maria22 Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 I've known for some time that my fiance has a problem when it comes to gambling, I didn't realize the extent of his horrible attitude (or his problem) until last night. After another night of watching him play a game for 4 hours on his laptop, I teased him by grabbing the mouse and pressing exit, he stared at me in complete horror and said 'why did you do that?' Well, I replied.. out of fear with a cheeky smile.. 'because I love you?' Biggest mistake. He ended up making me cry for turning off his game. Is this because he's just horrible, or is it that his gambling addiction is also centered towards games, anything he has to win at? Is it that he's starting to show signs of being another power tripping controlling boyfriend, or is it his addiction... oh i'm a fool... perhaps it's just that I can't get my head around his competitive nature.. maybe it's like taking E away from an addict.. Maria Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 Thats a gambling problem alright. Tell him how you feel about it and suggest seeing a counselor for the problem. Unfortunately he has to admit that he has a problem and has to want to quit on his own. He can't be forced into quitting. Link to post Share on other sites
Author maria22 Posted January 18, 2008 Author Share Posted January 18, 2008 I just want to think that it's the addiction.. not him.. the addiction is making him angry with me.. right? He admitted that he has an addiction to the casino but he wont admit about the game... I'm afraid he will blow up if I ask him to see someone about it.. I need to know how to approach it.. i'm heartbroken to be honest.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author maria22 Posted January 18, 2008 Author Share Posted January 18, 2008 I feel as though he thinks im selfish.. he thinks I don't want him to enjoy his game... of course I do.. I just want him to be able to quit it every night without getting angry at me. He's addicted to texting on his phone.. to the casino.. to online games.. to the internet cafe.. Yet he insists i am with him always, he asked me to help him steer away from the casino, but there is only so much I can do.. I pray for strength because I feel it's all I have left... he loves his games.. he doesnt want to quit them.. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 I just want to think that it's the addiction.. not him.. the addiction is making him angry with me.. right? He admitted that he has an addiction to the casino but he wont admit about the game... I'm afraid he will blow up if I ask him to see someone about it.. I need to know how to approach it.. i'm heartbroken to be honest.. More than likely. I heard that a major gambling addiction will make a person angry, especially if someone tries to prevent them from gambling. I saw your other thread too. Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. How long have you two been together? You shouldn't be afraid of him. Your BF is suppose to be your best friend. Do you have family or friends you can talk to? Link to post Share on other sites
Author maria22 Posted January 18, 2008 Author Share Posted January 18, 2008 i cant talk to anyone about this. I cant talk to him, i cant talk to my friends (because they will be angry) i cant talk to my parents at all they will take his side, i cant talk to my psychiatrist she forbids me a relationship anyway. yep, im on here cause i cant talk to anyone. he denies his gaming is a problem.. its his attitude, he makes me feel small and inferior and i just feel fed up. usually i would not admit it but im online so who the heck cares right now hes not in the room, im just a fool. arghh maria' Link to post Share on other sites
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