NTT148 Posted January 16, 2008 Share Posted January 16, 2008 Well, i'm an only child (age 17) living with my parents, my dad's really easy going and a laid back person, but my mom she seems to always be under so much stress and always tense, she doesn't work, she's at home most of the time, and she says she wants to focus on the family 100% which is why she doesn't go out, but i never seem to do enough to make her happy, i've only been the greatest best daughter to her, yet she's still not satisfied with me and blames everything on me, yells at me, and takes out all her anger on me, for every small thing i do wrong, even by accident, she gets extremely upset with me, and NOTHING i say to her does anything, NOTHING satisfies her, it's like she wants me to be THE perfect daughter; i do something wrong, she can never forgive me for it, and ALWAYS remembers and brings it up anytime she's mad with me, i do something right, and she's not SATISFIED... it frustrates me SOOO MUCH, it's like im not good enough for her, and i've tried talking to her about it, she always has something to say against me, and i can't do anything, i prefer to be out than at home because when im out i can feel relaxed knowing i don't need to watch everything i do, and she controls my life so much, telling me what to do, i have no freedom, either i go against her and don't do as she says and she yells at me... or... i do what she tells me to, but then she's not satisfied and still yells at me, I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE, just recently, i told her what my mark are in university (first year), and i was a 90+ student in highschool, i worked my ass off all year and when i told her my marks which were just average she questions me about where im going to go in life, and when i tell her she doesn't know because it's REALLY TOUGH and that im trying my hardest, she just gets upset at me and doesn't want to talk to me, or tells me im not trying hard enough... plz someone help me i don't know what to do.......... Link to post Share on other sites
Author NTT148 Posted January 16, 2008 Author Share Posted January 16, 2008 (more descriptive version) Let's start by saying that the last 13-14 years have been absolute mental and psychological chaos. My mother is very controlling and manipulative. She has to know everything that is going on and if she doesn't, she will threaten you. She will hurt you with her words, very abusive psychologically/mentally, but i've learned to keep my spirit up even though all she does is put me down. I live at home right now, (18 years old), and im an only child with my parents, my dad works - mom doesn't work, but I wish she has over the years My mother and I have had a weird relationship. I am best friends with her, but I am best enemies. I know that is typical, but this is actually horrible. It has affected a relationship I was in and that has been put on hold b/c he told me "I need a supporting friendship right now more than I need a relationship." I think that is great and respect him for that. Surprisingly even though my self esteem has been impacted by this treatment over the last 13-14 years, i can still stay optimistic. My mother refuses to get help and I simply cannot go on like this. The current state things are in have impacted my intimate relationships, my spirituality, and any other aspect you can think of. It's to the point where I fear telling my mom things because she focuses on the negative. But, I also feel horrible if I don't tell her something b/c I feel like I will be hiding something/lying to her, and i always have this guilt with me for not telling her certain things. My dad seems to understand the situation. I have confided in him a small amount, but he told me yesterday not to confide him with anything about my mother anymore. I understand that concern, but that's one less person I can go to. When I talk to my mother it usually causes hell in my house. I have been nothing but the greatest daughter to her, and she still yells at me, it's like nothing i do can satisfy her, as if i don't deserve to be her daughter. Even whenever i do something RIGHT, it's not enough for her and she yells at me, hurts me with her words. I honestly don't know what to do anymore, im frustrated with all of this, and i don't want to live with this anymore, just recently, (i was a 90+ student in highschool, and am now in first year university), i told her my marks, and i try soooo incredibly hard studying, and they're average right now, and she became extremely upset, yelling "WHERE DO YOU THINK UR GONNA GET IN LIFE WITH MARKS LIKE THOSE?", and i told her she doesn't even know how hard it is, and she's basically stopped talking to me... whenever i try, she goes 'DONT', and im fed up with it, plz, i don't know what to do other than continue dealing with it, but i simply cannot take it anymore.... what should i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Nevermind Posted January 16, 2008 Share Posted January 16, 2008 (edited) Give more information. For example, how old are you really? 17? 18? It's really surprising to me to see someone be so unaware of their own age. What do you do that makes you the best possible daughter ever? Could you describe a situation in detail, when you were doing something right and she yelled at you? Can't really see the picture here. Are you bisexual? Because you're talking about a "he" here and about a "she" in another thread. And reading a little further, you referred to yourself as a boyfriend. Troll? Maybe your mother is not feeling so good about the sudden sex change and can't express her insecurity? Edited January 16, 2008 by Nevermind Link to post Share on other sites
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