MW in love with MM why is he treating me this way now??

[justice]

Lila, you sound just like the ow who slept with my husband. Everyone here who knows me, knows my story.

My h thew the ow under the bus, like you, she and he worked together. She got fired, she stalked him and me and caused major damage to one of my vintage Camaros.

She tried to get me fired and him as well. It didn't work, she ended up with a restraining order which she broke, she went to jail, she lost her husband and her kids and I heard recently that she can't even get visitation with them.

 

I stayed with my H for awhile after finding out about them. It didn't work, but that is my fault, I couldn't trust him and if I can't trust someone I don't need them in my life. Even today, a year and some months after my divorce, my xh is still trying to get me back, he lives with his mom and isn't doing so great, and it will never happen.

 

His OW was alot like you in every respect. It was not a happy ending for her and I can see from your postings that it isn't going to be a happy ending for you either. Grow up please. Face the facts that this guy was only using you for a spare piece of ++++. He doesn't love you and he wants you to leave him alone so that he can salvage what little is left of his marriage. The disgust you see him looking at you with is real.

 

Like my XH, he probably can't believe that was was supposed to be quick and easy is now costing him what is long term and real gold opposed to fool's gold. His wife is a good woman for putting up with all of this crap, but like me, she may have her limits. If I could talk to her, I'd advise her and her h to take out a restraining order on you. Yes, when the OW wouldn't leave my H alone, he did take out a restraining order against her in conjunction to the one I took out on her.

 

Please think about your children. You are cheating them out of a Mother and a sane family.

[mopar crazy]

Lila, you sound just like the ow who slept with my husband. Everyone here who knows me, knows my story.

My h thew the ow under the bus, like you, she and he worked together. She got fired, she stalked him and me and caused major damage to one of my vintage Camaros.

She tried to get me fired and him as well. It didn't work, she ended up with a restraining order which she broke, she went to jail, she lost her husband and her kids and I heard recently that she can't even get visitation with them.

 

I stayed with my H for awhile after finding out about them. It didn't work, but that is my fault, I couldn't trust him and if I can't trust someone I don't need them in my life. Even today, a year and some months after my divorce, my xh is still trying to get me back, he lives with his mom and isn't doing so great, and it will never happen.

 

His OW was alot like you in every respect. It was not a happy ending for her and I can see from your postings that it isn't going to be a happy ending for you either. Grow up please. Face the facts that this guy was only using you for a spare piece of ++++. He doesn't love you and he wants you to leave him alone so that he can salvage what little is left of his marriage. The disgust you see him looking at you with is real.

 

Like my XH, he probably can't believe that was was supposed to be quick and easy is now costing him what is long term and real gold opposed to fool's gold. His wife is a good woman for putting up with all of this crap, but like me, she may have her limits. If I could talk to her, I'd advise her and her h to take out a restraining order on you. Yes, when the OW wouldn't leave my H alone, he did take out a restraining order against her in conjunction to the one I took out on her.

 

Please think about your children. You are cheating them out of a Mother and a sane family.

WOW Justice, your H's OW was really unstable! If I had a classic muscle car and she damaged it I would be the one the sitting in jail for beating her ass down, HARD! That would have been the last nail in the coffin. Sorry you had to deal w/ an unstable wacko. Glad things worked out for you though. You gave it a shot and it didn't work but at least you tried.

 

I was thinking the same thing as you Justice, about LILA sounding exactly like my H's xOW. She was an unstable woman. I even told my attorney that I did not want that psycho around my children. She got drunk and tried committing suicide while pregnant w/ her now xH infant b/c he was cheating on her and she caught them (she M him anyway). If her H (then BF) wouldn't have called the ambulance she would have died right there.

She reminds me exactly of LILA only LILA seems a little more immature and that's not saying a whole lot.

 

LILA, get on w/ your life. You really need some professional help. I know you are hurting but you are out of control. If it's that hard to work w/ him find another job.

[ICallsEmAsISeesEm]

cant i love both men i mean i think im just use to my husband plus im not satisfied with my husband with the MM i was satisfied i think about him all day i know i love him.

So what are you doing - using your husband for the security he offers you? How noble. NOT.

 

..so he agreed to take the blame and tell my husband that all this was him and nothing has happen between us he told my husband that he takes the blame for everything ,so why did he do this for me if he didnt love me ??

