Are my feelings normal?

[IM5150]

If you’ve been cheated on, you might not want to read this any further. I’m not asking for advise on getting out of this affair of mine. I’m reaching out to those that are currently in a A and wanting to know there feelings

 

 

I’m starting this thread to ask other that are in my same situation if they have the same feelings that I do. As some of you might know I’m the MM in the affair. It’s been going on for about 5 months now. We don’t have a very open relationship. I think she’s always in denial that she’s doing anything wrong when obviously she is. She tells me how I’m a very close friend who she cares about a lot and has feelings and attraction for and that she’s typically very close and touchy and kissy with close friends. I don’t believe that for a second. I know that we have more. We haven’t had sex but the other night after a big fight because I mentioned the word AFFIAR and she didn’t want to squeeze the facts into her head, we went further than we’ve ever gone before. No sex but very passionate kissing and other things that I won’t get into detail.

 

 

Now here’s the part where I question myself how I feel. It’s very hard for me to go 3 or more days without seeing her. I begin to get depressed. I can’t concentrate on most stuff that I do because she is constantly on my mind. I can’t clear my mind from her no matter what I do. As a matter of fact I should be working right now and instead I’m writing this. My productivity at was has declined a considerable amount.

 

 

I have the very hot OW that I’m having a great time with when I see her, shouldn’t I be feeling good? I tell her to call me last night, she didn’t, that’s ok though, she gets off of work really late, she’s a dancer (not a stripper, there’s a difference) and now my mind starts to race. Why didn’t she call, I need to hear from her now.

 

 

I guess I feel a lot of anxiety knowing that any day she might find a guy that she likes and run on with him and this little fantasy that we have will be over in a heartbeat. Knowing this just kills me inside. The fact that she’s very friendly and very attractive makes this a great possibility. The other night I told her that I would never hold her back from starting to see someone new. It’s not fair for her that I go home to someone and she doesn’t.

 

 

 

So to some it all up, I’m feeling depressed, anxious, and jealous. I think about this girl every minute of the day and it sucks.

[american-woman]

If you’ve been cheated on, you might not want to read this any further. I’m not asking for advise on getting out of this affair of mine. I’m reaching out to those that are currently in a A and wanting to know there feelings

 

 

I’m starting this thread to ask other that are in my same situation if they have the same feelings that I do. As some of you might know I’m the MM in the affair. It’s been going on for about 5 months now. We don’t have a very open relationship. I think she’s always in denial that she’s doing anything wrong when obviously she is. She tells me how I’m a very close friend who she cares about a lot and has feelings and attraction for and that she’s typically very close and touchy and kissy with close friends. I don’t believe that for a second. I know that we have more. We haven’t had sex but the other night after a big fight because I mentioned the word AFFIAR and she didn’t want to squeeze the facts into her head, we went further than we’ve ever gone before. No sex but very passionate kissing and other things that I won’t get into detail.

 

 

Now here’s the part where I question myself how I feel. It’s very hard for me to go 3 or more days without seeing her. I begin to get depressed. I can’t concentrate on most stuff that I do because she is constantly on my mind. I can’t clear my mind from her no matter what I do. As a matter of fact I should be working right now and instead I’m writing this. My productivity at was has declined a considerable amount.

 

 

I have the very hot OW that I’m having a great time with when I see her, shouldn’t I be feeling good? I tell her to call me last night, she didn’t, that’s ok though, she gets off of work really late, she’s a dancer (not a stripper, there’s a difference) and now my mind starts to race. Why didn’t she call, I need to hear from her now.

 

 

I guess I feel a lot of anxiety knowing that any day she might find a guy that she likes and run on with him and this little fantasy that we have will be over in a heartbeat. Knowing this just kills me inside. The fact that she’s very friendly and very attractive makes this a great possibility. The other night I told her that I would never hold her back from starting to see someone new. It’s not fair for her that I go home to someone and she doesn’t.

 

 

 

So to some it all up, I’m feeling depressed, anxious, and jealous. I think about this girl every minute of the day and it sucks.

 

 

 

WHAT DOES YOUR WIFE THINK OF THIS?

[IM5150]

What does she think of this? She doesn't know.

