MW in love with MM why is he treating me this way now??

[mopar crazy]

Mopar Crazy Why Are You Trying To Rub It In ??

 

If Anyone Got Anyone Good That Would Be Me Getting Her Good She Should Feel Stupid Im The One That Knows How Her Husbands D**k Looks I Know How Her H F**ks She Should Feel Stupid Just For The Fact That Another Woman Had Her H Goods And Knows What Shes Working With

 

So She Didnt Play Me Or Anybody Else.

 

LOL!!! Thanks for my early morning wake up laugh Lila! So, you know what his dick looks like, you know how he f#cks, and SHE should feel stupid about it? I bet if he was a good f@ck it was b/c of his W too so you can thank her for the good time you had. It doesn't surprise me that you would think this way. I'm sure there are OW he slept w/ b4 he even met his W. Do you think she thinks about them knowing what his dick looks like, how he f@ck, etc. NOPE! If she is worried about that she will get the help she needs to get over his A, if she chooses to continue w/ the M.

 

You need to get on w/ your life. Find a SG, start dating. This is NOT healthy what you are doing to yourself. From what you say and how you write you don't seem very old. PLZ don't torture yourself anymore. Even if his M doesn't survive you can't keep on living your life hoping, wishing, praying, and obsessing that he may come back to you. Stop doing this to yourself.

[justice]

justice i ahe a question for you ,you say u have hone through the same thing,why did you take your H back after the A and then leave him ? dont you think you just wasted his time when you could have just let him go when he told you of the A

 

did you only take him back so he would not be with the OW?

 

the time that you and your husband tried to work things out were you happy at all? do you think that my MM and his W will be able to work things out or will she end up leaving him in the long run ?

 

i know my judgment is clouded right now,but i am still a great mother i spend time with my kids,the times i was meeting up with MM took no tiime from my kids because i would just leave work an hour early and we did what we had to do .

 

the W issue you ppl dont know her i mean you are just coming to her rescue because she has been betrayed but it doesnt mean shes a great person like i said if shes so great he would have never cheated .

 

yes she could have been rude called me every name in the book when she called me but she didnt ,yes she know's where i work obviously and i know she can come up here anytime to confront me but she has'nt .

 

i guess im mad at her because i feel as though she lied to me she told me im FREE TO BE WITH HIM IF I WANT IF YOU MAKE MY H HAPPY AND IF HE LOVES YOU AND YOU LOVE HIM THEN IM NOT GOING TO STAND IN THE WAY OF HIS HAPPINESS. I WANT HIM TO BE HAPPY REGARDLESS OF WHAT HE HAS DONE TO ME HE IS IN MY LIFE FOR GOOD WE HAVE KIDS TOGETHER SO I WISH NO HARM ON HIM,AND AS FOR YOU I AM NOT MAD AT YOU I DONT HATE YOU BUT I HAVE TO BE HONEST ABOUT SOMETHING TAKE IT HOWEVER YOU WANT TO TAKE IT BUT I AM NOT THREATEN BY YOU..I AM NO LONGER WITH MY H SO IF YOU WANT HIM YOU CAN HAVE HIM .

 

i remember every word she told me i mean we must have talked for an hour or so we even laughed over the phone,so the day after she tells me all this MM tells me at work the very next day he doesnt want to continue the affair.

 

my thing is why would she call me and tell me all the crap if she took him back a month later thats why im angry with her i feel as though she is only with him just to try and keep him away from me like if shes trying to make me pay.

 

 

I took my ex back because I truly believed in the vows that we made together and I wanted to know that I had tried to save our marriage. However, it doesn't work that way when only one person is working on saving the relationship.

 

 

And NO, I didn't waste HIS time, I wasted MINE. He was a waste of time in the long run, because he lied and cheated and lied some more after the fact. I'm not putting up with that crap from anyone and don't need them in my life if they can't be honest with me. BTW, he didn't tell me about the affair, I figured it out on my own.

 

When we got back together, we were happy for a time, but I couldn't trust him and I knew it. Each situation is different. Yours is different. And no, I didn't take him back just to keep him from the OW, that would be infantile and immature.