Jesus - that had NOTHING to do with love and EVERYTHING to do with saving his own a*ss. If he's got to play the game and keep your husband from finding out the truth and telling his wife about your affair, he's going to play the game.

 

...why do i have to give up on him if he wasnt interested he wouldnt have done it to began with do you think he may have thought he loved me and than realized he doesnt love me now or doyou think he was lying to me the whole time.

You were too easy - throwing yourself at him and proclaiming your love for him and happily giving him sex whenever and wherever he wanted. What's not to like about that? Doesn't mean he loves/loved you, however.

 

...as for his wife i hate her how could she let him go after the A and tell me im free to be with him and then take him back a month later i really,really hate her

What is WRONG with you? You're LUCKY this woman doesn't come and put your head through a wall AND tell your husband what you've REALLY been up to. You ought to be THANKING her for being nothing but graceful to you. Where do YOU get off hating HER?

 

i can work things out with my H and still be with the MM cant i ?

You mean, so you can continue cuckolding your husband for his paycheck and the security he brings while acting like a bunny-boiler and begging some man to have sex with you? Sounds like a great plan. Puke.

 

what i dont understand if his wife is the woman that most men at work say's she is than why did he cheat on her .

Quite honestly, because you were so easy. Men can be pigs like that. No big surprise.

 

...but obviously shes not satisfying him sexually right?

LOL..if that's what you'd like to believe. Seems your married pervert was just looking for a little variety. No big surprise there.

 

..since we are going to continue to work for the same company dont you think we have a high chance of hooking up again?

You need to stop thinking with your genitals. What is WRONG with you?

[stillafool]

I have almost read this entire post and I must say you are CRAZY!!! I'm starting to wonder if this is even true.

 

Of course this man slept with you - you were asking for it. He was lying when he said he loved you what he loved was the sex. You are making him hate you by constantly being in his face and calling. I bet he despises you by now.:lmao: I would. Even if you took his W out of it you would make him hate you. Nothing is worst than telling a person you don't want them and they still keep coming. Gawd woman, have some pride!!!!

 

I have to say this - his wife is one smart cookie. I love the way she handled you and her husband. No wonder he slung you under the bus and ran back to her. You are no match for her.

 

Do your poor husband a favor and leave him. He deserves to have a wife who doesn't throw herself at someone else's husband.

[LILA BELL]

justice i ahe a question for you ,you say u have hone through the same thing,why did you take your H back after the A and then leave him ? dont you think you just wasted his time when you could have just let him go when he told you of the A

 

did you only take him back so he would not be with the OW?

 

the time that you and your husband tried to work things out were you happy at all? do you think that my MM and his W will be able to work things out or will she end up leaving him in the long run ?

 

i know my judgment is clouded right now,but i am still a great mother i spend time with my kids,the times i was meeting up with MM took no tiime from my kids because i would just leave work an hour early and we did what we had to do .

 

the W issue you ppl dont know her i mean you are just coming to her rescue because she has been betrayed but it doesnt mean shes a great person like i said if shes so great he would have never cheated .

 

yes she could have been rude called me every name in the book when she called me but she didnt ,yes she know's where i work obviously and i know she can come up here anytime to confront me but she has'nt .

 

i guess im mad at her because i feel as though she lied to me she told me im FREE TO BE WITH HIM IF I WANT IF YOU MAKE MY H HAPPY AND IF HE LOVES YOU AND YOU LOVE HIM THEN IM NOT GOING TO STAND IN THE WAY OF HIS HAPPINESS. I WANT HIM TO BE HAPPY REGARDLESS OF WHAT HE HAS DONE TO ME HE IS IN MY LIFE FOR GOOD WE HAVE KIDS TOGETHER SO I WISH NO HARM ON HIM,AND AS FOR YOU I AM NOT MAD AT YOU I DONT HATE YOU BUT I HAVE TO BE HONEST ABOUT SOMETHING TAKE IT HOWEVER YOU WANT TO TAKE IT BUT I AM NOT THREATEN BY YOU..I AM NO LONGER WITH MY H SO IF YOU WANT HIM YOU CAN HAVE HIM .

 

i remember every word she told me i mean we must have talked for an hour or so we even laughed over the phone,so the day after she tells me all this MM tells me at work the very next day he doesnt want to continue the affair.

 

my thing is why would she call me and tell me all the crap if she took him back a month later thats why im angry with her i feel as though she is only with him just to try and keep him away from me like if shes trying to make me pay.

