Joek20s Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 Over the past few months it seems my closests friends and I are drifting apart. One of my friends went her own way, moved out and lives in another city and hardly talk anymore and never do anything. One of my closer friends who I use to talk to all the time began dating and then she blew me off for a few weeks and then started talking to me. Things haven't been the same and I really just don't feel the same about our friendship because of her doing that. My greatest and best friends of all time is moving to Ohio in November with her husband and quite honestly I don't know how I will deal with it. She's been my best friend for 8 years now, the only person I can honestly say I trust my life with. I'm just in a depressed state now because I work a lot, I don't really like going to bars and going out and stuff and I don't have a girlfriend. These people, including my best friends husband, were all really good friends of mine and now my best friend is the closest friend I have and even still we don't talk much anymore. I just feel I'm losing everyone that meant something to me and once they're gone I don't know what I'm gonna do. Any advice on dealing with friends moving away? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 You're just going to have to learn to accept this as the normal ebb and flow of life. Enjoy and cherish your friends today and honor each moment. Some will be in your life just a short time. A small number may be there for life. Some you will not see for many years and be reunited at some future time. It's hard not to become saddened by this kind of loss but the very best thing you can do is accept it as you do the clouds and the sun. Many friendships are situational, that is, they are formed and last for the duration of a particular situation or your state in life. They vanish when that situation is over...school buddies are an example. If you don't have more than work or school in common, they will vanish in time. Some friends get married and become caught up in family and new circles of friends. Some move away. Some become preoccupied with studies, work or other issues that significantly reduce the time they once had to dedicate to a friendship with you. Don't feel you have to go around finding or making more friends. This happens during the normal course of your life, unless you're a hermit. If you want to read something nice than poet/philosopher Kahlil Gibran wrote many years ago about friendship, go here------->http://www.columbia.edu/~gm84/gibran19.html In all things, be your own best friend and let others compliment that. Link to post Share on other sites
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