Love is blue

[Helen]

My heart got broken for a reason that should please me. My story seems like a paradox -- the man hesitated for years and finally married a woman who treated him very well several days ago. Two days before his wedding, we met each other again as friends (We didn't see eath othe very often during the past years because he has been working in a different country since the year we met each other), and I got the news about his wedding. I had decided to tell him that I thought I liked him, but I changed my mind. The damned piano is just a little too moving for me to keep the tears from my eyes, I shruged and smiled to him, and said, "I have been this bar several times, the piano player has never played this well." He smiled and looked into my eyes lovingly. We changed our topic to other things.

 

When we left there, I told myself in the heart "if only he feels happy... all good marriage should be blessed even if..." and kept everything under control before he suddenly hugged me and kissed me. He said that he has always love me. "You are the best girl I have ever met in my life. I have hesitated for a long time to get married, but she cann't wait anylonger, and she treat me very well."

 

I know I can change nothing. He is a very nice man who would rather take all the burdens himself to avoid hurting others. This is one of the reasons why I liked and respected him so much. In all the past years, what we were not more than friends, if I could change him so easily within an hour how can I still beleive that he is a responsible man?

 

But I lost my hope for the future of my poor emotion. God brought this man to me and gave me enough time to listen to my heart. No one could replace him before and there seems no one will...

 

I left him.

 

But I don't know where I am going to.

 

Thanks to everybody who have the patience to read my story. I give my e-mail address to be saved from the tragedy that doomed.

[LoveAngel]

My heart got broken for a reason that should please me. My story seems like a paradox -- the man hesitated for years and finally married a woman who treated him very well several days ago. Two days before his wedding, we met each other again as friends (We didn't see eath othe very often during the past years because he has been working in a different country since the year we met each other), and I got the news about his wedding. I had decided to tell him that I thought I liked him, but I changed my mind. The damned piano is just a little too moving for me to keep the tears from my eyes, I shruged and smiled to him, and said, "I have been this bar several times, the piano player has never played this well." He smiled and looked into my eyes lovingly. We changed our topic to other things. When we left there, I told myself in the heart "if only he feels happy... all good marriage should be blessed even if..." and kept everything under control before he suddenly hugged me and kissed me. He said that he has always love me. "You are the best girl I have ever met in my life. I have hesitated for a long time to get married, but she cann't wait anylonger, and she treat me very well." I know I can change nothing. He is a very nice man who would rather take all the burdens himself to avoid hurting others. This is one of the reasons why I liked and respected him so much. In all the past years, what we were not more than friends, if I could change him so easily within an hour how can I still beleive that he is a responsible man? But I lost my hope for the future of my poor emotion. God brought this man to me and gave me enough time to listen to my heart. No one could replace him before and there seems no one will...

 

I left him. But I don't know where I am going to. Thanks to everybody who have the patience to read my story. I give my e-mail address to be saved from the tragedy that doomed.

Dear Helen,

 

This is a very difficult situation to reply to and I must admit, your story has moved me deeply. I'm sure I'm not the only one. It has all the makings of a tragic love story on one hand, but on the other, it may be a blessing in disguise. Certainly the irony involved is enough to make anyone feel a loss of sanity, but was it for the best? He may have been the perfect man for you, but now he's committed himself to another relationship despite what he supposedly felt for you. I'm not saying that what he said isn't true, but perhaps his motives need to be questioned. He's given up his life to a girl because "she treats him well." Is that a reason to get married? Is that what marriage means to you? Instead of dwelling on what you didn't do in the past, or on what you should have done, think about what you've learned from this experience. Think of what you've discovered about yourself and work on fixing those things you're not completely happy with. There's a quote of the moment that we have here that was made by David Grayson: "Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so." You will find others in your life that will have the same qualities you enjoy in this man. There are others out there -- sometimes it's just a matter of opening up your eyes to see the beauty that some people possess. You've learned, perhaps the hard way, that expressing your feelings is very important. Sometimes we're afraid to tell others how we feel because we're afraid to get hurt. But it's that pain that lets you know love is real -- that love exists -- that we aren't some kind of accident resulting from some random cosmic explosion. Pain is a part of love. Sometimes when you love something so much, you have to let it go. Who knows how this marriage will turn out. Perhaps it won't work out. Perhaps it will. But you can't cling to the hope that somehow he's going to run back to you. You've got to move on with your life and find someone who treats you the way you want to be treated. There are billions of people on this planet and somehow, somewhere you're going to find the perfect person for you when you least expect it. It could be someone you bump into in an elevator, someone you sit next to in a theatre, someone you walk past on the street -- but you'll find them if you keep your eyes open. What was meant to be will be. Keep your spirits up and continue to be this man's friend. Perhaps that's what he needs most right now. No one can predict the future and no one can change the past. Live life to the fullest. God bless you and best wishes!

 

Yours,

 

LoveAngel