[Frances]

If you’ve been cheated on, you might not want to read this any further. I’m not asking for advise on getting out of this affair of mine. I’m reaching out to those that are currently in a A and wanting to know there feelings

 

 

I’m starting this thread to ask other that are in my same situation if they have the same feelings that I do. As some of you might know I’m the MM in the affair. It’s been going on for about 5 months now. We don’t have a very open relationship. I think she’s always in denial that she’s doing anything wrong when obviously she is. She tells me how I’m a very close friend who she cares about a lot and has feelings and attraction for and that she’s typically very close and touchy and kissy with close friends. I don’t believe that for a second. I know that we have more. We haven’t had sex but the other night after a big fight because I mentioned the word AFFIAR and she didn’t want to squeeze the facts into her head, we went further than we’ve ever gone before. No sex but very passionate kissing and other things that I won’t get into detail.

 

 

Now here’s the part where I question myself how I feel. It’s very hard for me to go 3 or more days without seeing her. I begin to get depressed. I can’t concentrate on most stuff that I do because she is constantly on my mind. I can’t clear my mind from her no matter what I do. As a matter of fact I should be working right now and instead I’m writing this. My productivity at was has declined a considerable amount.

 

 

I have the very hot OW that I’m having a great time with when I see her, shouldn’t I be feeling good? I tell her to call me last night, she didn’t, that’s ok though, she gets off of work really late, she’s a dancer (not a stripper, there’s a difference) and now my mind starts to race. Why didn’t she call, I need to hear from her now.

 

 

I guess I feel a lot of anxiety knowing that any day she might find a guy that she likes and run on with him and this little fantasy that we have will be over in a heartbeat. Knowing this just kills me inside. The fact that she’s very friendly and very attractive makes this a great possibility. The other night I told her that I would never hold her back from starting to see someone new. It’s not fair for her that I go home to someone and she doesn’t.

 

 

 

So to some it all up, I’m feeling depressed, anxious, and jealous. I think about this girl every minute of the day and it sucks.

 

 

 

You said it, it is just a fantasy world and the real world is waiting for you when you come back to it and it might be a bad landing.

 

Cop yourself on man you are a adult are you not? Better to have dreams when you are asleep. You are just a bit bored with the daily grind of life. This woman has told you she does not believe its an affair, she does not want an affair so it would be better to try and get a grip on yourself before you land yourself a barring order from this woman.

[malaclypse]

If you’ve been cheated on, you might not want to read this any further. I’m not asking for advise on getting out of this affair of mine. I’m reaching out to those that are currently in a A and wanting to know there feelings

 

 

I’m starting this thread to ask other that are in my same situation if they have the same feelings that I do. As some of you might know I’m the MM in the affair. It’s been going on for about 5 months now. We don’t have a very open relationship. I think she’s always in denial that she’s doing anything wrong when obviously she is. She tells me how I’m a very close friend who she cares about a lot and has feelings and attraction for and that she’s typically very close and touchy and kissy with close friends. I don’t believe that for a second. I know that we have more. We haven’t had sex but the other night after a big fight because I mentioned the word AFFIAR and she didn’t want to squeeze the facts into her head, we went further than we’ve ever gone before. No sex but very passionate kissing and other things that I won’t get into detail.

 

 

Now here’s the part where I question myself how I feel. It’s very hard for me to go 3 or more days without seeing her. I begin to get depressed. I can’t concentrate on most stuff that I do because she is constantly on my mind. I can’t clear my mind from her no matter what I do. As a matter of fact I should be working right now and instead I’m writing this. My productivity at was has declined a considerable amount.

 

 

I have the very hot OW that I’m having a great time with when I see her, shouldn’t I be feeling good? I tell her to call me last night, she didn’t, that’s ok though, she gets off of work really late, she’s a dancer (not a stripper, there’s a difference) and now my mind starts to race. Why didn’t she call, I need to hear from her now.

 

 

I guess I feel a lot of anxiety knowing that any day she might find a guy that she likes and run on with him and this little fantasy that we have will be over in a heartbeat. Knowing this just kills me inside. The fact that she’s very friendly and very attractive makes this a great possibility. The other night I told her that I would never hold her back from starting to see someone new. It’s not fair for her that I go home to someone and she doesn’t.

 

 

 

So to some it all up, I’m feeling depressed, anxious, and jealous. I think about this girl every minute of the day and it sucks.

 

What do you expect to hear?

 

Yes, what you feel is normal. Except for the part with 5 months and no sex...hmm. I guess it's her who doesn't want sex?

