thekid55 Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I have posted on here before, but there is a new twist on this story. I was with this girl for 2 years in high school. I'm 18. She's 16. We were in love, etc. I'm in college and she is in HS. She broke up with me in October because she just wants to experience HS. I was clingy for the first month, but I haven't initiated contact since December. If we talk, she contacts me. She has a new boyfriend of a month. They are opposites. She's preppy, he's punk. Thursday, I noticed she took his name out of her profile and replaced it with "I hate you". I assumed they split. I asked a friend. She said they got into a fight because he is flirting with these girls, but are together. This friend asked my ex about it. My ex assumed that I asked the friend and told me to "stay out of my life. i'm never coming back to you. go have fun with your ugly girl Jamie" (Jamie is really pretty, but not a gf). I said back to her, "I am ok with the breakup. Good luck"…She made her away message “phone with babe =)” Probably to try and make me mad. So yesterday, at a bball game. I got a pic of her in a bra on my phone from her at 6pm. Didn’t text back. A few hours later, she calls. Didn’t answer. She texts me “you said you would always be here for me, I need you, call me back”. I decide to call her back an hour later and I asked what was wrong. I figured someone died in her family since she was so urgent to speak with me. She asked if I got a picture today and that it wasn’t sent by her. Someone else got her phone at a friend’s house. Honestly, I think it’s bull. I think she felt so stupid that I didn’t respond to the pic message so she made up a story. In the past, I have asked her to sit down with me and talk and try to work things out. She never budged, but I haven’t asked her to do this in awhile, plus she a boyfriend who she comments on myspace “I love you. Thanks for laying with last night”. I think she feels like the distance of me being away (2 hours) is just too much for her. What do you think of all of this? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I'd think there was a lot of immaturity and nonsense there that isn't worth your time. You're in college, find someone you have more in common with and enjoy your life without getting dragged back into high school games. And stay off her myspace. Why do you need to know what she's doing every day? You are not in No Contact if you actually are following her every move and away message. Every time you check up on her page, you are getting information that causes you to think about her and dwell on her. No contact, done properly, helps your thoughts of her fade. Link to post Share on other sites
Potatocakes Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 She is being very immature and I would bet money she's doing all this to get under your skin. She still cares about you obviously. My advice is to cut off all contact all together, she has her boyfriend to run to now if she wanted you to be there for her she'd be with you. Link to post Share on other sites
sedgwick Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 (edited) I think she sounds very young, and even immature for her age. But then, when I was 16, all I wanted to do was be by myself and write. I wasn't exactly sending anyone bra pictures. But this sounds like junior-high behavior. Any girl who calls other girls ugly is bad news. You're in COLLEGE! Go find a hot, mature, brainy 18-year-old girl who reads Faulkner, and have some steamy makeout sessions with her in the back of the library after hours, followed by in-depth discussions of literature and existential philosophy. Just sayin'. Now go read some Faulkner and Sartre so you'll be ready for her when you find her. May I recommend The Sound and The Fury for starters? Best book ever written by an American (IMHO.) Edited January 28, 2008 by sedgwick Link to post Share on other sites
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