 

 

Reading what you have said about your affair and your marriage really makes me both angry and saddened by the fact that you really don't seem to see what it's doing to not just you, but everyone involved. I'm not meaning this to sound mean or to snark on you or anything but....

you make yourself sound so desparate and so selfish. Your kids DO exist, your husband DOES exist. And yes, they are affected by what is going on with you whether you like it or not. Please stop acting like nothing else but your MM matters before you go to far and scar your kids beyond the point of no return.

 

I'm not just sticking up for the betrayed wife because I once was one.

I am saying there is a bigger picture involved and it seems as if you don't really give a crap about your kids or your husband or anyone except for you and your MM. Can you honestly tell me that you see their faces when you are in the sack with MM? Didn't think so. You really need to wake up and take some responsibility for your actions here.

 

Your MM doesn't want you anymore. You were a temporary diversion. Plain and simple and I'm sorry if that hurts, but you need to come back to the reality that you have created. He wants his wife, he has chosen. Now it's up to you to "man" up and leave him and his family alone, to sink or to swim. It doesn't matter what the wife does, or how she is or how much you hate her. That man is her husband. Not yours. She is his wife in the eyes of the law and in the eyes of God.

 

When you pursue him, it makes you look cheap and needy. When he rejects you, you just cling harder. He's going to end up if he hasn't already; hating you. I'm not defending him either. It was his choice to betray his family just as it was your choice when you betrayed yours. And now you end up here, asking for advice and probably not listening or liking what you are hearing.

 

On this board, all of us here, have been through this situation time and time again. We can just about tell you word for word what will happen next and when you ask for our advice we try to tell you as honestly as we can what will help you. Whether or not you listen is your choice again.

 

Your affair cannot end in anything other than more pain and hurt if you continue it and continue on the path you are on. Please leave this man and his family alone and try to help yours and heal it.

I apologize if you don't like what I've said. It's simply up to you to make the right decision this time. The outcome rides on your shoulders.

[justice]

WOW Justice, your H's OW was really unstable! If I had a classic muscle car and she damaged it I would be the one the sitting in jail for beating her ass down, HARD! That would have been the last nail in the coffin. Sorry you had to deal w/ an unstable wacko. Glad things worked out for you though. You gave it a shot and it didn't work but at least you tried.

 

I was thinking the same thing as you Justice, about LILA sounding exactly like my H's xOW. She was an unstable woman. I even told my attorney that I did not want that psycho around my children. She got drunk and tried committing suicide while pregnant w/ her now xH infant b/c he was cheating on her and she caught them (she M him anyway). If her H (then BF) wouldn't have called the ambulance she would have died right there.

She reminds me exactly of LILA only LILA seems a little more immature and that's not saying a whole lot.

 

LILA, get on w/ your life. You really need some professional help. I know you are hurting but you are out of control. If it's that hard to work w/ him find another job.

 

 

Hi Mopar!

You know I didn't have to lay one finger on her for what she did to my camaro. I did want to though. She paid both monetarily and through jail time. I like to think it gave her time to really think about her insane actions. Ends up the car was worth far more than my husband or her, at least it's still here, sitting in my garage safe and sound and he's gone and so is the OW. UGH> I just try to think of it as not lowering myself to her standards when I didn't confront and beat the living crap out of her for what she did not only to my car but to my life.

 

I hope Lila realizes that there is more to her situation than what she's seeing, my H treated his OW just like Lila's mm is treating her right now. That hurts far more than any physical blows could. If Lila doesn't stop though, she could find herself in jail just like the ow that was in my life at one time. You know, a slap of cold handcuffs might wake her up though. I just hope it doesn't progress that far.

 

I have noticed your avatar, that's sweet, even though pink isn't my color!

Nice to see another Muscle Car enthusiast!

[bentnotbroken]

I like that you said that there is a bigger picture. In our moments of selfishness and desires, we never look at the bigger picture. I wanted Mr. Messy at the expense of my self esteem and self respect. The more he put me down, the more I wanted to please him.