[Cobra_X30]

i know my judgment is clouded right now,but i am still a great mother i spend time with my kids,the times i was meeting up with MM took no tiime from my kids because i would just leave work an hour early and we did what we had to do

 

Wait... I missed the part where you explained what makes this MM better than your H.

 

Also... why are you not interested in leaving your M?

 

Dont you know that by hurting thier father you are hurting your children too? If you keep doing what your doing your going to take him away from them! It doesnt matter if you spend a little time with them... your about to emotionally kick them! Thats just so mean!

[LILA BELL]

yes i would leave my M if MM told me he wants to bwith me and start a relationship i would leave my H i know it sounds bad but this happens everyday to ppl im not the first MW to fall in love with a MM and i wont be the last.

 

if i cannot be with MM well yes i will try and work things out with my H im not some dumb kid what you ppl dont understand is that this is not my first A but this is the first time i have ever wanted to leave my H for another man what i feel for MM i have never felt this way towards another man in all my A ,WHICH IS WHY ITS SO HARD FOR ME TO GIVE UP ON HIM

[mopar crazy]

Lila, Justice gave it a fair shot at seeing if her M could survive his infidelity, it couldn't. She knew she couldn't trust him again and did the right thing for HERSELF, she let the M go. She couldn't live in a M w/o trust.

 

As for his W, I bet you $1,000 HE pursued her to work on the M. I bet he begged, pleaded, and she agreed to would give it a try, to see if their M also could be salvaged. I don't think she took him back to get back at YOU. Hell, she might have even played YOU for a fool saying your welcome to have him, blah, blah, but all along her and her H were going to work on their M. She got you good and you fell for it.

[LILA BELL]

Mopar Crazy Why Are You Trying To Rub It In ??

 

If Anyone Got Anyone Good That Would Be Me Getting Her Good She Should Feel Stupid Im The One That Knows How Her Husbands D**k Looks I Know How Her H F**ks She Should Feel Stupid Just For The Fact That Another Woman Had Her H Goods And Knows What Shes Working With

 

So She Didnt Play Me Or Anybody Else.

[norajane]

justice i ahe a question for you ,you say u have hone through the same thing,why did you take your H back after the A and then leave him ? dont you think you just wasted his time when you could have just let him go when he told you of the A

 

Wasted HIS time??? HE wasted her time by cheating on her and destroying the trust in their marriage. HE wanted to be with justice or HE would have walked away. HE was lucky she even gave it a chance.

 

the W issue you ppl dont know her i mean you are just coming to her rescue because she has been betrayed but it doesnt mean shes a great person like i said if shes so great he would have never cheated .

 

yes she could have been rude called me every name in the book when she called me but she didnt ,yes she know's where i work obviously and i know she can come up here anytime to confront me but she has'nt .

We don't know her, but her ACTIONS are what makes me believe she has some dignity, class, and grace. Because she didn't call you names, because she didn't harass you at your job, because she chose to handle finding out her H was cheating on her calmly, and didn't come after you with both barrels is what shows her to be a good person.

 

People who cheat don't always cheat because their spouse sucks. They cheat because they themselves suck, there's something within them that makes them suck because they choose to deal with their issues by lying and deceiving instead of being honest and telling their spouse there are problems to work through. Sorry, but it's true.

i guess im mad at her because i feel as though she lied to me she told me im FREE TO BE WITH HIM IF I WANT IF YOU MAKE MY H HAPPY AND IF HE LOVES YOU AND YOU LOVE HIM THEN IM NOT GOING TO STAND IN THE WAY OF HIS HAPPINESS. I WANT HIM TO BE HAPPY REGARDLESS OF WHAT HE HAS DONE TO ME HE IS IN MY LIFE FOR GOOD WE HAVE KIDS TOGETHER SO I WISH NO HARM ON HIM,AND AS FOR YOU I AM NOT MAD AT YOU I DONT HATE YOU BUT I HAVE TO BE HONEST ABOUT SOMETHING TAKE IT HOWEVER YOU WANT TO TAKE IT BUT I AM NOT THREATEN BY YOU..I AM NO LONGER WITH MY H SO IF YOU WANT HIM YOU CAN HAVE HIM .