 

 

No, what you do is not ok. You should stop it and tell your wife. You won't, though.

 

 

...and yes, all the BS here will flame you, and some of the OW might flame you too, rightfully so. But that's not going to do much good, either. You seem set to continue, and maximize your personal pleasure without consideration for your M.

[IM5150]

You said it, it is just a fantasy world and the real world is waiting for you when you come back to it and it might be a bad landing.

 

Cop yourself on man you are a adult are you not? Better to have dreams when you are asleep. You are just a bit bored with the daily grind of life. This woman has told you she does not believe its an affair, she does not want an affair so it would be better to try and get a grip on yourself before you land yourself a barring order from this woman.

 

 

Yes she has told me this. She even went as far to tell me that she wanted me to repair my marriage and that she'd help me along the way. Then her crazy mind says how one day she'd even like to meet my kids and be able to give them hugs. That kinda creeped me out.

 

She wants to help my marraige out huh? So why the hel;l does she turn around and ask me to come see her? She texts me last night "Cum play with me tonight". Hmm, same person that said she wants to help me. Yeah right.

 

Sad part is, I have never been as passionate to my wife than I have with OW. Thats the biggest part missing in my marriage that i feel led me to this A. I'm a very sexual being. I've had nyphm girlfriends before I got married and enjoyed them all. My wife is too plain in that departmernt and this girl is the exact opposite.

[Mustang Sally]

Hi IM -

Here's my take.

Are your feelings normal?

Yes, I would think that they are. A new love-interest (or infatuation) causes documented and predictable brain chemical responses that can (and usually do) invoke the feelings you've described.

 

Now, is this appropriate?

You already know the answer to that.

 

It's hard to get a handle on that, though, when in the brain-chemical-fog of a new infatuation.

 

Try to get away - meaning TAKE A BREAK - from your A partner. That is probably what will be required for you to make "uncluttered" decisions regarding what you want, and how you want this scenario to play out.

 

Good luck.

[feelingtorn]

Hi, although I broke A off, I know exactly how you are feeling now.

 

During A, I checked my email and cell phone every 10 minutes. I couldn't concentrate on anything. I was suddenly acting like a kid with severe ADHD. OM had an on-and-off gf, and I felt like I couldn't tell him to be exclusive with me. Like you pointed out, I was married and felt it was unfair for me to expect him to commit 100% to our relationship.

 

Since you are not looking for the get-out-of-A advice right now, I am just going to say that I feel for you and wish you the best. I know it's a tough spot to be in. It sounds like you are very close to having PA. Since you are at the peak of A, probably nothing will change your mind, but be very careful.

[whichwayisup]

How would you feel if you didn't hear from your wife in 3 or more days?

 

Outside of the bedroom, how is your relationship with your wife? Do you have children?

 

Honestly, it sounds like you and the OW DO have a sexual connection and with that brings all the drama, intensity and alot of feelings. You even say a little fantasy...That is what it is. The OW brings out those intense crush-like feeling in you and you ARE indeed addicted to those feelings!

 

I wish you would dump the OW and focus on your wife. Atleast TRY to bring passion into your marriage, get counselling and fix things. Your poor wife doesn't deserve this, you cheating on her.

 

How would you feel if your wife was banging some other guy who gave her really hot sex?

 

You need to decide what you want and go from there..BUT, you cannot continue to lie, cheat and betray your wife. It's time to either end it with the OW completely, go no contact and fix your marriage, or divorce your wife so SHE can find someone else who won't cheat on her.

[IM5150]

Hi, although I broke A off, I know exactly how you are feeling now.

 

During A, I checked my email and cell phone every 10 minutes. I couldn't concentrate on anything. I was suddenly acting like a kid with severe ADHD. OM had an on-and-off gf, and I felt like I couldn't tell him to be exclusive with me. Like you pointed out, I was married and felt it was unfair for me to expect him to commit 100% to our relationship.

 

Since you are not looking for the get-out-of-A advice right now, I am just going to say that I feel for you and wish you the best. I know it's a tough spot to be in. It sounds like you are very close to having PA. Since you are at the peak of A, probably nothing will change your mind, but be very careful.

 

 

Yeah, I too check my cell phone all the time. I even get up in the middle of the night when I go to the bathroom and on the way there i check my phone. She typically leaves me messages in the early hours since she gets off of work around 2AM.

