maintain Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 Hi I was with my girlfriend for 11 months, but it was more than just that she was the girl I wanted to marry. I am only 22 and she is 20 and she felt the same way. I was graduating college, however and about half way through the relationship I put her second and my boys first. This because I was trying to "live it up" my senior year. I was immature I know that, and she left because I hurt her too many times, but when she broke up with me I realized everything I did wrong and I want to be with her now and commit all my time to her. We broke a few times before that and after the last time we got back together I told her I was ready for her, but I wasn't because of graduating I was too stressed out to give her the attention she needed and I promised to give her so she just got fed up. She is still madly in love with me and I give her space like she asks. She can't go more than three or four days without calling me. I know she seeing another guy right now too. But all she can say is that he isn't what I am to her and she misses and loves me. She said she is too angry with me and she just remembers all the bad times, but there was so many more good times. I've told her how I feel wrote her a book of poems, delivered a CD and a bouquet of roses on her door step. What can I do to show her Iam ready for her and I am finally ready to commit? I'm dying without her ! She says she is in love with me, but she doesn't think I am good for her....What do I do? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 18, 2003 Share Posted June 18, 2003 You need to increase your credibility. The last time you got together with her, you promised to give her the attention she needed but, because of graduation, you did not live up to your word. You have lost your credibility with her and at this point she has no faith that you would keep your word again. The only thing you can do is let time pass. If you're just out of high school, I still seriously doubt you're ready for the kind of time and committment a long term relationship requires. Why don't you just get out there and enjoy yourself a while. From now on, don't give your word if you can't keep it. Because of your failure to live up to promises, you are where you are with this gal today. Link to post Share on other sites
ator Posted June 28, 2003 Share Posted June 28, 2003 Tony is the man. Good advice. The most attractive thing to a woman after a break-up seems to be that the other person is truly moving on with their life. Keep in contact with her, and when you finally move on with your life - she'll be begging to come back. If not, you've moved on anyway, and hopefully you've still got her as a friend. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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