All of that just shows why you need to hate HIM, not her. She was willing to walk away, and HE clearly CHOSE TO STAY WITH HIS WIFE. HE had the opportunity to leave her without a fight and to be with you, she was ready and willing to let him go. That he is with her now is because HE chose not to walk away. His wife said she wouldn't stand in the way. Since his wife wasn't standing in his way of you two being together, he obviously made the choice for himself to be with her.

 

my thing is why would she call me and tell me all the crap if she took him back a month later thats why im angry with her i feel as though she is only with him just to try and keep him away from me like if shes trying to make me pay.

Don't you get it? She isn't trying to keep him away from you. HE is choosing to get away from you. He probably begged his wife to take him back.

[bentnotbroken]

justice i ahe a question for you ,you say u have hone through the same thing,why did you take your H back after the A and then leave him ? dont you think you just wasted his time when you could have just let him go when he told you of the A

 

did you only take him back so he would not be with the OW?

 

the time that you and your husband tried to work things out were you happy at all? do you think that my MM and his W will be able to work things out or will she end up leaving him in the long run ?

 

i know my judgment is clouded right now,but i am still a great mother i spend time with my kids,the times i was meeting up with MM took no tiime from my kids because i would just leave work an hour early and we did what we had to do .

 

the W issue you ppl dont know her i mean you are just coming to her rescue because she has been betrayed but it doesnt mean shes a great person like i said if shes so great he would have never cheated .

 

yes she could have been rude called me every name in the book when she called me but she didnt ,yes she know's where i work obviously and i know she can come up here anytime to confront me but she has'nt .

 

i guess im mad at her because i feel as though she lied to me she told me im FREE TO BE WITH HIM IF I WANT IF YOU MAKE MY H HAPPY AND IF HE LOVES YOU AND YOU LOVE HIM THEN IM NOT GOING TO STAND IN THE WAY OF HIS HAPPINESS. I WANT HIM TO BE HAPPY REGARDLESS OF WHAT HE HAS DONE TO ME HE IS IN MY LIFE FOR GOOD WE HAVE KIDS TOGETHER SO I WISH NO HARM ON HIM,AND AS FOR YOU I AM NOT MAD AT YOU I DONT HATE YOU BUT I HAVE TO BE HONEST ABOUT SOMETHING TAKE IT HOWEVER YOU WANT TO TAKE IT BUT I AM NOT THREATEN BY YOU..I AM NO LONGER WITH MY H SO IF YOU WANT HIM YOU CAN HAVE HIM .

 

i remember every word she told me i mean we must have talked for an hour or so we even laughed over the phone,so the day after she tells me all this MM tells me at work the very next day he doesnt want to continue the affair.

 

my thing is why would she call me and tell me all the crap if she took him back a month later thats why im angry with her i feel as though she is only with him just to try and keep him away from me like if shes trying to make me pay.

 

 

 

 

You missed the key in what the wife said.She said if you make her husband happy and he WANTS to be with you, you could have him.

 

Apparently you don't make him happy and he doesn't want you. Get it HE CHOSE NOT TO BE WITH YOU. Why ever she let him back doesn't matter. The fact is he went back, he didn 't wnat you.

 

And you are the one who said she treated you nicely and that everyone else said that she was a good woman who was nice person. We only repeated what you posted. You need help.

[bentnotbroken]

yes i would leave my M if MM told me he wants to bwith me and start a relationship i would leave my H i know it sounds bad but this happens everyday to ppl im not the first MW to fall in love with a MM and i wont be the last

 

if i cannot be with MM well yes i will try and work things out with my H im not some dumb kid what you ppl dont understand is that this is not my first A but this is the first time i have ever wanted to leave my H for another man what i feel for MM i have never felt this way towards another man in all my A ,WHICH IS WHY ITS SO HARD FOR ME TO GIVE UP ON HIM

 

 

 

 

 

 

She is a repeat offender, I think she stalked this guy and thought she could get him. Leave your husband alone. Why are you with him? You don't know what real feelings are, just what makes the downstairs tingle.

[whichwayisup]

Why this MM chose to go back to his wife isn't your business. You were his affair partner, not his life partner. You two shared hot sex, fun and fantasy. Intense sexual feelings - DO NOT MISTAKE that for a loving, caring, friendship/relationship. Honestly, it sounds like you never had that with him from day one. YOU may feel all that mushy stuff for him which is why you're having such a hard time letting go. HE is over it, his actions speak loud and clear. WHY on earth do you want a man who doesn't want you?