 

Your right about changin my mind at this point. Iv'e read many posts telling me to end it right away but they make it sound so easy. It's not. The last time i was with her (Tuesday), we reached a level of intimacy that we've never expeireinced together and now i feel like i want more. It's always more ain't it. ahhh this sucks. I hate being in this situation. I wan't to go back to my normal life again but i can't. I'm stuck here. Maybe she'll move away, find someone else. Something needs to give.

 

What is "PA"?? Im' new here and still learning these acronyms

[IM5150]

Hi IM -

Here's my take.

Are your feelings normal?

Yes, I would think that they are. A new love-interest (or infatuation) causes documented and predictable brain chemical responses that can (and usually do) invoke the feelings you've described.

 

Now, is this appropriate?

You already know the answer to that.

 

It's hard to get a handle on that, though, when in the brain-chemical-fog of a new infatuation.

 

Try to get away - meaning TAKE A BREAK - from your A partner. That is probably what will be required for you to make "uncluttered" decisions regarding what you want, and how you want this scenario to play out.

 

Good luck.

 

 

I try Sallly, believe me. I try not calling her but she always ends up calling me, and when she does, I cave. I must be dealing with some low self-esteem. I can't kick my chin up and say I'm too good for this girl. Wish I could cause that might help.

[Frances]

Yes she has told me this. She even went as far to tell me that she wanted me to repair my marriage and that she'd help me along the way. Then her crazy mind says how one day she'd even like to meet my kids and be able to give them hugs. That kinda creeped me out.

 

She wants to help my marraige out huh? So why the hel;l does she turn around and ask me to come see her? She texts me last night "Cum play with me tonight". Hmm, same person that said she wants to help me. Yeah right.

 

Sad part is, I have never been as passionate to my wife than I have with OW. Thats the biggest part missing in my marriage that i feel led me to this A. I'm a very sexual being. I've had nyphm girlfriends before I got married and enjoyed them all. My wife is too plain in that departmernt and this girl is the exact opposite.

 

She sounds scary to me, bunny boiler ring any bells for you? She most likely likes stringing you along and you are so hot for her she has no trouble doing just that. She is toying with you.

 

Why did you marry your wife if you think about her the way you do? Have you kids?

[whichwayisup]

PA=physical affair.

 

I try Sallly, believe me. I try not calling her but she always ends up calling me, and when she does, I cave. I must be dealing with some low self-esteem. I can't kick my chin up and say I'm too good for this girl. Wish I could cause that might help.

 

That's why NC (no contact) is so important (hopefully) if you DO break it off completely with the OW (other woman). Out of sight, out of mind...

 

Sure, you'll go through withdrawals, like a drug addict does when they quit doing drugs, but the longer you stay away and not talk/see/email/text with OW, you'll detach and those feelings will diseappear.

[JamesM]

PA is a physical affair. EA is an emotional affair.

 

What you are feeling is very normal. I have been infatuated even while married, and it is a similar feeling...except you have added some physical to it. It is a fantasy you live. The sad part is that when it comes to reality, the bubble will burst after awhile.

 

You know that it is damaging to your marriage, but I am guessing that what you like right now is not actually the OW but the feelings that she creates in you. She knows it...trust me. She also knows that by stringing along the fantasy, it lasts longer.

 

Do you know what her likes and dislikes are? Does she have anything in common with you? Hopefully, you know more than her name.

 

As for her being this way with friends, there probably is some truth to it. I doubt you are her first MM, nor do I think you are the only one right now. But I could be wrong.

 

Why is wanting to hug your children creepy? Women who love a man want to be part of his life, and to them, nothing is more so than the children. I remember years ago before marriage, I was with a girl who was living with a guy. She would say frequently that she would love to see the day when there was a little James running around. THAT seemed creepy to me, too, but I think that it was her way of pretending that we had a future. So, it is with this OW.

 

I can tell you that while those feelings of addiction are wonderful, they will lead to reality. And reality will be crash and burn either because she will not be close to what your fantasy is, or your wife will find out...possibly from the OW. You can eliminate those feelings by not contacting (NC) her.

 

Back out now before you get burned. Spoken from experience.

[feelingtorn]

LOL, I too checked my cellphone religiously. Even the simpliest text like miss you xoxo gave me the biggiest smile. PA means physical affair. Like I said, you are at the peak of A, so nothing will probably change your mind. Please know that anything that goes up also goes down at some point. Once the excitemeent wears off, you will start seeing her flaws and so will she. I was lucky that nobody found out about my derailing, but you may not be. Mentally prepare yourself for the worst consequence and keep reading LS. Although it did not stop me from going into PA, it helped me a lot. I was able to see myself from another perspective.

