Woggle Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I am opening up a business this year and I can't take this anxiety anymore. I look at my wife and wonder what kind of resentment she has against me and I wonder what she says to her friends when I am not around. Even if she loves me now who is to say she won't turn on me later on. It seems that these days every married woman is unhappy with her husband so how is it possible that I somehow found an exception? Looking at this board and other boards is putting things in perspective so I think divorcing her before she divorces me would give me pieace of mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I am opening up a business this year and I can't take this anxiety anymore. I look at my wife and wonder what kind of resentment she has against me and I wonder what she says to her friends when I am not around. Even if she loves me now who is to say she won't turn on me later on. It seems that these days every married woman is unhappy with her husband so how is it possible that I somehow found an exception? Looking at this board and other boards is putting things in perspective so I think divorcing her before she divorces me would give me pieace of mind. Where is this anxiety coming from? What did your wife DO or SAY to make you feel this way? Have you for one second thought about how all of your doubting and worrying has affected her? She's stuck by you, no matter what you say or do... Why the heck are you planning for something that is very unlikely to happen? What happened to the marriage vows you took? You are such a hypocrite! Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 Woggs, I know several very happily married couples. No cheating, no bashing. Mutual respect for each other and a strong bond that has been forged together over time. It happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted January 29, 2008 Author Share Posted January 29, 2008 She is a woman and it seems no woman is happy in her marriage these days. I meant my vows but she won't mean her when she walks out on me. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 Woggle, quit being such a pus$y about it. You are openiong a business up. Just think how much of a risk that is. A marriage is a risk as well, so what is the difference? If your business fails, you lose alot of money. If your marriage fails, you get your heartbroken, but that is only temporary. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 She is a woman and it seems no woman is happy in her marriage these days. I meant my vows but she won't mean her when she walks out on me. According to you, she is in a league of her own. Why are you comparing her to the others? Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 She is a woman and it seems no woman is happy in her marriage these days. I meant my vows but she won't mean her when she walks out on me. NO woman huh? I assure you, there are MANY women who are perfectly happy in their marriages. As unders said, it does happen. You obviously have no respect for your wife. You think on her behalf and have convinced yourself she is no better than the scumbag women who cheat and lie to their husbands. Your poor wife. I really feel for her. She can do no right, can she? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted January 29, 2008 Author Share Posted January 29, 2008 Woggle, quit being such a pus$y about it. You are openiong a business up. Just think how much of a risk that is. A marriage is a risk as well, so what is the difference? If your business fails, you lose alot of money. If your marriage fails, you get your heartbroken, but that is only temporary. Running a sucessful business is bases on business savvy, hardwork and skill while having a successful is based on god knows what and is impossible with modern women. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 Running a sucessful business is bases on business savvy, hardwork and skill while having a successful is based on god knows what and is impossible with modern women. My point is that you are taking a risk on opening a business. Aren't you worried that the business will fail? Marriage is taking a risk as well. You are never satisfied with anything. You have a great gal and you find every reason to think that she is evil. I hope that she stumbles across this board and see's how you truly feel about her. You go ahead and divorce her and then come back on and tell us how evil she is as well as the rest of the gender, while deep down you are kicking yourself in the as$ because you know that divorcing her will be the biggest mistake you have ever made. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I am opening up a business this year and I can't take this anxiety anymore. I look at my wife and wonder what kind of resentment she has against me and I wonder what she says to her friends when I am not around. Even if she loves me now who is to say she won't turn on me later on. It seems that these days every married woman is unhappy with her husband so how is it possible that I somehow found an exception? Looking at this board and other boards is putting things in perspective so I think divorcing her before she divorces me would give me pieace of mind. Didn't you just get married wog? Why are you wanting to leave things right now. Your letting your insecurities get in the way! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted January 29, 2008 Author Share Posted January 29, 2008 I got married in the summer of 2006 and every day since then I have been dreading the day when I get home and find her in bed with another man or I get home and she wants a divorce. I can't take this anxiety anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I got married in the summer of 2006 and every day since then I have been dreading the day when I get home and find her in bed with another man or I get home and she wants a divorce. I can't take this anxiety anymore. If divorcing her will help rid your anxiety and stress, then do what you have to do. She desrves a guy who will truly love her and appreciate her, but don't you dare come on here and exclaim that she screwed you over. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I am opening up a business this year and I can't take this anxiety anymore. I look at my wife and wonder what kind of resentment she has against me and I wonder what she says to her friends when I am not around. Even if she loves me now who is to say she won't turn on me later on. It seems that these days every married woman is unhappy with her husband so how is it possible that I somehow found an exception? Looking at this board and other boards is putting things in perspective so I think divorcing her before she divorces me would give me pieace of mind. ........................ Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 Woggle, pleas,please tell me it wasn't my thread that started you thinking this way!! It's silly. There are plenty of good marriages out there. Yours, I thought , was one of them. Why for heaven's sake would you want to ruin that? You know, something? If you are so easily swayed by other peoples' opinions, then, maybe your wife was right about your friend after all. I got married in the summer of 2006 and every day since then I have been dreading the day when I get home and find her in bed with another man or I get home and she wants a divorce. I can't take this anxiety anymore. Methinks your thinking is a bit self-destructive. It's like saying I am not going to leave the house EVER because I am afraid I am going to be hit by a car!!! Silly! Stop thinking so negatively. Enjoy your wife! Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I got married in the summer of 2006 and every day since then I have been dreading the day when I get home and find her in bed with another man or I get home and she wants a divorce. I can't take this anxiety anymore. Have you sought professional help for this anxiety? And is your wife aware of what's going on in your head? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted January 29, 2008 Author Share Posted January 29, 2008 Not just that thread but reading some threads on another forum as well. It is a buildup of things that has convinced me that all women eventually end up resenting their husbands and why should I even try anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 Not just that thread but reading some threads on another forum as well. It is a buildup of things that has convinced me that all women eventually end up resenting their husbands and why should I even try anymore. Awww man suck it up and get over your past, yeah you've been hurt before. So have I but I'm not whining about it. I learn from it, and make moves on my future. You just got married!!!! Your wife signed a prenup correct. So what the hell is the problem? Are you depressed or what? Wog snap out of it!!! She loves you, but your attitude and demeanor isnt helping things stay fresh!!! WAKE UP!!! I like you wog and this woman has been the best thing for you, she'll be with you through thick and thin, not many faithful women sign a prenup!!! Remember that? So get through your insecurities and live!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted January 29, 2008 Author Share Posted January 29, 2008 She did stick by me after my ex shot at her so that has to count for something. It would help if I knew some other happy couples but being around so much misery makes me want to run before it happens to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 She did stick by me after my ex shot at her so that has to count for something. It would help if I knew some other happy couples but being around so much misery makes me want to run before it happens to me. Going to that other website and being on here so much isn't going to help you with that. You and her should go out more often and make friends with other couples and then you'll see that its not so bad. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 She did stick by me after my ex shot at her so that has to count for something. It would help if I knew some other happy couples but being around so much misery makes me want to run before it happens to me. Maybe you two need to move. Go somewhere where there are happy couples. Just because all your friends are in sad marriages, does NOT mean that is the status quo. My parents have been married eons and they are still happy. Sure they fight and have gone through their share of drama...but they still love each other and will stay together for life. A happy marriage is possible Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I advise you to read Nemos response on the other thread. Post 2683. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted January 29, 2008 Author Share Posted January 29, 2008 I do apologize for going back and forth on this topic so much but this forum is such a good sounding board and it is better venting to people I have never met in person rather than letting my friends know just how screwed up I really am. I appear to be a very functional and together person to people off line and I want to keep it that way. If I didn't care about her and love her I wouldn't worry so much about losing her. I could just enjoy the ride and when it ends it is over but this relationship is much deeper than that. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I do apologize for going back and forth on this topic so much but this forum is such a good sounding board and it is better venting to people I have never met in person rather than letting my friends know just how screwed up I really am. I appear to be a very functional and together person to people off line and I want to keep it that way. If I didn't care about her and love her I wouldn't worry so much about losing her. I could just enjoy the ride and when it ends it is over but this relationship is much deeper than that. and you always claimed to be real to everyone. The truth comes out. You obviously can't except having her and having a happy marriage, so divorce her then. Link to post Share on other sites
Ocean-Blue Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I do apologize for going back and forth on this topic so much but this forum is such a good sounding board and it is better venting to people I have never met in person rather than letting my friends know just how screwed up I really am. I appear to be a very functional and together person to people off line and I want to keep it that way. If I didn't care about her and love her I wouldn't worry so much about losing her. I could just enjoy the ride and when it ends it is over but this relationship is much deeper than that. I'll ask again, have you sought professional help with this anxiety? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted January 29, 2008 Author Share Posted January 29, 2008 I have and it is somewhat working but obviously I have relapses as evidenced by this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
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