 

You probably know NOTHING about his life, his friends, his kids. If you truly loved and cared for him, you would want to see him happy and do what is best for him. Obviously you can't do that as you want him for yourself. Selfish love never lasts long..Hense why your affair with him is over.

[Woggle]

I must say that MM deserves this. He cheated on his wife and this is what he ends up with. Serves him right of you ask me.

[nextel]

I dont know whether the OP is a fake, naive or conceited. Why would one be so consumed with the W when the H is the one that has made the decision?

 

Relationships start, and end at some point or another. Whether its a breakup, divorce or death. Certainly we all hurt but we move on and deal with the pain we feel. The OP is obsessed with this man so much that she is willing to cause the W pain when MM is the one that has made the decision to not be with her.

 

Grow up....MM has made his decision. Find a way to suck it up instead of trying to cause W grief when it was MM who made up his mind. Light bulb.....when a man makes a decision, there is nothing anyone can do or say to change his mind. It has to come from him.

[brainless twit]

I very rarely post in this area.... but for some sick reason I can't walk away from this madness.

 

My H had an EA with a coworker who (seemingly) is much like the OP. I found out about it right as they were planning to make it a PA, and I reacted like the W in this case. I told him, fine, if you want her you can have her. I called the OW and told her to enjoy herself. I was done.

 

You know what happened? The reality of what he was doing set in. He realized what he was throwing away, and he decided he didn't want that. He broke things off with OW and begged me for another chance, and we started working hard to fix our M. Unfortunately, the OW didn't get the hint, and she kept bothering us. Driving past our house, stalking him at work, calling me constantly.... She ended up getting fired from her job and a restraining order is in place. Even though H thought for awhile that she was better for him than our M, her psychotic behavior quickly convinced him that staying with me was the right decision.

 

Lila Bell - I agree with the countless other posters who have said you should move on. You may never understand why the MM did and said what he did, but at this point he has clearly told you that it's over. If that changes in the future, I'm sure he'll contact you, but for now he has chosen his W and his family.

[LILA BELL]

woggle i have tries to ask him i have gone up to him at work wanting to know why he did this to me he wont speak with me he called me every name in the book when i went up to him at work

[LILA BELL]

brainless twit how long ago was the ea and are you and your husband still together?

 

i only ask because im not sure how this woman can forgive him i feel she will hold a grudge and that may cause problems between them so i see him coming back to me

 

im not as crazy and stupid like most of you ppl are saying im heartbroken im only posting on here in hopes that ican get past it i may seem angry and foolish right now but who know's maybe a few weeks from now i'll be over it

 

my thing is at the moment in my heart i feel as though my feelings for him are true i miss him i miss his touchi miss his kisses i miss talking to him i miss the flirty comments .

 

brainless twit how long did it take for your husband to get over this OW?

[LucreziaBorgia]

i only ask because im not sure how this woman can forgive him i feel she will hold a grudge and that may cause problems between them so i see him coming back to me

 

A man who is faced with losing a wife he doesn't want to lose can be very convincing: he begs, he cries, he swears that OW was 'nothing', he swears that he can and will do better, swears that he will never do it again, and so on. Why wouldn't she try to forgive him? He made it clear that you aren't worth losing their marriage over. If you stepped on a roach, would you throw away the shoes? Nah, you'd just wipe the stuff off the bottom and continue on your way. That is basically what he did to you: he scraped you off, and discarded you without a backward glance. Well, he did glance - but you said yourself that when he looks at you it is with disgust. He will continue to be the repentant husband, showing her that he will do anything to keep her so why would she hold a grudge - or at least enough of one to let him go?

 

Even if she did throw him out physically and forced a divorce on him, this guy won't come back to you. I'm not sure why you think he would.

[Shane7]

Wow..I just have to say..

 

This thread is the biggest load of crap I've read in a looong time..

 

My God, how careless can two people be? Is this REALLY what love is about? Who on God's green earth would want to live with this kind of crap poisoning a marriage?

 

[bentnotbroken]

This person is in need of something that no one on this site can give her. She wants someone to say that she is right in her actions and her and her anger toward the wife. She doesn't understand,or refuses to understand that the wife did absolutely nothing to her. The mm who she knew was a mm lied to her. DUH! She is angry because the w decided to give her family another shot. It doesn't mean that she trusts him, or that she needs him. Could it be she loves him????