 

When he was in the middle of his screwfest with the ow, he couldn't see how his children, his friends, his family were losing respect for him with each lie he told and each disrespectful action. He was so consumed with the ow, he didn't even see friends and family, watching him go into hotels with her.

 

The bigger picture is I put him first, and not God. And I now know that his treatment of me and my actions kept me from many blessings and doing the things that I needed to help others. And for him, he is alone right now. Pretty depressed, wants to come home. But he didn't see he would lose everything,including himself.

[justice]

i can read the frustration and anger in most of you ppl reply's i must say i do feel just a tiny bit better after today,i know i have to get a grip i know i have to move on the thinkg is i say that now but come monday when i enter that building my heart is going to start racing im going to get butter flies in my stomach and all my feelings are going to come right back to me.

 

i know some of you have said i should quit my job but thats easier said than done i love my job i have a very laid back job i have the greatest boss i have so many reason's to stay.

 

i do feel stupid at times i mean he called me every name in the book at work i felt horrible and even after he called me a bi**h and a s**t and among other things i walked away but i turned back and went back to him and asked him why are you treating me this way .......why couldnt i stand up for myself ?

 

i would really like to hear from someone who was a MW sleeping with a MM who are now happily together if you are please reply i really need to hear both sides .

 

Lila, if you want to know what he's thinking of you right now really look at what he called you. S--t. Do you really want to keep on chasing someone who calls you and thinks of you as that? GET RID OF THAT JOB PRONTO. You are going to end up in jail and it won't be anyone's fault but your own and if and when your boss finds up do you honestly think he will let you keep your job? I don't think so. PLEASE GET A GRIP!!!!

[mopar crazy]

Hi Mopar!

You know I didn't have to lay one finger on her for what she did to my camaro. I did want to though. She paid both monetarily and through jail time. I like to think it gave her time to really think about her insane actions. Ends up the car was worth far more than my husband or her, at least it's still here, sitting in my garage safe and sound and he's gone and so is the OW. UGH> I just try to think of it as not lowering myself to her standards when I didn't confront and beat the living crap out of her for what she did not only to my car but to my life.

 

I hope Lila realizes that there is more to her situation than what she's seeing, my H treated his OW just like Lila's mm is treating her right now. That hurts far more than any physical blows could. If Lila doesn't stop though, she could find herself in jail just like the ow that was in my life at one time. You know, a slap of cold handcuffs might wake her up though. I just hope it doesn't progress that far.

 

I have noticed your avatar, that's sweet, even though pink isn't my color!

Nice to see another Muscle Car enthusiast!

Hey back justice! I know, I wanted to beat the bitch down but I had my kiddo's. It was bad enough their dad left for the OW but to have their mom in jail, nope, wasn't going to happen. Not that I didn't want to take a baseball bat to her precious new car, the thoughts crossed my mind but it wasn't worth it.

 

I also hope Lila wakes up and realizes she is nothing but yesterdays news w/ MM. He obviously does not care about her or her feelings. She really needs to move on.

 

 

Thanks for the compliment on my avi. Not my car, WISH it was. I know a guy that I use to hang out w/ in college that has/had a pink Cuda. SWEET car but he did look kind of funny driving it w/ his long very light blonde 80's hair. If only I could AFFORD one! My brother has three of them. Two he uses to drag race w/, the other is a work in progress.

[stillafool]

Mopar Crazy Why Are You Trying To Rub It In ??

 

If Anyone Got Anyone Good That Would Be Me Getting Her Good She Should Feel Stupid Im The One That Knows How Her Husbands D**k Looks I Know How Her H F**ks She Should Feel Stupid Just For The Fact That Another Woman Had Her H Goods And Knows What Shes Working With

 

So She Didnt Play Me Or Anybody Else.

 

You have got to be kidding?!! That is your claim to fame? I doubt if MM was a virgin when he married. The two of you aren't the only one's who has seen that thing. No, you hate his wife because he loves her and deep down you know it. You just wish she would have never taken him back so maybe you would still have a chance with him. She gave him the freedom to chose you and instead he calls you a b-tch and a s--t and begs her to take him back. Why isn't your anger directed at him?

