candykisses Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 Can someone please give me some perspective on this guy? I have had a crush on this guy for a couple of months now. He knows I like him. Every morning he would walk my office, on his way to his.(we do not work together, just share a buidling). There have been times he would let me catch him looking at me and at times he would make sure to get my attention and smile and wave. Things seemed to be going good, up until about a month ago. Before Christmas I gave him a Christmas card and during that time we had a good talk. Talking about personal things and stuff of that nature. During the entire time, there was no break in the conversation or awkwardness between us the entire length of the conversation(about 20 minutes). We didn't see each other for almost 2 weeks due to the holidays, but that was when I noticed that he started to walk to his office from the outside instead of the inside. He actually was doing this about a week or so before I gave him the card. Anyway, but he would still come by and smile and wave to me and I would catch him still looking at me. Even up until earlier this week, he came by 3 times in one day and each time he would initiate the looks, the smiles and he even looked back to make sure I was watching him and when he seen me he waved. I was feeling pretty good about the positive actions he was giving me. Now this is where I am confused. Today was no different, he went to his office from the outside and then he came by about 45 minutes later but didn't look over in my direction. So I just let it go and went on with my work, until a coworker of mine said that he just passed by and was looking over in our direction, and he waved to my co worker, which he is friendly with. If he was avoiding me, he wouldn't be coming by back and forth, right? So I was wondering if anyone can help me out with some suggestions with what could be possibly be going on with him. Is he afraid of a relationship or not interested like I thought he was? I just don't get how he can be positive and open one minute and distant and closed the next. Thanks for opinions and suggestions. Link to post Share on other sites
Boost79 Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 Well, as a 28 yr old guy, I never had any woman chase me, this guy sounds like he's too shy to make a move. Now, I wasn't born in the States and my beliefes about certain things are different, so I would have to say that in this case, if you want something to happen here, take charge and try to talk to him in private and see if he would be interested in going out. Plain and simple. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 hahah well honestly i think he's just getting the satisfaction of being admired by you. It's a great confidence booster and something that can never get old, when a girl looks at you with adoration and desire. The shyness *might* be a factor, but he did have a conversation with you (with relative ease and comfort). I don't know if he is honestly attracted to you like you are to him (you've only talked to him once? for 20 mins? thats really not that much time...) as i can tell you are physically attracted to him. And judging someone on being distant and closed simply because he doesn't look at you everytime he passes by or is in your line of sight is not a good sign. Maybe if you guys were on a real talking relationship and he stopped contacting you, then you could make that decision. If you really want to know, just ask him out. He looks at you, makes sure you're paying attention to him and all that, and he smiles. He's being friendly enough, so why not just go for it? (the girls asking a guy out isn't cliche, and it shows confidence on your part...you'd b surprised by how a guy can be impressed with a girl who asks them out) Link to post Share on other sites
Boost79 Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 hahah well honestly i think he's just getting the satisfaction of being admired by you. It's a great confidence booster I personally think people who do that are evil. Talk to this guy and close the loop. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted January 19, 2008 Share Posted January 19, 2008 well then you'll have to hate about 1/3 of the human race then (including all of hollywood, all those pop stars, all those mainstream musicians, models, etc) Attractive people will do terrible things, and most times they can get away with it. Link to post Share on other sites
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