ok well im in highschool with an 8th grade girlfreind (jealosy and trust issue)

[highschoolguy16]

well I have recently started to date a girl in a different school because of our ages and I feel uncomfortable with not being able to see her in school and i don't have my license yet but I will have it in march but its like its a long distance relationship even though were only a couple miles apart and I usually see her like twice a week and talk to her for about and hour on the phone each night but I don't know but I can't quite yet trust her yet and I feel like theres other guys flirting with her which really aggravates me but I really like this girl and I don't want to end it. What should I do?

[THE THRONE]

well I have recently started to date a girl in a different school because of our ages and I feel uncomfortable with not being able to see her in school and i don't have my license yet but I will have it in march but its like its a long distance relationship even though were only a couple miles apart and I usually see her like twice a week and talk to her for about and hour on the phone each night but I don't know but I can't quite yet trust her yet and I feel like theres other guys flirting with her which really aggravates me but I really like this girl and I don't want to end it. What should I do?

 

You should end it.

[Green]

well I have recently started to date a girl in a different school because of our ages and I feel uncomfortable with not being able to see her in school and i don't have my license yet but I will have it in march but its like its a long distance relationship even though were only a couple miles apart and I usually see her like twice a week and talk to her for about and hour on the phone each night but I don't know but I can't quite yet trust her yet and I feel like theres other guys flirting with her which really aggravates me but I really like this girl and I don't want to end it. What should I do?

 

So your a 16 yr old guy with a 13/14 yr old gf that your affraid of getting cheated on... well first off congratulations on getting a gf in HS... second off stop worying so much dude, relationships at that age could end at any time and you need to stop taking things so seriouse and just enjoy life. Things get alot better when you get older

[Kamille]

I think the trust issues you are feeling are normal, especially since I'm guessing that this is the first time you feel this way.

 

There is only one thing for it though: you will have to believe in your own strenght and also learn how to trust people (and who you can trust). It doesn't sound like she has given you any reason not to trust her. I am guessing that you are imagining a bunch of guys flriting with her because you think she is amazing and a part of you might not understand why such a great girl would stay with you when she is surrounded by a bunch of other guys.

 

Well, there is only one solution for that: realize that she does choose YOU. And that she chooses to be with you. Establish a conversation about honesty. Find out how she feels about monogamy in a relationship. Work out a compromise together of what either one of you will do if ever they are tempted by someones else.

[SeraBella]

You talk to her quite often, and see her pretty often as well. Much more than a long distance relatioship.

 

If you can't trust her now, it's going to be very hard for her to ever earn your trust.

 

You should probably end it if you really feel this way and find a girlfriend in your school that you will see constantly. If that's what you're looking for that's what will make you happy.

 

If you really don't want to end it, just try to relax. It doesn't sound like she's given you any reason to not trust her. You talk daily for long periods of time. You're still seeing her about twice a week...that's pretty good.

 

And flirting will ALWAYS happen. It's natural to flirt. But she's given you no reason to think that she's cheating because of it.

 

Just relax and take things day by day.

[Lucasarts]

Oh man, dont listen to these other posters. They don't know what they're saying. There are so many guys out there who would kill to get with your 12/13 year old middle schooler g/f. Especially those fellow 8th graders, kids nowadays. . . they know how to push a girl's buttons! Sucks you don't have a license, watch other for those guys who do (girls LOVE being driven around everywhere!) cause they'll def be using their cars to get the girl.

 

Here's what I suggest:

 

Stalk her. Watch her every move, keep track of who she talks to, and DON'T EVER LET HER OUT OF YOUR SIGHT. If you do, you might miss out on something scandalous! Don't trust her either, she's young and naive, so she doesn't know what shes talking about.

 

When you guys talk on the phone, make sure she tells you everything about her day and how it went. Constantly pressure her by asking her if she talked to any boys, and if she did, what did she say. Ask these questions b/c you can't always stalk her when you're both in class, so its good to make sure she knows that you're still watching her every move.

 

Make her feel uncomfortable and awkward around you. Make her timid and obedient. Don't let her do anything without your permission, and if she does, be creative with some form of punishment for her. This'll let her know how much you care about her.

 

(Okay, if you honestly took anything from the above seriously...you're obsessing and way too into your head about what this relationship means to you. If you're a poster that didn't think this was funny, well lighten the hell up, this is honestly a stupid topic and if you take it that seriously well...you need to get out more.)

 

Truthfully, you need to stop worrying. You're young and your going out with a girl thats not even in high school? So you honestly think some 7th or 8th grader is gonna know how to pick up your girl? She already has a boyfriend and most girls at the age like to be in that situation (its good gossip and attention getter). However, the way you are acting now, only signals trouble for this relationship and later ones if you keep acting the way you are.