[cj1988]

You are having an EA and PA as well, just have not gone all the way as we said in HIGH school........she is new, your W is not....you are being dragged in an the OW is just playing a game. As soon as she finds another or a singlle man to take care of her, you are history. Do you actually believe IF she is as HOT as you say she is not sleeping with someone? You are not, so it has to be someone else.....she works in a bar.....trust me you are her fall back guy, she probably is doing this with a couple or more men.....I did the same thing when I was single for 5 months.....it was easy......BUT, I hurt the ones that did fall for me like you are for her and that was just wrong, it was not a game to them it was me.....

[Owl]

Aye, what you're feeling is completely normal for someone caught up in an affair. Mustang Sally summed it up perfectly.

 

What's amazing about things is just how fast those same feelings can and will fade at the end of the affair.

 

As soon as you stop getting your "fix" of OW...and go through the normal 'withdrawl' phase, typically about 30-45 days for the worst of it...you'll find your feelings or your wife will come back with a resurgence that will leave you astounded.

 

Yes, what I described about your relationship with OW is an addiction. It works exactly like one...and the way to break it is the exact same thing too. I know you don't want to break it...I'm just warning you that its something you're going to have to deal with later.

 

Hope this clears it up for you.

[jj2007]

If you haven't already, you may want to start posting in the OW/OM forum. You should get the help you need over there.

 

Asking people that have been cheated on to not read your thread is kind of silly since this is the infidelity forum and you will find a lot of people who have been cheated on here.

[american-woman]

What does she think of this? She doesn't know.

 

Well tell your wife and work on whats missing in your marriage. Your wife has a right to know.

[jj2007]

Your right about changin my mind at this point. Iv'e read many posts telling me to end it right away but they make it sound so easy. It's not.

 

It may not be easy but it is a choice and you could do it, but you don't want to. Very selfish.

 

 

I wan't to go back to my normal life again but i can't. I'm stuck here.

 

 

You can. It's called free will and you have to want to. I feel so sorry for your wife.

[JamesM]

While it is easy to say that it is easy to quit thinking about her, the actual doing is very hard. She provides the excitement in your day as no one else ever has. You may know this is a fantasy in your mind, but the feelings of desire rage as all you can think of is being with her. Every smile and word from her is a balm to your soul. She is the sunshine and the hope for your future.

 

When you look at your wife, you see the familiar friend but there is no excitement. Her face and body now have lost their luster. Her once beautiful smile and sparkling eyes seem dull. You wonder if you ever loved her at all. It seems she has never brought such excitement into your life as this new woman.

 

And that is the key word...new.

 

Fast forward a few months. You have had sex with this OW a number of times. At first, it was so wonderful. Exploring every area of her body was like the most excitement that you have every had. She made you feel like you have never felt. She responded to your touch like no one ever had. She made you feel like the manliest man.

 

But then, reality struck.

 

Soon she began revealing who she really was. Sex was no longer everything. She begins putting long term pressure on you. Suddenly you are scared...your fantasy world might come crashing in and ruin you real world. That family and wife that seemed so dull now seems safe and comforting. That wife who was boring now seems to be your greatest friend whom you cannot lose. The OW is no longer special. She is just a woman whom you would never look at twice, and you wonder what you ever saw in her.

 

And now it is too late. Your wife has found out about your affair and left. Your family is gone, and your life is ruined.

 

Thankfully none of this has happened yet. And although it is so hard to ignore the OW, your future depends on it. Read the many threads here, and discover what happens when an affair becomes old.

 

Leave now before you are a statistic.

[sarme]

Oh brooother I can't believe you had to sift through two pages of people doing EXACTLY what you asked them not to do and you have to defend your stance and talk of anything BUT what you had asked.

 

Don't worry I am only here to share my experience not to scold you so you can decide if what you are feeling is normal or not.

 

My b/f and I met while he was still married and everything single thing you described here minus the dancer part (I don't dance for a living) is exactly what my guy was going though. I was a single attractive woman who gets a lot of attention and here he was consumed with jealousy fear and anxiety every single day when he was not around me. He couldn't eat sleep or focus on work, his fear of losing me was so big that it ate away at his quality of life he was convinced I was going to be swept away. We tried breaking up several times and he would go back to his W only to find he could not focus on his marriage or her at all because all he thought about was "am I going to lose her" I miss her so much what am I doing... So he eventually left her got D and we are now happily together.

