Gray Posted June 20, 2003 Share Posted June 20, 2003 Well this should be a cheery post. I'm in a great relationship. The best ever. We've been together for 18 months yesterday and theres no question in my mind we're meant for each other. The problem, which isn't really a problem but, comes from the fact that she lives on a horse farm with her parents (she has a seperate house). The three of them run the farm and thats how they make a living. I'm a suburb boy, and live closer to the city. Now we've already decided to get married before we move in. Once she moves in, her responsibilities at their farm will have to drop. They'll need a farm manager who'll be there on-call to take care of any random problems. So we've got this strange catch-22 going where I'm waiting on her (and her parents) to make a move to... relieve her of some of her duties, while I think she (and they) are waiting on me to propose to make sure they should commit to these changes. Meanwhile, my parents are moving out of the area in July, and I'm sure they'd like to know whats up before our relationship turns into a permanantly long distance one. Hmm, well now that i've typed that all up I don't know what I'm looking for from you all really, but... maybe someone will have some suggestions. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 20, 2003 Share Posted June 20, 2003 There's no Catch-22 at all. By proposing to her and becoming officially engaged you will free various individuals to set into motion a series of events that will lead to the satisfactory solution to all of these problems. That is obvious from your post if you read it carefully. Was this a trick question or something like that. Do I get a prize??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gray Posted June 20, 2003 Author Share Posted June 20, 2003 Ha, no I had a point when I started but by the time I ended it was lost in ambiguity and simplicity, so umm... I guess the catch-22 is self-imposed in that... I dunno... I think I'm waiting for a sign? Like perhaps if they were looking for a manager, I'd think "welp better get to the proposing, because they're going forward on their end." And I'm a big boy, of course I don't need them to start before I do... but I dunno, it just feels like I'm waiting for a sign of somekind. But maybe the sign is how much i love her? ... i think i did it again in this post too. Link to post Share on other sites
veggie Posted June 20, 2003 Share Posted June 20, 2003 I don't think it's reasonable to expect that they will put the wheels in motion to free up your fiance-to-be absent a proposal from you. There are lots of reasons for this but the most obvious is that if you two don't plan to move in together until you are actually married and if you are planning on a "normal" engagement of several months (or longer), then it wouldn't make sense for them to start hiring someone until their daughter is formally betrothed. The ball is squarely in your court. Enjoy! Link to post Share on other sites
wideawake Posted June 24, 2003 Share Posted June 24, 2003 Word. Ask the girl already and stop beating around the bush before everyone thinks you're gun shy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gray Posted June 26, 2003 Author Share Posted June 26, 2003 Yup, I hear that I guess. Maybe I just needed someone to say to me, Hey you gotta do all the work here. Eh, I'll give ya a heads up, I started looking around for rings. And she dropped a hint the other night [kind of cute actually, her cousin {8y/o} got her a little plastic ring as a gift and she showed it to me saying, "Yeah its nice but it doesn't fit. See, try it on your finger, it needs to be juuuuust a little bigger. I guess she didn't know i was a size 7. How would she know I was a size 7." I took it as a hint, which ironically i needed because that was my next step.] Anywho, my parents are moving across the country next month, and i bought a house last quarter, so i'm working on those finances still. Hopefully soon, thanks for the buildup tho. Ha, she just im'd me, I freaked out and minimized this page for some reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gray Posted June 26, 2003 Author Share Posted June 26, 2003 Originally posted by Gray I took it as a hint, which ironically i needed because that was my next step Errr... ironic in the Alanis Morrisette way. Link to post Share on other sites
km82794 Posted June 26, 2003 Share Posted June 26, 2003 Drumroll please Da Da Da Dummmmmm PROPOSE!!!!!! Ok, Ok, Since you asked, I'll say it... Gray, you gotta do all the work here!!! Congrats by the way!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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