 

So, since you were willing to leave your h if MM wanted you I would guess you aren't in love with him. Are you still planning on leaving your h so you can find happiness and real love?

[justice]

Hey back justice! I know, I wanted to beat the bitch down but I had my kiddo's. It was bad enough their dad left for the OW but to have their mom in jail, nope, wasn't going to happen. Not that I didn't want to take a baseball bat to her precious new car, the thoughts crossed my mind but it wasn't worth it.

 

I also hope Lila wakes up and realizes she is nothing but yesterdays news w/ MM. He obviously does not care about her or her feelings. She really needs to move on.

 

 

Thanks for the compliment on my avi. Not my car, WISH it was. I know a guy that I use to hang out w/ in college that has/had a pink Cuda. SWEET car but he did look kind of funny driving it w/ his long very light blonde 80's hair. If only I could AFFORD one! My brother has three of them. Two he uses to drag race w/, the other is a work in progress.

 

 

 

Sadly enough I don't believe she will ever come to her senses. Back in the day I had a 72 Sebring with a 442 in it. G, I miss that car.

 

 

Lila, please get help with your situation, you need more than the good people's advice here.

[LILA BELL]

ok so here is the latest, i did not come into work on monday because obviously to stay away from MM.

 

whats strange is that lately i have been taking more sick days and using up some of my vacation days just so i dont have to go to work,but why is it that once i am at work i find myself wondering where he is at looking for him ,i admit even when i am not at work i do think of him alot i have even called him a few times private just to hear his voice and hang up on him .

 

so today i am here at work and i have seen him twice today already everytime i see him i get teary eyes i wonder if he notices.

 

i know some ppl have wrote on here that i should tell my H there is no way i am going to tell him i mean this may sound bad but if i can't be in a relationship with MM than my husband is my 2nd choice why would i want to tell him and risk losing my 2nd choice.

 

i am being honest to myself and to you ppl i am telling you ppl how i really feel and what i think of my situation i know i need advice which is why i came on here and posted ,but honestly i have been reading some of you ppl's other post and you guys are trying to paint a pretty picture about your A whats the difference with my A and the others A's on here some of you ppl are actually even telling these other ppl who are having A's completly the opposite of what you guys are telling me why is that ????

[stillafool]

so today i am here at work and i have seen him twice today already everytime i see him i get teary eyes i wonder if he notices.

 

I doubt if he notices or even cares at this point.

 

i know some ppl have wrote on here that i should tell my H there is no way i am going to tell him i mean this may sound bad but if i can't be in a relationship with MM than my husband is my 2nd choice why would i want to tell him and risk losing my 2nd choice.

No you are just trying to save your a$$ so you will still have a meal ticket. He deserves so much better and I hope he gets it.

 

i am being honest to myself and to you ppl i am telling you ppl how i really feel and what i think of my situation i know i need advice which is why i came on here and posted

 

LS has poored out good advice to you but you don't want to hear the truth nor take the advice. Don't be honest to us, be honest to your h and tell him how you really feel. Tell him he is your second choice. I'm sure he can help you with your situation more than any of us here on LS.

[LILA BELL]

i have beenreading alot of other ppl's post on here the otherM/W post i dont seemany different from them on most of those post i have notice you ppl are not as hard on them as you guys are on me.

 

iminlove with the MM just as much as they are i mean you guys dont understand how hurt i am my selfesteem has dropped so much all i want to do is get his attention i thought well maybe he's not attracted to me anymore i find myself being in competition with his wife wanting to lookbetter than her.

 

during the christmas vacation i had i was off for 2 and ahalf weeks i got surgery done nothing i got breast implants nose job eye brows darken surgically and my lips outlined surgically im not going to lie i did this to try and get his attention i wanted to make myself look better for him and he still does not pay attention to me.

 

i dont understand how someone who was once so sweet to me and gave me alot of attention at work is now being so mean to me and despit everything i have done has been ignoring me so bad........

 

could i have hurt him like broken his heart in some why which is why he is so angry at me ?????