 

 

I made it very clear to him that until he could give me 100% he did not have a 100% hold on me, nor would I stop living my life for him if he was still married. I suppose that was enough to get his gears in motion to do what he had to so that he could be with me. I am condensing our experience into a few words but let me remind you it took a lot of back and forth and a process of nearly two years until we were finally together for good and properly.

 

I think it is quite common to feel what you are feeling, and here is something he would always say to me "you have a million options and will be over me in no time, I don't because I am married" He was right because I could be dating every single night if I wanted to, he couldn't.

[jmargel]

Each situation is different.. His wife, from his own words is an angel. He posted before and his wife trusted him photographing nude/bikini clad models and that lifestyle. Were you the same one who posted that? I believe I replied to it.

 

He was not in an abusive relationship, his wife was not a mean, cold-hearted witch. She is trusting, loving, giving all of the good qualities she possesses. She gave him a daughter as well to cherish.

 

You won't find pity from me, you are a grown adult. You know between right and wrong, you know the vows you made. Those vows become meaningless when you disgrace your marriage like what you are doing. This OW is a drug and this drug will take you down. She sees you as a challenge, since you are married. If you were single, I doubt she would be with you now. She wants to live in the fast lane, she wants the rush. This is what you are to her.

 

You really need to see a counselor, it's only a matter of time before your wife finds out. The only way to save this marriage is to goto counseling and tell your wife. Don't make this affair worse by having your wife find out about it first. You being honest with her now could mean the different between saving your marriage.

[sandflea]

PA is a physical affair. EA is an emotional affair.

 

What you are feeling is very normal. I have been infatuated even while married, and it is a similar feeling...except you have added some physical to it. It is a fantasy you live. The sad part is that when it comes to reality, the bubble will burst after awhile.

 

You know that it is damaging to your marriage, but I am guessing that what you like right now is not actually the OW but the feelings that she creates in you. She knows it...trust me. She also knows that by stringing along the fantasy, it lasts longer.

 

Do you know what her likes and dislikes are? Does she have anything in common with you? Hopefully, you know more than her name.

 

As for her being this way with friends, there probably is some truth to it. I doubt you are her first MM, nor do I think you are the only one right now. But I could be wrong.

 

Why is wanting to hug your children creepy? Women who love a man want to be part of his life, and to them, nothing is more so than the children. I remember years ago before marriage, I was with a girl who was living with a guy. She would say frequently that she would love to see the day when there was a little James running around. THAT seemed creepy to me, too, but I think that it was her way of pretending that we had a future. So, it is with this OW.

 

I can tell you that while those feelings of addiction are wonderful, they will lead to reality. And reality will be crash and burn either because she will not be close to what your fantasy is, or your wife will find out...possibly from the OW. You can eliminate those feelings by not contacting (NC) her.

 

Back out now before you get burned. Spoken from experience.

 

Agreed. Read this: http://psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-19930501-000027.html

 

Good luck.

 

SF

[IM5150]

How would you feel if you didn't hear from your wife in 3 or more days?

 

Outside of the bedroom, how is your relationship with your wife? Do you have children?

 

Honestly, it sounds like you and the OW DO have a sexual connection and with that brings all the drama, intensity and alot of feelings. You even say a little fantasy...That is what it is. The OW brings out those intense crush-like feeling in you and you ARE indeed addicted to those feelings!

 

I wish you would dump the OW and focus on your wife. Atleast TRY to bring passion into your marriage, get counselling and fix things. Your poor wife doesn't deserve this, you cheating on her.

 

How would you feel if your wife was banging some other guy who gave her really hot sex?

 

You need to decide what you want and go from there..BUT, you cannot continue to lie, cheat and betray your wife. It's time to either end it with the OW completely, go no contact and fix your marriage, or divorce your wife so SHE can find someone else who won't cheat on her.

 

 

Iv'e only been in a couple of situations where i haven't talked to my wife in a few days. It did not bother me.

 

Outside of the bedroom the relationship is good. It just lacks excitment. If i had the choice to go out to a bar with my friends or my wife, i would choose my friends. My wife is boring.