IpAncA Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Okay so I'm curious about what other's think about this. Do you think that a person should date around before they settle down? Do you think it's a good idea to marry your first bf/gf? Btw...this goes for people who are over say 20 years old and haven't ever had a gf/bf before so keep that in mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Okay so I'm curious about what other's think about this. Do you think that a person should date around before they settle down? Do you think it's a good idea to marry your first bf/gf? Btw...this goes for people who are over say 20 years old and haven't ever had a gf/bf before so keep that in mind. I was THIS close to marrying my first, real boyfriend of many years. Sure I had "dated" before (these lasted from a week to 2 months). These weren't really "relationships", actually I'd say they were crushes. I always wondered what it was like to actually date around...to see what was out there...but b/c I was in an LTR, my entire family knew about it, and it was assumed we'd get married, I didn't really bother. I regret not ending that relationship sooner... It was like a noose closing in on my neck over time. Now, I'm in my 2nd official relationship (with a guy I "dated" years ago...back then it was a two month relationship where I saw him just ONCE). I'm back in the same position (sort of). We want to get married...we are incompatible in SOME ways and I'm trying to work it out. Honestly, if I were younger and didn't have certain cultural pressures on me (and certain pressures I put on myself), I might consider dating around before thinking about marriage... Dating another person (after my LTR) has been a real eye-opener. I've learned a great deal about myself and thank God that I ended my previous relationship. Our M would not have been a great one...it would've been riddled with doubt and confusion... Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 My sister married her first boyfriend and has been married for 22 years...happily. If I had married my first girlfriend, it would have been a disaster. I think this is pretty much a case specific answer. Link to post Share on other sites
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