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Jamian

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Hi Guys

 

Its been a while since my last tread. In between my last thread and now, I found out that my ex has met a new guy, She broke up with me in October and got a new guy a month later. Was totally devestated, gutted, I had hoped that somehow she would change her mind, naive or what?

 

Anyway, while I was with my ex, I started to loose my hair, the ex alway maintained that it made no difference to her. However, now that I am single again after nearly 4 years, I'm very self consious about getting back into the dating scene. I shave whats left right in using a blade one on the electric razor.

 

What I would like to know is, does going/being bald make a difference to women, I'm only 31 and my confidence is pretty rock bottom just now. Any views would be greatly appreciated.

 

Cheers

 

Jamian

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ElvenPriestess

There are plenty of balding and bald men who have no problems getting women. It's a part of what happens to many men. Nothing to worry about I assure you. You'll be fine, don't let it be a focus, don't let it get to you. Most women myself included are attracted to confidence above all else. Stay confident, you'll be fine.:love:

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Jeez man... it's what's inside your head that matters, not what's on it... And if a woman tells you otherwise stay away from her...

 

Just tell them it's a solar panel for a sex machine...

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Thats so not true. It is an issue with most women and I say that as a guy who is loosing his hair. Some guys can still look attractive, but they look less attractive than they did before and there is no question about it. And most women under forty won't begin a relationship with somone loosing their hair

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Thats so not true. It is an issue with most women and I say that as a guy who is loosing his hair. Some guys can still look attractive, but they look less attractive than they did before and there is no question about it. And most women under forty won't begin a relationship with somone loosing their hair

 

I guess it just depends on the woman:confused: Every person is different after all. I don't discriminate myself.;)

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Thats so not true. It is an issue with most women and I say that as a guy who is loosing his hair. Some guys can still look attractive, but they look less attractive than they did before and there is no question about it. And most women under forty won't begin a relationship with somone loosing their hair

 

Most women over forty won't date a broke guy...... bald rich guys rock!

 

Except Trump..... his hair scares the hell outta me.

 

Like it might jump off his head and try to have butt sex with me.

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The man who broke my heart is 31 and rapidly balding. I'd give anything in the world to have him back. His hair (or lack thereof) is completely irrelevant.

 

That said, shaved heads are hot. I was just telling a friend last night who shaved his head how hot he looked!

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I used to have long hair, but since it's started to fade (about 3 years ago) i've been shaving my head (not bic'n it, but just buzzing it super super close). And I've been told countless times, by both ladies that have known me before (when I had long hair) and ladies that I've just met that I look handsome and super cute with a shaved head. So, I'm not sure what that one poster is talking about. Sure some guys look better then other with a shaved head. Maybe I'm just one of the lucky ones and look better with a shaved head......:)

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Thats so not true. It is an issue with most women and I say that as a guy who is loosing his hair. Some guys can still look attractive, but they look less attractive than they did before and there is no question about it. And most women under forty won't begin a relationship with somone loosing their hair

 

Hey man, I'm a woman under 40, and if I found a man who made me feel wonderful and loved and great, I wouldn't care what he did or didn't have growing out of his head. We all change physically as we get older, whether it's losing hair or hair turning grey or getting wrinkles or whatever. Mature people accept that and recognize that a head of hair (or lack thereof) is not a building block of a relationship. Know what I mean?

 

What will make you unattractive to women is if you're really insecure about going bald. Just keep shaving it off and forget about it. Seriously.

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Best compliment all month!

 

Thanks a4a! :lmao:

 

It would make for a fantastic bumper sticker!

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What I would like to know is, does going/being bald make a difference to women,

Jamian, I really think it is a personal thing -- some women WILL be turned off, and others will find it SEXY as all get-out ;)

 

It's like, would others date a (young) woman who happens to have grey hair? Or incredibly small boobs...or incredibly large boobs? Acne? Wears a hearing aid?

The answers are different, depending on the 'what' and the 'who'.

 

So...just build confidence and be confident in everything that makes you YOU. The people who don't appreciate some aspect of you, won't. And that's fine for them -- it still doesn't make you any less than everything you are and always have been.

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So...just build confidence and be confident in everything that makes you YOU. The people who don't appreciate some aspect of you, won't. And that's fine for them -- it still doesn't make you any less than everything you are and always have been.

 

That's exactly what I'm talking about. Good advice here Ronni.

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Well, I'm 23 years old and I don't see a problem with a bald man. I personally wouldn't date anyone that much older than me but if a man around my age was bald it wouldln't bother me. Some men are attractive bald. I agree that you shouldn't try to hide it because that makes it worse.

 

No worries everyone has something about their appearence that worries them.

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I used to be extremely insecure about my body hair, to the point of waxing my back, shaving my chest, etc.

 

Then I met a series of women who could care less and I've slowly grown to realise that if my girlfriend loves me it won't matter how hairy or not hairy I am. It's about loving me for who I am, receding hairline and hairy body or not.

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I used to be extremely insecure about my body hair, to the point of waxing my back, shaving my chest, etc.

 

Then I met a series of women who could care less and I've slowly grown to realise that if my girlfriend loves me it won't matter how hairy or not hairy I am. It's about loving me for who I am, receding hairline and hairy body or not.

 

I've had hairy all the way and almost none but the legs you know? It really doesn't make or break. Nor should it.

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I used to be extremely insecure about my body hair, to the point of waxing my back, shaving my chest, etc.

 

Then I met a series of women who could care less and I've slowly grown to realise that if my girlfriend loves me it won't matter how hairy or not hairy I am. It's about loving me for who I am, receding hairline and hairy body or not.

 

Too bad it doesn't work that way for women.......

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Too bad it doesn't work that way for women.......

 

What do you mean? I could care less if my girlfriend shaved her legs, privates, pits or whatever. I'd prefer they keep neat just like I'll try to keep myself neat but if they are comfortable growing out something it's their body and I love them for it.

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What do you mean? I could care less if my girlfriend shaved her legs, privates, pits or whatever. I'd prefer they keep neat just like I'll try to keep myself neat but if they are comfortable growing out something it's their body and I love them for it.

 

how bout a nice neat mustache?

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LMAO @ the Trump comment.....

 

Anyway....in a perfect world, no one would judge you on your looks,hair (or lack of) your gut, or how much money you make. But this is reality.You WILL have women who don;t like bald guys.Just like you might not like a

woman with too much cellulite, or a big gut. It's all about preferences.

It doesn't make anyone more shallow than the other in MY opinion.

We all have a right to what we are attracted to and what we aren't.

 

I for one don't care for a guy who is obviously balding but won't shave it all the way off. Does that make me shallow? I don't think so. Now if I was in love with him BEFORE he started balding I couldn't care less.....I wouldn;t love him any less for it or fall out of love.THAT ia shallow. But

initially NO I would not find it attractive.

 

Hope that answered the Q ;)

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