 

Yet this person who is an admitted repeat offender is angry because she found someone who wasn't as in to her as she is to him. She is out of contol, irrational, and just plain scary. She admits she knows she is wrong in her behavior, but she justifies by saying she is hurt and in love. Bad behavior is never justifiable, I tell my students that everyday.

[brainless twit]

Lila Bell -

 

The EA lasted a few weeks in August of 2006. It was over the day I discovered it. I realize that there are many here who were involved in a long-term A with lots of emotion involved, but in my H's situation, it was a stupid infatuation that didn't hold up to the light of reality. He didn't mourn over her, he didn't contact her afterward; it was just some girl he planned to sleep with until I caught him. He realized he didn't have it nearly as bad as he thought he did here at home.

 

We are still together and doing great. He is an open book and is very remorseful for what he did. Sometimes, and I think this is the case with your MM, the exposure of the A is enough to make them realize what they're doing. Not in every case for sure, but it does happen. There was never any indication of cheating before that incident, and there have been no red flags since. We've been together nearly 11 years and that was the only problem we've really had.

 

I'd also like to say that As don't always happen because something is lacking in the marriage. We were having sex several times a week, spending time together, talking... Our marriage wasn't "troubled" though he tried his best to convince the OW that it was. He told her all the same crap your MM told you - he told her we never talked, didn't sleep in the same bed, he loved me but wasn't IN love with me, all that stuff. It was totally made up to make her feel sorry for him and sleep with him. He got caught up in the excitement of having someone new show interest in him, plain and simple. It was an ego thing.

 

I'm not going to call you names or insult you, but I do think you need to consider the facts. Men who cheat on their wives seem to follow a pattern. They all say the same things. Some of them may truly mean what they say, but many of them will just say whatever it takes. I would guess that this MM exaggerated the troubles in his M just as my H did. Now that the A is exposed, the fantasy world is gone and he made his choice. Some will say that staying is the easy choice, but I can't say that the past year and a half of my M has been easy.

 

I have forgiven my H for what he did. I can't say I would forgive him a second time, but for now there are no thoughts of divorce on either of our parts. We have learned from what happened and are moving on. The OW isn't a thought in either of our heads unless I read on here and post about it. It sounds harsh, but it's simply the truth - she did not matter to him. The (potential) piece of ass did. If he had honestly meant the things he said to her - and believe me, I saw enough emails and text messages to know that he fed her plenty of bull**** - he would have left me in a heartbeat. Instead, he was remorseful from day one and couldn't care less about her.

 

Please believe that you are worth more than this man is putting you through. I can imagine how hard it must be to accept that he doesn't care, but it's obvious that he doesn't. If he did, he would be there with you right now. You can find someone who loves you all the time, not just when his W isn't around.

[not_clever]

lila err dont know how to say this GET A LIFE this guy used you. If your unhappy get a divorce. You are going to end up in a locked padded cell. Get a grip

[LILA BELL]

i can read the frustration and anger in most of you ppl reply's i must say i do feel just a tiny bit better after today,i know i have to get a grip i know i have to move on the thinkg is i say that now but come monday when i enter that building my heart is going to start racing im going to get butter flies in my stomach and all my feelings are going to come right back to me.

 

i know some of you have said i should quit my job but thats easier said than done i love my job i have a very laid back job i have the greatest boss i have so many reason's to stay.

 

i do feel stupid at times i mean he called me every name in the book at work i felt horrible and even after he called me a bi**h and a s**t and among other things i walked away but i turned back and went back to him and asked him why are you treating me this way .......why couldnt i stand up for myself ?

 

i would really like to hear from someone who was a MW sleeping with a MM who are now happily together if you are please reply i really need to hear both sides .

[PLAYBRAT]

Lila..

 

I am going to try to understand you without attacking you.

 

I can see why you are upset. You have to see this guy everyday who obviously used you.He has been cruel by calling you names, but he may have felt he has NO CHOICE.You won't leave him alone after he asked you to. Do you see the position you continue to put him in? He is trying to save his Marriage now. Just because YOU decided you would rather cheat on your H ..he does not have any obligation to you. He made his choice.

 

Right now you have the choice to change. Right now you can start standing up for yourself by not allowing this mans actions to dictate YOUR choices. YOu can go to work and stay away from him. You can go to work

and walk by him. You can be cordial and professional. These are ALL

choices that only YOU have control over. If you continue doing as you have you give this person ALL the power and control in YOUR life.

 

Choose to start over NOW. It's all you can do.