do know that I tried my very best and now I do not have the energy to try anymore. That, however, does not stop me feeling sad when I see him and we act like friends passing in the street. Link to post Share on other sites
cj1988 Posted January 16, 2008 Share Posted January 16, 2008 Remember Lishy, IF someone does say they are sorry, THEY are admitting they did something wrong and if they do not they do not have to feel bad for it.....it another way of hiding and more less keeping control of a situation in their retarded brain. Link to post Share on other sites
JHS Posted January 16, 2008 Share Posted January 16, 2008 I guess the problem is that he NEVER says sorry - How you can expect to sort anything out when you NEVER admit you are in the wrong even when you so blatantly are? Pitch it to him as sheer statistical: Is it possible that at least once he is wrong? If he will concede that, take it from there. (Guys tend to be linear thinkers) Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted January 16, 2008 Share Posted January 16, 2008 Men who never say they are sorry (and mean it ) are egomaniacs. As are the women. Men do it more often as, historically speaking, men have always thought of themselves as the "stronger" sex. It's BS. Social has perpetuated this myth for centuries. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 16, 2008 Share Posted January 16, 2008 It sounds like my ex who never did anything wrong according to her. She honest to god could not understand why I was angry about her accusing me of being an abuser and rapist in court. After the cheating, the nasty divorce and the lies in court she thought she would be able to just waltz back into my life after she decided the single life wasn't what she thought it would be. With people like this they are the only person that matters and they have no regard for anybody else. Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted January 16, 2008 Share Posted January 16, 2008 Correction! Society has perpetuated this myth for centuries! When will I ever start rereading my posts before clicking on the send button? First New Year's resolution broken!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lishy Posted January 16, 2008 Author Share Posted January 16, 2008 Woggle You underdstand how frustrating this is. It is so hard to have a small problem that could be sorted with 5 minutes of talking about it but the person involved will not admit they are wrong so it cannot be discussed. I would tell him calmly what I was upset over and he would trail off into a completely different subject that was unrelated to this particular problem and before I knew it I was saying sorry for something I had done 2 months before lol ENough has to be enough one day. It is a real shame as we got along so very well in so many ways. He was perfect for me apart from when we had to deal with a problem that he had caused (any problems caused by me were dealt with as I admitted it and apologised and tried not to do it again) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lishy Posted January 16, 2008 Author Share Posted January 16, 2008 Men who never say they are sorry (and mean it ) are egomaniacs. As are the women. Men do it more often as, historically speaking, men have always thought of themselves as the "stronger" sex. It's BS. Social has perpetuated this myth for centuries. I think he just hated being wrong so he just tried to block it out, it was just a shame for him that I would not allow it as I know from past experience that doing that causes major problems further down the line! Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted January 16, 2008 Share Posted January 16, 2008 I think he just hated being wrong so he just tried to block it out, it was just a shame for him that I would not allow it as I know from past experience that doing that causes major problems further down the line! Some people will avoid the truth at whatever cost. Fear of conflict? Fear of consequences? Unable to see the truth? Unwilling to see the truth? Blindness? Stupidity? All of these? Who is to know? I have come across a lot of people like this in my life. They are "little" people in my mind. They lack maturity and depth of character. They are shallow people who never learn to communicate with others let alone with themselves where it really counts. They strutt through life in constant denial, avoiding conflict at any cost, never searching for answers,choosing to live in ignorance. By not exploring the truth, they deprive themselves of meaningful relationships with others and remain in the dark as to who they are. They are content to live on the surface of things. Maintaining relationships with people who stubbornly refuse to honestly discuss whatever problems may arise in the realtionship is an exercise in futility. It's their loss. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lishy Posted January 16, 2008 Author Share Posted January 16, 2008 I agree that it is his loss Marlena He has lost the best thing that has happened to him. I think he knows that too but still he cannot do the right thing Such a shame! Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted January 16, 2008 Share Posted January 16, 2008 I agree that it is his loss Marlena He has lost the best thing that has happened to him. I think he knows that too but still he cannot do the right thing Such a shame Yes, it is a shame, Lishy. I feel amost inclined to feel sorry for these types. They will never feel the beauty of a true connection with another human being. You will. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lishy Posted January 16, 2008 Author Share Posted January 16, 2008 I feel sorry for him, he is a really nice man but he has communication issues I guess Link to post Share on other sites
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