[LadyDi]

You need to step back from it all for a breather! You're locked in some obsessive/compulsive behavior pattern right now. Just try a week or better 2 weeks of no contact. Break this cycle. Maybe you can gain some perspective that way. By acting all crazy you're scaring the hell out of him! Slow your roll girl!

[LILA BELL]

oh another thing i forgot to mention MM and i are the same age both 29 we just turned 29 2 months ago his W is 32 but according to other co-workers looks like she is inher early 20's which i doubt ..

 

anyway because of our age dont u think MM and i have more in common ?

[Owl]

My only advice to you:

 

Go see a therapist. A GOOD counsellor will do you more good than anything else at this point.

[danavladeem]

Get your husband to have his penis surgically enlarged. Goto www.drwhitehead.com. Penis surgery is his main specialty. Also, you can go and get yourself enhanced down there to make it tighter. See http://www.psurg.com/DR.htm. Dr. Stubbs was the first western surgeon to bring the penis enlargement technique to the west. It was orginally developed by a Dr. Long in China for trauma patients. One of Dr. Long's patient has a portion of his penis lost in a tractor accident. Dr. Stubbs learned the technique from Dr. Long. He then taught a lot of American and Canadian doctors about the techniques. (Yes, I know the names of the doctors are funny concerning the subject matter.) (And, no, Playbrat, my hubby...I should say future hubby since we are now engaged.... is more.....let's say I am very happy with his package. And he uses it well!) Dr. Stubbs also does tightening and or trimming procedures on women. Personally, I wouldn't bother with the guy (MM). He has no financial future. Find yourself a nice Asian or Eurasian professional guy. Asians tend to have a more stable family life and have greater financial successes.

[PLAYBRAT]

Hmmmm..Dana and Lila seem eerily related. Maybe Dana is Lila's "evil

personality"....

[PLAYBRAT]

And Dana....I could care less about your "future hubby's" package. That's entirely TMI for me....

[whichwayisup]

i have beenreading alot of other ppl's post on here the otherM/W post i dont seemany different from them on most of those post i have notice you ppl are not as hard on them as you guys are on me.

 

That's because the most of OW who are posting are actually IN affairs, or on the way out of one. If any OW posted what kind of stuff you've been saying, everyone would be telling them the same thing. Also, I (hope) most would see the writing on the wall too, I mean, your MM has NO respect for you, infact the way you describe him and how he around you now makes it seem like he DESPISES you and can't get away fast enough. Most would see that as what it is - MM isn't not into me - But you keep on pushing and hoping that he wants you and will come back to you.

 

The advice EVERYONE is giving you is, FORGET the MM and move on.

[Ms. Red]

 

 

during the christmas vacation i had i was off for 2 and ahalf weeks i got surgery done nothing i got breast implants nose job eye brows darken surgically and my lips outlined surgically im not going to lie i did this to try and get his attention i wanted to make myself look better for him and he still does not pay attention to me.

 

Bullcrap! No one can recover from that kind of surgery in 2 & a half weeks. However, I have been very entertained by this fictional thread. Keep up the good work!

[LILA BELL]

first of all my lips being outlines and eye brows being darken that is simple surgery , my implants which i only went to a full b size and i got the bridge on my nose fixed ....um yes i did get my bandages taken off after 2 weeks ....am i fully recovered no i have my 2nd consultation next friday....look it up it is possible to return to work and go about my normal life after 2 and ahalf weeks

[OWoman]

You're locked in some obsessive/compulsive behavior pattern right now.

 

 

With some body dysmorphia thrown in, if the plastic surgery allegations are true.

[JamesM]

Get your husband to have his penis surgically enlarged.

 

Also, you can go and get yourself enhanced down there to make it tighter.

 

Odd advice.

 

(Yes, I know the names of the doctors are funny concerning the subject matter.)

 

Yes, are they real?

 

(And, no, Playbrat, my hubby...I should say future hubby since we are now engaged.... is more.....let's say I am very happy with his package. And he uses it well!)

 

Why of all people would Playbrat be mentioned here? Puzzling.

 

Find yourself a nice Asian or Eurasian professional guy. Asians tend to have a more stable family life and have greater financial successes.

 

This statement seems to be intended to stir up anger, IMO.

