Brokendreams875 Posted January 21, 2008 Share Posted January 21, 2008 Ok so i'm a little bit confused on this. My bf (of 7 months) is OVERLY jealous. To be honest he does have a right to be since 98% of my friends are male, and the 2 real girlfriends I do have HATE my boyfriend and a few of my good male friends do happen to be my ex's. Like I said, his jealousy is understandable, but he did know the situation going into the relationship and I'm working on being understanding hes working on being less jealous or being more reasonable about his reactions anyway. (ive never cheated, rarely do the who bf/gf thing since I prefer casual dating so he knows that I REALLY like him.) The problem is, he can tell me he is going to sleep over his ex's and I probably wouldn't say a word about it. He wouldnt actually do that lol but if he did Id probably still not say anything and trust him. Naturally it will spark something in me and ill be slightly annoyed since I do care about him etc and thats natural but I never over react or accuse him or get like overly mad about anything like that. He thinks because I don't get overly upset that it means I don't care about him!!! I would think he should like the fact that I trust him but he gets offended by my lack of jealousy. I tried explaining to him that It isnt a lack of jealousy, it is just that there is a high amount of trust, and I'd expect him to trust me if I went to my ex's (one of my ex's is a close family friend. his parents are like my 2nd set of parents) so why should I doubt him? He doesnt understand that im showing him the curtosy I wish hed show me! I really have no idea what to do, I DO try telling him when I feel even slightly jealous or annoyed but he says it seems fake, I really dont know what he wants from me! Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted January 21, 2008 Share Posted January 21, 2008 Maybe you don't really care? Could it be that you're not jealous or act like you're not so that he can do the same thing to you and you can do whatever you want? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 21, 2008 Share Posted January 21, 2008 so do you think he gets off on that? Link to post Share on other sites
Leia Posted January 21, 2008 Share Posted January 21, 2008 I find it very odd that she doesn't feel jealous AT all. Very odd. I see myself as someone who doesn't care but when it comes to MY guy, I would feel tiny bit jealous and I think that's natural. I wonder if it makes me abnormal if I don't feel anything? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 21, 2008 Share Posted January 21, 2008 good point, she probably doesnt get mad at all because the relationship is so unequal she's just glad to be dating him. Now he is looking for any excuse to pick a fight with her and break up. Just a Hypo... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brokendreams875 Posted January 22, 2008 Author Share Posted January 22, 2008 Wow can you be any more judgemental?? Ok first off I DO care about him I just TRUST HIM. I do as I said get like slightly annoyed if hes talking to his ex all the time but at the same time he knows if he cheats on me its over, no second chances, and I dont want to do whatever I want, Id never cheat on him or anything of the sort I just have alot of guy friends, girls can just be so bitchy and petty and I dont like dealing with the drama. and as for him looking for an excuse to break up, HE is the one who tells me he loves me even when he knows I dont feel the same yet, the one who callls me every night etc And I AM happy to be with him but Im pretty sure the relationship is equal. Im not going to defend my looks or personality here but to be honest I feel that rather then helping me with my dilemma you chose to try and insult me and tell me how I supposedly feel which I find very rude. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 please excuse me if I insulted you, as I said I was just making a hypothetical situation of which the inverse could also be true. If it were me I'd probably have a breaking point in which I made it clear to this guy I wasn't going to play this game any more and that things need to change. Link to post Share on other sites
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