Person Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Alright, I don't know if this is placed in the correct forum but here it goes. This girl and I were once very in love with eachother but as of now, her feelings have wavered. Because I don't have her utmost romantic feelings, I get so paranoid and worry myself to death. She says she likes me and all but my worrying is driving her away. How can I overcome my obsessive worrying and reassure myself she won't leave me for this guy or that guy? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 How long have you two been together? See, the honeymoon phase of your relationship is probably happening and now is the time to grow together and just let things happen naturally. Enjoy your time with her...When she isn't with you, don't assume the worst! It's okay to do things apart, spend time with friends, do hobby's, and just be on your own. You don't have to spend every minute with her, let alone talk about feelings and how much you love her, she loves you. Has she given you other reasons to doubt her love? Has she told you this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Person Posted January 25, 2008 Author Share Posted January 25, 2008 Well, she has shown interests in other guys but they turned out to be infatuations. What had really put a damper in her and me, is when she sort of in a sense, "cheated" on me. It's not like we were going out officially, but that doesn't make it okay, right? It's just that after that, it made it hard to trust her and even harder to forget. Link to post Share on other sites
backspn Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 Is she with you now exclusivley? I assume you two had taken a break when she saw other guys? I have those feelings too right now, its normal. My girl told me she wanted to slow things down after being exclusive, but were still a couple and I know it. The best thing you can do is be yourself when you're with her. Be happy and carefree, be the guy she loved before. She is in the uncertainty phase of the relationship, the honeymoon phase. You guys need space from each other and if she really loves you she will respect you for it and she will come back to you with full force. If you guys go out 4-5 times a week, then see each other 2 times a week. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 Alright, I don't know if this is placed in the correct forum but here it goes. This girl and I were once very in love with eachother but as of now, her feelings have wavered. Because I don't have her utmost romantic feelings, I get so paranoid and worry myself to death. She says she likes me and all but my worrying is driving her away. How can I overcome my obsessive worrying and reassure myself she won't leave me for this guy or that guy? Hi... Trust is a very big part of any relationship. From reading your post I gather that your obsessive worrying stem's from a lack of Trust you have with her..I think perhap's you need to have a talk...a very upfront one to try and clear thing's up. IMOP an R without trust is like trying to ride a bike without peddle's. Do this make sense to you? AP:) Link to post Share on other sites
Ejames Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 Hi Whichway:) You probably don't remember me because I have n ot posted here in ages but I remember you and just wanted to say hi and that I hope you are still doing well. Link to post Share on other sites
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