purplegurl Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 its been ages since i broke up with my ex....he's the only guy iv ever been with.we were together for 4 years....all through college. so i havent really indulged in random flirting, as we were realy committed to each other. anyways to get to the point....i feel im totally over him! and i really really want to be with another guy. But its just so frustratin that nothing is workin out. Most of the guys i run into are already taken! or even if i meet an amazing guy and we have awesome chemistry...something or the other just jinxes it!!! iv tried online and i seem to attract only the sleaziest kind of men. Iv joined dance classes,book clubs,photography,camping...but NOTHING!i do end up making very good pals....which is wonderful!but i need something more! im totally at odds with the situation. not to sound shallow or anything but im very attractive...my friends call me "the knockout"...lol! But even they dont help....coz of wierd past matchmaking experiences! so im really suck from all sides! wat do i doooo? additionally there is the strain of being the only single female in a group of wonderful lovey dovey couples....aaaargh sometimes i wish i could just run away! i guess i needed to vent...but any and every suggestion will be welcome. Link to post Share on other sites
ZenSilk Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Oh, this sounds familiar. Have you tried looking at what went wrong the past times you met someone? Usually when we want to find someone and keep running into the wrong person and maintain our unhealthy patterns, we're hijacking the situation ourselves. So maybe you just see the wrong and sabotage yourself... feeling attracted towards taken men can mean that you don't want to actually be available in a relationship. Just an idea, though, there can be many other irrational beliefs or excuses you might tell yourself to not like the guys who'd be right for you. Maybe expecting too much, or you want everything to happen all of a sudden. You know how people say you find the right one the moment you stop looking... I guess it's a mixture of showing your open for a relationship but not desperately wanting it. Anyway, if you find the golden rule for this, tell me Link to post Share on other sites
SYRACUSE03 Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 If you are extremely attractive, you may intimidate some insecure men. Sometimes it's hard for a man to approach awoman. Try to make yourself approachable so you do not deter potential dates. Good luck and don't worry, things will hapen. Link to post Share on other sites
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