 

I am beginning to question the validity of this thread more and more.

 

But,

No one can recover from that kind of surgery in 2 & a half weeks. However, I have been very entertained by this fictional thread. Keep up the good work!

 

...this is actually not true. She could have recovered in that period of time...at least enough to go back to work. Read...

http://dr-dowden.com/faqs/implreco.html

 

Having said that, there are many things here that seem suspicious. But as usual, it is in the best interest if this community to treat every poster as real until proven otherwise.

[Breanne88]

All I can say is wow...there comes a point in time when it is simply too much. You may really love this man but you are probably scaring the s**t outta him. I mean come on, when you entered the A you knew what you were getting into. Most sane people don't enter an A without knowing the consequences and lets face it, you screw around and some day your gonna get caught, but if its worth it then its worth it. To him it was worth it when no one knew but when his wife found out he made his decision. You should have walked away then, with dignity, and more than likely he would have came back to you but crying over it, constantly calling him, is scary for him. He probably wants a secure woman now lets look at this point...

 

HIS WIFE: Very secure woman to sit there and say it's his choice to make he can have you if thats what he wants.

 

YOU: Call him alot, try to see him alot, and do stuff to get his attention.

 

Sounds like his wife won the dignity competition, you must remember he has a history with this woman and he cheated on her yes, but he made his mind up to change for her and he has obviously changed his ways by constantly refusing you. I am not trying to be rude or anything but sometimes someone has to hold a mirror up. You say that people in this thread are treating you harshly or are being rude to you but the reality of it is they have given you all of the good advice they can (if you will look at the beginning of this) and you have simply ignored it. Just leave him alone, and as far as your husband, I don't see how you can stay with him if he is so bad. You complain about his penis, wow that is low maybe its not his penis thats too small. Maybe for him it's like throwing a hotdog down a hallway. I think you need to be honest. Just remember you can lie to him and everyone else, but you can't lie to yourself!

[bentnotbroken]

i have beenreading alot of other ppl's post on here the otherM/W post i dont seemany different from them on most of those post i have notice you ppl are not as hard on them as you guys are on me.

 

iminlove with the MM just as much as they are i mean you guys dont understand how hurt i am my selfesteem has dropped so much all i want to do is get his attention i thought well maybe he's not attracted to me anymore i find myself being in competition with his wife wanting to lookbetter than her.

 

during the christmas vacation i had i was off for 2 and ahalf weeks i got surgery done nothing i got breast implants nose job eye brows darken surgically and my lips outlined surgically im not going to lie i did this to try and get his attention i wanted to make myself look better for him and he still does not pay attention to me.

 

i dont understand how someone who was once so sweet to me and gave me alot of attention at work is now being so mean to me and despit everything i have done has been ignoring me so bad........

 

could i have hurt him like broken his heart in some why which is why he is so angry at me ?????

 

 

Different advice for different people and situations. You seem to be one of the pretty obsessive, which isn't healthy for anyone involved. Plus he has said he does not want you. He told you to leave him alone and cussed you out. Where else do you see ow on here stating this?

[bentnotbroken]

Get your husband to have his penis surgically enlarged. Goto www.drwhitehead.com. Penis surgery is his main specialty. Also, you can go and get yourself enhanced down there to make it tighter. See http://www.psurg.com/DR.htm. Dr. Stubbs was the first western surgeon to bring the penis enlargement technique to the west. It was orginally developed by a Dr. Long in China for trauma patients. One of Dr. Long's patient has a portion of his penis lost in a tractor accident. Dr. Stubbs learned the technique from Dr. Long. He then taught a lot of American and Canadian doctors about the techniques. (Yes, I know the names of the doctors are funny concerning the subject matter.) (And, no, Playbrat, my hubby...I should say future hubby since we are now engaged.... is more.....let's say I am very happy with his package. And he uses it well!) Dr. Stubbs also does tightening and or trimming procedures on women. Personally, I wouldn't bother with the guy (MM). He has no financial future. Find yourself a nice Asian or Eurasian professional guy. Asians tend to have a more stable family life and have greater financial successes.

 

 

This seems like another racist stereotype.